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DomMeinCT -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/7/2013 11:23:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: theshytype Setting aside her elaborate story and her questionable parenting skills, something she did after the whole ordeal really bothered me: texting Whip and implying that she was being harmed when she wasn't. I find that to be an absolutely awful thing to do to someone, causing unnecessary worry. That one little action, to me, speaks volumes on the type of person she most likely is. I wouldn't get too worked up over a fictional person.

tazzygirl -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/7/2013 11:41:42 AM)
No he didnt meet her child before. quote: Tazzy, her kids were with sitters and away for the night. Her youngest just happened to show up before I left the joint. He got a little piggy back ride from me. Personally I myself did not feel at any risk... however, I'm not certain WTF she was thinking though. quote: She would not have done it if whiplash did not pass her "pre-testing". What pre-testing? He met the kid after he fucked her, in her own house, the one that she shares with the children, upon his first and only visit. Just what are you reading? quote: But she did not allow a stranger to come into her house and rape her, she took the effort to get to know whiplash first. ROFL... through email? This was their first and only meeting.

CynthiaWVirginia -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/7/2013 12:06:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Greta75 Actually now understanding everything better. She did take pre-caution. Whiplash met her child before. She actually did make effort to ascertify if he was a trustable decent man, before she plan the deceit to get him to rape her in a realistic manner. She would not have done it if whiplash did not pass her "pre-testing". If it was indeed the original situation of her taking on a friend's debt, allowing some stranger to come into her house and rape her, that's another story. But she did not allow a stranger to come into her house and rape her, she took the effort to get to know whiplash first. Nobody meets my kid after a first or second meetup. bo is the first man, bottom, sub, or slave I've met from online, in ten years, to know where my house is. Once I decided on having him as a lifetime partner, THAT'S when I introduced him to my mother, my son, and my home. I had "gotten to know him enough" by being a regular at his house, getting to know his sister, mother, adult daughter, neighbors and friends. My son didn't have to grow up with a long line of "uncles" or "daddies" going in and out of his life. Part time, temporary fuckbuddies do NOT get the chance to form attachments to my family and vice versa.

NuevaVida -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/7/2013 12:36:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CynthiaWVirginia Nobody meets my kid after a first or second meetup. bo is the first man, bottom, sub, or slave I've met from online, in ten years, to know where my house is. The Mister would not introduce me to his daughter until we had been together for four months and he was pretty certain our relationship was serious and would be long term. He had vowed to never bring a woman home to meet her until that criteria had been met. I respected him for that...I admired that character and his priorities.

SeekingTrinity -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/7/2013 12:50:15 PM)
~FRing it~ Bringing some guy you only corresponded through Craigslist, phone, and text with IS NOT getting to know someone. It's the preliminary most sane people use to determine if they will actually meet the person face to face in a public setting. That's about it. When you become a parent, you forfeit your right to act like a dumbass and do INCREDIBLY stupid/dangerous things like bringing some stranger into the home you share WITH your child. You sure as shit don't let some stranger touch your child in any way and you don't even let some stranger even lay eyes on your child.

tazzygirl -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/7/2013 1:07:45 PM)
I would now... but mine is 26 and bigger than most of the men on CM.. sooooo [:D]

theshytype -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/7/2013 1:18:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SeekingTrinity ~FRing it~ Bringing some guy you only corresponded through Craigslist, phone, and text with IS NOT getting to know someone. It's the preliminary most sane people use to determine if they will actually meet the person face to face in a public setting. That's about it. When you become a parent, you forfeit your right to act like a dumbass and do INCREDIBLY stupid/dangerous things like bringing some stranger into the home you share WITH your child. You sure as shit don't let some stranger touch your child in any way and you don't even let some stranger even lay eyes on your child. [sm=goodpost.gif]

UllrsIshtar -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/7/2013 1:39:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SeekingTrinity When you become a parent, you forfeit your right to act like a dumbass and do INCREDIBLY stupid/dangerous things like bringing some stranger into the home you share WITH your child. You sure as shit don't let some stranger touch your child in any way and you don't even let some stranger even lay eyes on your child. Can I safely assume that you don't mean this literally, and specifically mean in the context of dating? If not, how do you handle grocery shopping, or having a repair guy come fix your toilet? And if that's the case, why is it safer to have a repair guy come over to fix your toilet than bringing over a guy you've been dating, of whom you have the same type of information as you would have of the repair guy?

