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Is it just me or is there a huge influx of people who w... - 5/28/2013 1:04:18 PM   
ThePrincessKali


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Status: offline 		I feel like as of late, the past few months, I've been bombarded by messages from guys who list themselves as "dominant," which is strange because I'm a fin domme. So I wouldn't be interested in another dominant. I think most of these guys see it as kink=easy sex. Especially because their message don't seem to acknowledge the fact that I'm a domme. And usually go something like, "hey girl! you wanna hang out some time?" I'm not quite sure why there is such a rise in this all of a sudden. When I message them responding I'm a Domme and have no interest in another Dom or that they should read up on the message boards I usually get told I'm being a bitch. Anyone else been having similar experiences lately? And why all of a sudden?
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RE: Is it just me or is there a huge influx of people w... - 5/28/2013 1:18:16 PM   
DaddySatyr


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Status: offline 		There have been examples of two dominants having fairly successful relationships so, maybe they just wanted to go for a cup of coffee?

I have been "accused" of what the title of the thread seemed to indicate to me. I am not a sadist and therefore, do not engage in anything near pain play.

Having said that, I have lots of "kinks" that 'nilla people wouldn't understand. I won't go into them, here. So, it could also be that these guys that are messaging are just into different things than you are and are just trying to reach out for that friendly cup of coffee.

None of that excuses the assholic behavior of them, calling you "bitch", when you turn them down unless your responses are "bitchy". It's kind of tough to tell but why not just block-delete-forget?



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RE: Is it just me or is there a huge influx of people w... - 5/28/2013 1:23:28 PM   
Rasciallymisty


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Status: offline 		I have had a lot of sub's of both sex wanting me to Dom them....when I tell them I am just a sub also...they want to know why I will not switch. I just laugh and if they will not leave me alone I just block them. It works.


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RE: Is it just me or is there a huge influx of people w... - 5/28/2013 1:28:02 PM   
OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: ThePrincessKali
And why all of a sudden?


It's not all of a sudden. It's been going on since the internet became a fixture in almost every home.

For almost 20 years, I've gotten emails and IMs from guys whose penis has clearly done the thinking.


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RE: Is it just me or is there a huge influx of people w... - 5/28/2013 1:29:13 PM   
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RE: Is it just me or is there a huge influx of people w... - 5/28/2013 2:21:41 PM   
RedMagic1


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ORIGINAL: ThePrincessKali

I feel like as of late, the past few months, I've been bombarded by messages from guys who list themselves as "dominant," which is strange because I'm a fin domme. So I wouldn't be interested in another dominant. I think most of these guys see it as kink=easy sex. Especially because their message don't seem to acknowledge the fact that I'm a domme. And usually go something like, "hey girl! you wanna hang out some time?" I'm not quite sure why there is such a rise in this all of a sudden. When I message them responding I'm a Domme and have no interest in another Dom or that they should read up on the message boards I usually get told I'm being a bitch. Anyone else been having similar experiences lately? And why all of a sudden?

Well, school's out for summer. Though I'm sure everyone emailing you is at least 18 years of age.

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RE: Is it just me or is there a huge influx of people w... - 5/28/2013 2:57:47 PM   
ThePrincessKali


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Status: offline 		Lol maybe. I guess the emails and profiles didn't suggest they were looking for another a vanilla dating site couldn't provide. And they're profiles didn't seem to indicate they had any kinks or anything related to the BDSM community. And no my responses aren't bitchy usually a simple, "It seems you aren't familiar with what the site is about so you might want to check out the message boards before contacting people." I guess I was just curious if anyone else had A significant increase in these types of messages lately or of it was just me.

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RE: Is it just me or is there a huge influx of people w... - 5/28/2013 3:08:52 PM   
OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: ThePrincessKali

Lol maybe. I guess the emails and profiles didn't suggest they were looking for another a vanilla dating site couldn't provide. And they're profiles didn't seem to indicate they had any kinks or anything related to the BDSM community. And no my responses aren't bitchy usually a simple, "It seems you aren't familiar with what the site is about so you might want to check out the message boards before contacting people." I guess I was just curious if anyone else had A significant increase in these types of messages lately or of it was just me.


A large portion of the people here prefer to be addressed as human beings first, rather that set of kinks listed on a profile. So, the person who may be misreading the situation is you (and your response makes you look condescending and uninformed).



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RE: Is it just me or is there a huge influx of people w... - 5/28/2013 3:24:43 PM   
JstAnotherSub


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RE: Is it just me or is there a huge influx of people w... - 5/28/2013 3:40:25 PM   
TieMeInKnottss


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Status: offline 		I have noticed that in the vanilla dating world that "sub"="nympho" (at least that always seems to be the case )

One of my very favorite "left field" emails came from a gay couple who were both subs who wanted me to be THEIR sub...My answer was...how would anything get done? Who would make the decisions? Who gets to be the "final word"? Obviously I never heard from them again.

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RE: Is it just me or is there a huge influx of people w... - 5/28/2013 5:37:41 PM   
NiceButMeanGirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ThePrincessKali
Anyone else been having similar experiences lately? And why all of a sudden?

Jt's not happening "all of a sudden," but I've had male Doms write to me and say they'd like to get to know me better. If the man seems interesting to me, I will write back and say something like "Lets see where it goes, a person can never have too many friends." Implying that that's what it would be....friends.

