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ORIGINAL: Charles6682
I have been in a good number of Fem-Dom videos before.So,I know my face is out there.Its not usually something I just mention to my neighbors or friends unless someone brings it up or I feel they won't freak out..Many peopled don't care.

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The only person that ever makes a big deal about my fetish life is my brother.Its not because he has ethics and cares about my well being.Rather,because he a very intolerable person.He likes to make fun of people and argue a lot.He has done this to many people over the years for any kind of reasons.Thus he's burned a lot of bridges along the path of "friendship".However,its not that easy for me because he is,after all,my brother.Although personality wise,if he wasn't my brother,I would never have anything to do with someone like that otherwise.

My question is how do I deal with this?

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The only person that ever makes a big deal about my fetish life is my brother.Its not because he has ethics and cares about my well being.Rather,because he a very intolerable person.He likes to make fun of people and argue a lot.He has done this to many people over the years for any kind of reasons.

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ORIGINAL: BitaTruble

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Wow.. I went to a totally different place. Dude, your brother threatened your mom and you want advice on how to make nice-nice?

Kick his ass. One good ass-kicking and he'll leave you the fuck alone and won't be threatening your mom any more.

Or, I suppose you could go the group intervention route. If the whole family is aware of his behavior (he threatened your mom and did everyone just tolerate that???), then unite and sit his ass down and lay it on the line.

Good luck to you and to your family dealing with this Charles.

I still think you should kick his ass though. No body should be threatening your mom.

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ORIGINAL: chatterbox24

You could do what I did once. I was always trying to keep the peace, listening to nonsense from my brother, stating his opinion, sarcastic condescending remarks at all family gathers. He didn't know when to stop, but before I let myself go into explosion mode I would think for years " Its not worth it, don't ruin the holiday, think of mom"

Well one thanksgiving I had enough. He made fun of everything I would say about helping someone, insulting the individual etc. I finally had had enough! IT did cross my mind thinking I was going to ruin the holiday, but mine had been ruined every year from my silence. SO I had a fit! I threw the utensil into the mashed potatoes, slammed my plate against the table with each word I spoke. Stood up, and as I did the chair went flying and I flounced off into the garage. He and his family left, my mother said she thought it was best. YES I DID RUIN THANKSGIVING, and things were not great for awhile. All that is in the past now, and we have family gatherings but one thing has changed. There is no more insults at the dinner table. I actually enjoy holidays now.

My sister used to come in from out of state and during her visit would start doing that to me. Funny how family will try to shove responsibility for ruining a holiday onto their victim, as an emotional blackmail for them not to retaliate in kind. One year I just looked at my mom and sister after my sis had verbally disemboweled me and mom had jumped in with that "Let's not ruin the holiday" and I just stopped walking with them from the car to the mall and said that the holiday visit is ALREADY ruined, for ME; but by all means let Cathy continue to have a great time. We took separate vehicles after that.

These people...are who they are and we cannot reason with them or try to educate them; they feel justified and "holier than thou", and their emotional sadism needs a target.

My nice side says to ignore him (like he's not even there in the room). My self-protective side says to make this a hard limit, and let everyone know in advance that if he starts in on you and the host/hostess doesn't call him out on it and/or make him leave that you will get up and leave.

From my dark side I'll add... Hire a detective to dig up some dirt on him. Barring that, go out of your way to remember everything that ever happened to him in school or whatever that he would find humiliating. Get info from friends and family, if there's not enough good stuff then make some of it up, things he wouldn't know for sure about. And then when he is having fun at your expense, rest your chin on your elbow and stare at him, smiling bigger and bigger the more he takes center stage. Then start laughing. When others ask what's funny, say "I'm sorry, but whenever he acts like a complete jerk I lighten the mood by remembering that time when..." (and drag something humiliating out of his closet. Make him afraid of trying to publicly humiliate you.)

If he had some one night stand or fling with someone in high school or college...who gave him crabs or the clap...yep, you knew the people who talked her into sleeping with him while she was still infected and you guys laughed your asses off about it...and took bets on how long it would take for him to feel some discomfort. That time you guys went to the movie theater and he snitched your popcorn...you and your girlfriend were laughing hysterically about it later on because...you had cut a hole in the bottom and had inserted your dick, and those times when your girlfriend was reaching for popcorn, she was really wanking you off. That butter stuff in the popcorn...wasn't all butter...

Those movies you made...are just proof that you had all kinds of wild kinky sex with many lovely women. Tell him to stop watching your old porn movies, that it makes you uncomfortable and squicks you out.

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ORIGINAL: CynthiaWVirginia

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ORIGINAL: chatterbox24

You could do what I did once. I was always trying to keep the peace, listening to nonsense from my brother, stating his opinion, sarcastic condescending remarks at all family gathers. He didn't know when to stop, but before I let myself go into explosion mode I would think for years " Its not worth it, don't ruin the holiday, think of mom"

Well one thanksgiving I had enough. He made fun of everything I would say about helping someone, insulting the individual etc. I finally had had enough! IT did cross my mind thinking I was going to ruin the holiday, but mine had been ruined every year from my silence. SO I had a fit! I threw the utensil into the mashed potatoes, slammed my plate against the table with each word I spoke. Stood up, and as I did the chair went flying and I flounced off into the garage. He and his family left, my mother said she thought it was best. YES I DID RUIN THANKSGIVING, and things were not great for awhile. All that is in the past now, and we have family gatherings but one thing has changed. There is no more insults at the dinner table. I actually enjoy holidays now.

My sister used to come in from out of state and during her visit would start doing that to me. Funny how family will try to shove responsibility for ruining a holiday onto their victim, as an emotional blackmail for them not to retaliate in kind. One year I just looked at my mom and sister after my sis had verbally disemboweled me and mom had jumped in with that "Let's not ruin the holiday" and I just stopped walking with them from the car to the mall and said that the holiday visit is ALREADY ruined, for ME; but by all means let Cathy continue to have a great time. We took separate vehicles after that.

These people...are who they are and we cannot reason with them or try to educate them; they feel justified and "holier than thou", and their emotional sadism needs a target.

My nice side says to ignore him (like he's not even there in the room). My self-protective side says to make this a hard limit, and let everyone know in advance that if he starts in on you and the host/hostess doesn't call him out on it and/or make him leave that you will get up and leave.

From my dark side I'll add... Hire a detective to dig up some dirt on him. Barring that, go out of your way to remember everything that ever happened to him in school or whatever that he would find humiliating. Get info from friends and family, if there's not enough good stuff then make some of it up, things he wouldn't know for sure about. And then when he is having fun at your expense, rest your chin on your elbow and stare at him, smiling bigger and bigger the more he takes center stage. Then start laughing. When others ask what's funny, say "I'm sorry, but whenever he acts like a complete jerk I lighten the mood by remembering that time when..." (and drag something humiliating out of his closet. Make him afraid of trying to publicly humiliate you.)

If he had some one night stand or fling with someone in high school or college...who gave him crabs or the clap...yep, you knew the people who talked her into sleeping with him while she was still infected and you guys laughed your asses off about it...and took bets on how long it would take for him to feel some discomfort. That time you guys went to the movie theater and he snitched your popcorn...you and your girlfriend were laughing hysterically about it later on because...you had cut a hole in the bottom and had inserted your dick, and those times when your girlfriend was reaching for popcorn, she was really wanking you off. That butter stuff in the popcorn...wasn't all butter...

Those movies you made...are just proof that you had all kinds of wild kinky sex with many lovely women. Tell him to stop watching your old porn movies, that it makes you uncomfortable and squicks you out.