lizi -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/7/2013 1:42:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Greta75 Actually now understanding everything better. She did take pre-caution. Whiplash met her child before. She actually did make effort to ascertify if he was a trustable decent man, before she plan the deceit to get him to rape her in a realistic manner. She would not have done it if whiplash did not pass her "pre-testing". If it was indeed the original situation of her taking on a friend's debt, allowing some stranger to come into her house and rape her, that's another story. But she did not allow a stranger to come into her house and rape her, she took the effort to get to know whiplash first. None of this is correct if you've been reading Whiplash's posts. I hesitate responding to you on any thread, it seems as though there's a lot of attention being given to you over quite a few other threads for the same reason that I did respond here - you don't seem to make accurate inferences or connections. Not only that, but you seem to have an inordinate amount of time on your hands to keep the keep the discussions going over what you don't seem to understand or inaccuracies you refuse to see. I understand there may be a language and culture barrier, but it's really odd how you consistently keep getting things wrong. Not that everyone needs to have the same opinion, far from it, but you really can't seem things on a basic level. I am reminded heavily of a past poster who had lots of time and multiple accounts.

SeekingTrinity -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/7/2013 1:56:08 PM)
What does grocery shopping and repairmen have to do with the subject of this thread? The difference as I see it is that I'm not on Craigslist soliciting the plumber or cable guy to come to my home and fuck me.

lizi -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/7/2013 2:00:53 PM)
FR: Adding to the tangent on the man parade.... A counselor I saw after my marriage ended recommended not letting my kids meet anyone who wasn't going to be around long because they'd already seen a relationship end (my marriage to their Dad), and they didn't need to see more relationship failure. However, if I met someone who became important to me and was around for some time, then it was good from the kid's perspective to introduce them, since they should meet someone that I was with regularly to prevent them from putting their own spin on things, and so they'd feel comfortable at me being with this person and see he was important in my life. I don't know how the kid happened to show up unexpectedly with the OP there the next morning but that alone speaks to unsound reasoning on the woman's part. Meeting the kids should be a well thought out step taken after some time has passed. Honestly, this woman's actions all around say it's all about her.

UllrsIshtar -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/7/2013 2:11:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SeekingTrinity What does grocery shopping and repairmen have to do with the subject of this thread? The difference as I see it is that I'm not on Craigslist soliciting the plumber or cable guy to come to my home and fuck me. That's why I'm asking if you meant: "When you become a parent, you forfeit your right to act - do INCREDIBLY stupid/dangerous things like bringing some stranger into the home you share WITH your child" and "you don't even let some stranger even lay eyes on your child" literally or not. If you're stating that you literally can't ever have a stranger into your house, or take your child out where there may be strangers looking at it, I'm going to have to disagree with your statements. If you just mean "strangers you mean online" I want to ask you: what is the difference between a stranger you meet online, you request certain information off before letting them into your home, and a plumber you get off the yellow pages?

LafayetteLady -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/7/2013 2:18:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Greta75 quote: Lets say some guy, less honest than you, was invited to her home. She gets the play rape, the jollies, he goes home. He comes back later, hell, he had time to scope out her place, sneaks in, ties her up, robs her blind, who knows, maybe not even alone. Kids are now at home. Actually now understanding everything better. She did take pre-caution. Whiplash met her child before. She actually did make effort to ascertify if he was a trustable decent man, before she plan the deceit to get him to rape her in a realistic manner. She would not have done it if whiplash did not pass her "pre-testing". If it was indeed the original situation of her taking on a friend's debt, allowing some stranger to come into her house and rape her, that's another story. But she did not allow a stranger to come into her house and rape her, she took the effort to get to know whiplash first. NO! All this meeting of the kid happened AFTER he had sex with her. English is the primary language where you come from, so there shouldn't be this much trouble paying attention to what happened. quote: ORIGINAL: Greta75 quote: It is like you are assuming you possess the Golden Pussy and they will want to come back. It is exactly I don't assume I have a golden pussy, that I am not worried about what you brought up, that if I make it hard for myself to be contactable, then, they won't bother and spend so much energy doing it. You may have never experience a vindictive man who start causing trouble in your life, after you told him, you aren't having sex with him anymore. Yes it was casual sex. But I have. And these precautions are just smart. The last vindictive man hunted me for 2 years. I had to get the police involved at last resort, for him to finally leave me alone. And all the shit he gave me was just about asking for a fuck one last time and he'll leave me alone. And I refuse to be blackmailed into sex. Sweetheart, I have dealt with more vindictive men than I care to remember. I can assure you I wasn't stupid enough to let them harass me for two years before I did something about it. You refuse to be blackmailed into sex, but random strangers that you never even get their names is ok. quote: ORIGINAL: Greta75 quote: Would you trust someone that was a proven liar to respect your safeword while you're tied up? It depends on what kind of lie. I didn't see what this girl did was malicious, but she just was trying to make her fantasy come true. I didn't see any malicious intent, and would have judged her as harmless. Is she a great mom? Of course not. Was she really a bad person? Doesn't seem to be either. Ok, these three posts cinch it for me. Your sexual escapades are all in your head and you can't even follow an uncomplex storyline. I have never put anyone on ignore before but your reasoning is so flawed and your stories so wild that I have to put you on hide because you are truly wasting screen space on my computer that could be used by someone who isn't here to put forth their own nonsense agenda.

