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BitYakin -> RE: TRUST (5/22/2013 5:07:02 PM)
there is no BIGGER picture here. geeez sorry I even asked mannn it was a simple question about the sanctity of PRIVATE MAILS then everyone seemed to feel it was about everything BUT that! soo saying CHIC was RUDE but saying DUDE was OK tell me how is one more RUDE than the OTHER?

OsideGirl -> RE: TRUST (5/22/2013 5:08:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BitYakin but I can tell you this his MOTIVE was clear... No, you can't. You don't know if this is a butt hurt guy who is just trying to torment an ex that did nothing more than break up with him. You don't know if this woman burned him and he's trying to do you a good deed. You don't know if he's some random guy who just decided to fuck with you. You don't know if they're both the same person and it's all a game. That's where the whole "you don't know her" comes in. After all, Manti Te'o was positive his girlfriend was real.

BitYakin -> RE: TRUST (5/22/2013 5:10:59 PM)
well maybe you wouldn't be able to tell his motive, but then you didn't read his whole mail. and again still has NOTHING to do with the actual question... sorry I even asked!

MasterCaneman -> RE: TRUST (5/22/2013 5:13:56 PM)
Just tossing this out, have you considered that it may be the woman herself sending you those emails just to gauge your reaction?

BitYakin -> RE: TRUST (5/22/2013 5:17:41 PM)
noooo I hadn't considered that because it has NOTHING to do with what I was ASKING ABOUT geeeezzzzzz

littlewonder -> RE: TRUST (5/22/2013 5:22:12 PM)
How did this person even know you were talking to this woman? Do you advertise on your profile, everyone you speak to?? If so, stop it! As for the other person sending you all that shit....I would roll my eyes and think "lame" and ignore them and then I would not speak to the woman anymore either. I would get the vibe that she is messed up in a lot of drama and I abhor drama.

LafayetteLady -> RE: TRUST (5/22/2013 5:22:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BitYakin as for the consideration thing, I personally think its a curtosy thing, does it stop the dweebs and twits from mailing you women NOOOO but it does let the serious people know that the woman is speaking with someone in a serious way it lets the serious people know, that if they are going to mail her anyway they shouldn't be surprized is they are turned down and that they are intentionally stepping on someones toes it also lets anyone she was talking to know that she has made a decision And yet, YOUR profile mentions absolutely NOTHING about you "seriously" talking with her. So obviously you don't think she deserves the same courtesy. We aren't making "assumptions" on anything. We are posting our opinions about the whole picture you have painted. Just so you know, whining like a little kid saying, "you guys are so mean," is REALLY unattractive and makes you look like a flake.

girlandherDaddy -> RE: TRUST (5/22/2013 5:23:48 PM)
She was not being condesending, she was telling you to get a grip in a non challenging way... You however came back in caps which every first grader knows is intenet yelling. You chose to ask for opinions, we chose to answer. You can now choose to accept them for what they are, brutally honest opinions, or disregard them.

ARIES83 -> RE: TRUST (5/22/2013 5:24:23 PM)
Err, everything else aside. quote: ...am I the only one who thinks this person shows an UNTRUSTOWRTHY trait by offering to show PRIVATE MAILS and PRIVATE IMS to a COMPLETE STRANGER? I think considering that it is an internet drama should be an important factor.... But on the basic idea: Yes I believe someone showing supposed private correspondence to a stranger isn't appropriate. I am big on loyalty and confidence in a relationship, what I say, I say for my partner not all her friends and family, but I also try above all else to not say anything behind someones back that I wouldn't say to their face... So i don't know... Theres a loyalty factor at play primarily regardless of the content. But there are exceptions... I mean, girls gotta gossip right? That can be done whilst maintaining confidence though.

angelikaJ -> RE: TRUST (5/22/2013 5:27:44 PM)
Let me try and answer the question that you asked. Do I think a person is untrustworthy because he was willing to share his private correspondence to you who is a complete stranger? Yes.

littlewonder -> RE: TRUST (5/22/2013 5:28:04 PM)
Dude, all the stuff brought up here has EVERYTHING to do with the question you asked. But hey, I say have a threesome with them all! You all seem to be perfect for each other.

