UllrsIshtar
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ORIGINAL: crazyml I think you do have a point, I think a person should be entitled to ask not to be prayed for, and provided that they do it in a sensitive way entitled not to be called rude for doing so. That said, I would find it hard to regard someone going ahead and praying for me to be rude, even if I've asked them not to. It would seem a little churlish to be irritated by someone's genuine desire to see good happen to me. It does, rather, depend on what it is they're praying for. If they're praying to god to enlighten me to the "truth" that homosexuality is evil and women are property then - they can fuck right off, but on the whole if I ever become aware that someone of faith is praying for me, it gives me quite a boost. Which is interesting of course, because that boost might be the one thing that gets me over whatever it is. So, much as my atheist teeth might grind, prayer can work... My issue is mainly with the lack of presumed choice and privacy. What they do in private, and in their own head, is their own business. If they want to ignore my request and pray anyways, there nothing I can really do about that, and I don't really care. The fact that they do it against my wishes is for them to deal with, not me. However, when I ask not to be shoved in the face with somebody else's religion, and they persist and continue to do it anyways, they're being rude. A one time offer of "I will pray for you" with afterwards me pointing out that I rather they not, I don't really find offensive, any more than I find a guy trying to hand me an advertisement paper on the street offensive. However, when my request to not be prayed for is met by a "Oh you haven't found Christ yet, I'll redouble my efforts in prayer for you so that you may find the light" or a "you're rude to tell me not to force my believes on you by asking me not to pray for you!" I do take offense (and I've had both reactions and a bunch of others only happen in the US, nowhere else in the world that I've been do people take it for granted that I need to accept people continued references to their religion in relation to something that involves me in a very personal way). It's not so much the praying itself that I find offensive. It's the inconsideration shown to my own views by presuming that you can just include me in the expression of your own religion without my consent that I find rude. Because, at that point, it goes from a well meaning statement that is perhaps just a tad inconsiderate, to a full blown "I will force my views on you whether you want it or not!". Insisting you will pray for somebody who has asked you not to do so is the religious equivalent of the guy handing out adds on the street chasing you down and forcing you to take one after you politely declined. I'm entitled to say I don't want to be slapped around the head with somebody else's religious views, and if they can't deal with that, by from then on keeping their views private, I do very much consider them to be completely rude and inconsiderate people.
< Message edited by UllrsIshtar -- 5/31/2013 12:08:39 PM >
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