littlewonder -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/7/2013 6:59:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Greta75 quote: The "black and white" reality is that if someone wanted to find you, it wouldn't take much, and your imagined "luxury" of disappearing is non existent. Perhaps, will have to take somebody very determined and patient, which seldom happens in casual sex, since it's fuck and forget. It wouldn't be difficult at all. Just follow you home. Simple. And if you're having the casual sex in your house, again, easy. He already knows where you live. If fucking at his house, while you're in the bathroom or asleep all he has to do is go through your belongings. If at a hotel and you're the one paying, he could just go downstairs and get your information from the front staff. Yeah, they're not supposed to but it's amazing what a $20 bill will get ya.

littlewonder -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/7/2013 7:10:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar quote: ORIGINAL: SeekingTrinity When you become a parent, you forfeit your right to act like a dumbass and do INCREDIBLY stupid/dangerous things like bringing some stranger into the home you share WITH your child. You sure as shit don't let some stranger touch your child in any way and you don't even let some stranger even lay eyes on your child. Can I safely assume that you don't mean this literally, and specifically mean in the context of dating? If not, how do you handle grocery shopping, or having a repair guy come fix your toilet? And if that's the case, why is it safer to have a repair guy come over to fix your toilet than bringing over a guy you've been dating, of whom you have the same type of information as you would have of the repair guy? Personally, being a single mother, when I had to have someone come into my home to fix something, I always did my best to make it during the day when she was at school so I never had to worry about it all. Keep in mind I have a daughter that even when she was young she was already eeeerr....developed. Yeah, we already went through the whole thing with an electrician hitting on her one time when she was about 12. I had decided at that moment that would be the last time that would happen in my home. Master didn't meet my daughter until we had been together probably at least a year or two.

MistressChiara -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/7/2013 10:06:31 PM)
I'm curious as to whether you've been checked for std's after this incident.

LafayetteLady -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/7/2013 10:37:16 PM)
Please don't refer to a child as "it." It's rude. Use him or her. I'm really not sure why you are looking at it as such extremes as to go to the ridiculous. It is unnecessary and completely unrelated to the post. If you want to introduce every one night stand to your kids, have at it. Obviously, if this woman whip is talking about actually exists, she has no trouble doing it either. People make bad decisions all the time.

AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/7/2013 10:44:55 PM)
FR I'd like to know what the rape hotline people said when they called him back to discuss this as promised. Did I miss that update or did it never happen?

tazzygirl -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/7/2013 10:51:15 PM)
quote: Please don't refer to a child as "it." It's rude. Use him or her. In the context she used it, I really dont have a problem with the usage. Hell, I have called my son "it" to his face... of course, he turns around and calls me bitch.. so we are all even...lmao.

Kana -> RE: Doing the right thing... (6/8/2013 5:01:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder quote: ORIGINAL: Greta75 quote: The "black and white" reality is that if someone wanted to find you, it wouldn't take much, and your imagined "luxury" of disappearing is non existent. Perhaps, will have to take somebody very determined and patient, which seldom happens in casual sex, since it's fuck and forget. It wouldn't be difficult at all. Just follow you home. Simple. And if you're having the casual sex in your house, again, easy. He already knows where you live. If fucking at his house, while you're in the bathroom or asleep all he has to do is go through your belongings. If at a hotel and you're the one paying, he could just go downstairs and get your information from the front staff. Yeah, they're not supposed to but it's amazing what a $20 bill will get ya. Shhhh-don't be telling me secrets to the world. Cripes woman.

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