I've also had Doms write to me and ask if they can be my sub. When I say "Aren't you a Dom?" they make some lame excuse and keep plugging on. Then there's the Dom that wrote to me calling me his Queen and, next thing I knew, he was trying to tell me what to do. In that case it was BLOCK....DELETE....NEXT!!

I've also had this couple of gay male subs check me out, and write to me more than once btw, and ask if they could belong to me. I'm like wha.....?? Not sure what that was all about.

This stuff's been going on for awhile. I just ignore them and move on.

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RE: Is it just me or is there a huge influx of people w... - 5/28/2013 7:03:19 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		It's not all of a sudden and it's not recently or an influx. This has been happening since the advent of the internet. Sites like this are seen as sex sites and those who are on it must be looking for easy sex so they come here to find exactly that. To be honest, they're not that far off. On the other side, I think the majority are here for exactly that reason, just like any other sex site.


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RE: Is it just me or is there a huge influx of people w... - 5/28/2013 9:06:47 PM   
RemoteUser


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Status: offline 		I've had several Dommes on the other side try to issue commands to me on the other side. I don't get mad, I usually grin and send a one word reply:

Why?

And they never, ever answer again. Not sure how well it will work with men, but feel free to gi' it a go. If they can't articulate it, they'll shut down, eventually; and really, how can they articulate it in a satisfactory way?

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RE: Is it just me or is there a huge influx of people w... - 5/28/2013 11:32:05 PM   
inchargeinca


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ThePrincessKali

I feel like as of late, the past few months, I've been bombarded by messages from guys who list themselves as "dominant," which is strange because I'm a fin domme. So I wouldn't be interested in another dominant. I think most of these guys see it as kink=easy sex. Especially because their message don't seem to acknowledge the fact that I'm a domme. And usually go something like, "hey girl! you wanna hang out some time?" I'm not quite sure why there is such a rise in this all of a sudden. When I message them responding I'm a Domme and have no interest in another Dom or that they should read up on the message boards I usually get told I'm being a bitch. Anyone else been having similar experiences lately? And why all of a sudden?



My guess is they are simply sending the same message to every woman without reading the profiles in the hopes that someone says yes.

As a male dom, I haven't had the same experience. The women who write me have read my profile and are responding to what I said about myself. I don't tend to get generic greeting, but lengthy thoughtful ones.

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RE: Is it just me or is there a huge influx of people w... - 5/28/2013 11:35:24 PM   
SoulAlloy


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Rasciallymisty

I have had a lot of sub's of both sex wanting me to Dom them....when I tell them I am just a sub also...they want to know why I will not switch. I just laugh and if they will not leave me alone I just block them. It works.


misty


Lol, I'd be tempted to ask them the same question first

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RE: Is it just me or is there a huge influx of people w... - 5/29/2013 2:28:35 AM   
LafayetteLady


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From: Northern New Jersey
Status: offline 		As the others have said, this has been going on for a while. Some are looking for easy sex, some are just looking for people to talk to about kink, some just want to make friends, and of course with men messaging women, many don't read profiles. Not all of them are going to message you simply because you have told them not to in your profile.

You are 24, have been here just barely over six months and haven't posted all that much except for rants about people messaging you when they aren't into financial domination. Your journal is one angry rant after another. Oh so appealing. Yet, you feel you are "qualified" to direct someone to the boards to learn what the site is about? Personally, I think you should talk to the more experienced financial dommes here. You seem to need to learn a few things yourself.

And yes, your response was bitchy, condescending and rude for no real reason other than your expectation that people message you with what they will buy for you. Yep, you have a lot to learn.

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RE: Is it just me or is there a huge influx of people w... - 5/29/2013 7:35:26 AM   
Charles6682


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From: Saint Pete,FL
Status: offline 		Any "subs" who responds nasty to a Domme after she says no,is a piece of garbage in my books and is NOT a sub.Maybe a "Do Me Sub" at best.Be glad you dump those losers because it just shows their loser additude anyways.I've asked some Dommes here on Collarme before and was politely refused.I'm okay with that.I thanked them for their response and moved on.Now,I've gotten some nasty letters from Dommes before (that's right,it works both ways),I just delete those letters and move on.What does that say of me,if I lower myself to someone standards like that?

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RE: Is it just me or is there a huge influx of people w... - 5/29/2013 7:42:55 AM   
Charles6682


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Status: offline 		Even if these guys aren't "real" submissive males, the fact that they call themselves male subs and there are so many of these guys, intentional or not, have given "male submissives" a bad rap. I talk to Women who tell me they get endless photos of emails from "male subs" all the time.Thats what gets me. Whether or not these guys are real males subs or not,isn't the point anymore. These guys have given male submission a bad name.

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RE: Is it just me or is there a huge influx of people w... - 5/29/2013 7:47:03 AM   
Rasciallymisty


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Status: offline 		LOL SoulAlloy ....not sure why I have not asked that question back, I think just because I would not want them to...ewwwww the thought.




misty

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RE: Is it just me or is there a huge influx of people w... - 5/29/2013 7:47:45 AM   
zubedangina


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Status: offline 		I get the opposite, my profile lists submissive, and a bunch of sub males will email me asking me to be their Domme. If I tell them no, I prefer submitting, then they offer to dominate me. Which makes me laugh. I don't see it happening any more than usual. It's always happened the whole time I've been a member here. Seems rather normal to me.

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