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RE: idle pondering - 5/27/2013 9:50:35 PM   
Greta75


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I would never have phone sex or cam sex ever, or put myself naked on cam ever with the other, as..., I think that's setting up yourself for possible blackmail, if that person kept screenshots or phone recordings of you doing that. Seems very dangerous to me.

Always prefer real touch, the real thing.

How fast this happens depends on chemistry and how safe and secure with him the dom makes me feel.

I got to admit I slept with my x-dom within 48 hours of chatting with him online but that became a live in relationship for 2 years. And nope, no coffee, straight to sex.

But until now, I haven't met anybody who made me feel as safe as he did. Like giving me his home address, showing me his identity card, passports, his company name card, he said it's important I know where lives, where he works, so I know his not afraid of anything because his not gonna do anything non-consensual or anything I don't want anyway. And how he keeps reminding me throughout before and after play, very firmly that I MUST say my safe words when I feel unsafe, as safe words are there to keep me safe. He also reminds me that if I say no, it would excite him more and make him do more, he will not stop.

So..., yea, a full long scene with whipping, bondage, gags, candle wax the first time with him, when you feel safe and filled with trust, everything is awesome.

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RE: idle pondering - 5/28/2013 7:52:00 AM   
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I totally agree.
Even though the risks may be different there are still some real risks to playing via the phone or webcam. In many ways I think MORE risk because there are factors that you can't control.

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RE: idle pondering - 5/28/2013 10:44:13 AM   
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RE: idle pondering - 5/28/2013 11:55:15 AM   
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RE: idle pondering - 5/28/2013 12:42:28 PM   
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And we scared her off, she's pulled her profile.


Not really. She was in the rafters of this post a little while ago.

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RE: idle pondering - 5/28/2013 1:09:40 PM   
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As for rent, RS, this isn't how I pay my rent. I am not a whore, online nor otherwise.

Blackmail is not something that worries me. If my family can't handle what I do, it is not my problem. I don't plan on an attempt at public office, and I work for myself so there is no boss to call.

Don't allow logic to stop anyone from attacking me though, judging me regarding what type of person I must be, I wouldn't want to spoil your fun.

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RE: idle pondering - 5/28/2013 2:26:57 PM   
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judging me regarding what type of person I must be,

From my reading, you're the only person on this thread who thinks sluts are bad. I certainly don't.

Honestly, it looks to me as though you have a reading comprehension problem. I've said nothing about what kind of person you must be, and I've made no judgements about your worth as a human being. However, I'm happy to judge your reading and writing skills, which don't appear to be very good.

Tell me this, please. Why do you think you're attracting men who think you're an easy lay? Not everyone on the site is like that. I've even met women from CM who wanted to sleep with me and I told them no. It sounds to me as though you're meeting men who don't feel as though they have many options, and who try to jump at the chance when there's finally some kinky pussy near them. Why aren't you attracting men who want you to prove you're worth it before they're willing to rip your clothes off?

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RE: idle pondering - 5/28/2013 5:08:46 PM   
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Why aren't you attracting men who want you to prove you're worth it before they're willing to rip your clothes off?


Because there are far, far less of them out there, especially if they found this site via http://www.submissivewomensecrets.com/

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RE: idle pondering - 5/28/2013 5:53:01 PM   
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...but I think your answer didn't really address my question, in the final analysis. Sure, there are a lot of these guys. Why isn't she blocking and deleting them after a few emails, and spending her time with men who are more interested in her as a whole being, instead of just as a warm hole for the night? Either her man-chooser is off, or those men decide not to write in the first place.

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RE: idle pondering - 5/28/2013 6:20:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think if what you're doing is fulfilling for you and works for you, then go for it. And if you're able to find it, with conditions that are acceptable to you, then whatever anyone here says shouldn't really matter.

Since you didn't actually ask a question in your OP, that really only left your words open for others to comment on, and they did.

I can't tell you if you're a slut or not - I don't know you. But I don't see "slut" as a bad thing, either. It's just a word that got a lot of negative connotation, but I wouldn't take offense to it.

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RE: idle pondering - 5/28/2013 6:46:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		I see the OP as someone who owns her sexuality and is bemused by some of the antics of the opposite sex. Women haven't needed to "save themselves for marriage" for quite some time, although one wouldn't think that from some of the comments here.

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RE: idle pondering - 5/28/2013 6:54:31 PM   
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Why isn't she blocking and deleting them after a few emails, and spending her time with men who are more interested in her as a whole being, instead of just as a warm hole for the night?


She may very well be writing off the majority of them very quickly. I know I did.

Although I sought, and have now found, a serious relationship, that didn't mean I didn't have the occasional dalliance with someone with whom I knew there was no long term potential. Women have needs too, yanno.

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RE: idle pondering - 5/28/2013 7:20:28 PM   
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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

I see the OP as someone who owns her sexuality and is bemused by some of the antics of the opposite sex. Women haven't needed to "save themselves for marriage" for quite some time, although one wouldn't think that from some of the comments here.

Yes, the prudish and judgmental responses never fail to amuse. And, btw, if you can't tell ANY difference between camming and "fucking on the first date" (or fucking on any date), you're doing it wrong, sweetie

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RE: idle pondering - 5/29/2013 10:13:19 AM   
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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

And we scared her off, she's pulled her profile.



Moi??
Scare someone?
Never!!!

I am the nice one.

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