BitYakin -> RE: TRUST (5/22/2013 5:41:43 PM)
LL maybe you don't realize this, but most MEN here don't have oddles and oodles of women writing them trying to hook up with em soo noo I didn't mention her in my profile I had my reasons for wanting her to post this in her profile, which have AGAIN nothing to do with the question I asked. and if she would have liked me to post I would have gladly, but I thought MAYBEEEE like so many have pointed out before I did it would be good to have a face to face meeting behind us to be sure she IS REAL before I make a public announcment... and so far for the most part people her HAVE BEEN just PLAIN MEAN, call me anythng you like doesn't change that FACT it was a simple question about a simple issue, and everyone tried to turn it into some kinda SOAP OPERA thing! and yes SOME assumptions WERE made, that I needed people here to make up my mind FOR ME about wether what I was asking about was wrong amomg others and to whoever it was that said I was rude but the other gal wasn't BS, 90% of her post was condesening at BEST and where I come from thats RUDE!

BitYakin -> RE: TRUST (5/22/2013 5:45:09 PM)
angelikaj THANK YOU! that was the ONLY real question. maybe EVERY THING EVERYONE else was say is 100% true, but none of all that has ANYTHING to do with the question. I only gave a BRIEF background so people would have a lil CONTEXT to go with the question.

searching4mysir -> RE: TRUST (5/22/2013 5:46:25 PM)
quote: it was a simple question about a simple issue, and everyone tried to turn it into some kinda SOAP OPERA thing! Dude, the whole thing SCREAMS soap opera. We didn't turn it into one, it already is one. Simple issue: is it right to share private emails. Personally, I say "it depends". But then, I'm not under the delusion that anything done over the internet is "private".

JstAnotherSub -> RE: TRUST (5/22/2013 5:49:28 PM)
quote: You don't know if she is real. You don't know if he is real. They could both be one person even! I read that shit happens on the interwebs.

SoftNMellow54 -> RE: TRUST (5/22/2013 5:52:24 PM)
Well, aside from all the flaming, here are some simple things to consider: 1) What a person writes belongs to the person. You have no right to pass on to anyone else my private mails to you, UNLESS I gave you permission. That's the law, and I think it is very reasonable, although not easy to enforce at a private level. With private e-mail or chatting, I am not giving the receiver permission to publish my writings. but when I post in a forum like this, I am. Big difference. 2) If you want to judge anything, you should hear the case from BOTH sides before you formulate any opinion. If you can't get the other side of the story, then you should dismiss what you have from the one side as "hearsay" and nothing more. After all, the whole thing could be constructed... Since you have nothing in support of either of the above, you have no business to transact here, other than shrugging your shoulders and possibly confront your "source" with the fact of him breaking copyright laws.... That's really all there is to it. If your ethical standards can handle it, that's also all you want to do. if you want to do anything else, then your ethical standards are clearly different from what I can respect, and in such case, you do not need anyone else's opinions to support your action.

BitYakin -> RE: TRUST (5/22/2013 5:54:13 PM)
of course, every single scenerio is POSSIBLE she's not real he's not real I amnot real etc etc etc but the question was what do people think about someone who would just out of the blue offer to share someone elses PRIBATE MAILS of course there is ALOT more to the story, but those DETIALS had nothing to do with the actual question! why does everyone have to SPECULATE about the IF's AND's or BUT's of this and ignore the question talk about DRAMA geeezzzz

Rasciallymisty -> RE: TRUST (5/22/2013 5:56:15 PM)
Geezeeeeee all you MEANIES.....[sm=rofl.gif] don't make the poor man cry. [:D] Okay to answer your question...hell yes its wrong for anyone to share private messages they have received....does that make you feel better now???? You come to an adult site asked peoples opinions then stomp your feet and throw a temper tantrum because you do not like their opinions. Why ask a question if you aren't going to want to hear the answers?? Grow a thick skin and put on some big boy panties and come on back and join in on some discussions. The people here really do have a clue of what they are talking about.

OsideGirl -> RE: TRUST (5/22/2013 5:57:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BitYakin why does everyone have to SPECULATE about the IF's AND's or BUT's of this and ignore the question Because unlike you, we realize that worrying about the ethics of a stranger willing to share private emails is about 15th down the list of things that you should be worried about in this whole situation.

BitYakin -> RE: TRUST (5/22/2013 5:58:45 PM)
SNM54 Iam not sure about the legal aspect of what you said, I was only thinking along the lines of ethics but yeah essatially what you say is how I see it too I just wanted to hear other peoples opinion on that aspect of it is all not get caught up in whole WHO IS REAL and blah blah blah!

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