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littleone35 -> Love (6/6/2013 2:49:59 PM)

Now ther was a recent post on here about who do you love Most people sais Master, Dom and things like that( (if you ised another term insert that.)

Now to my question. If hwe was not you Don,Master whatever if t was plain vanilla woulsd you sill love him?

For me the answer is yes i never believed in love at first sight till i saw him. Sure we talked on the ohone but when i saw him i fell in head over heels, even mors so today than those 7 yeats ago.

Matt's litleone



OsideGirl -> RE: Love (6/6/2013 3:01:35 PM)

Absolutely. We are the best of friends who really enjoy being with each other even if we're doing absolutely nothing.

That said, he's an Alpha personality and that would exist whether he was into D/s or not.



JeffBC -> RE: Love (6/6/2013 3:03:42 PM)

Carol and I don't think in terms of kink/vanilla since we don't really sit on that spectrum and if we do it's on the vanilla side. But yeah, I loved Carol (enough to act to help her anyway) from the first moment we met.



kiwisub12 -> RE: Love (6/6/2013 3:11:42 PM)

My sweetie is more sadist than dominant, and i love him.

Would i love him if he wasn't kinky? Honestly - maybe not, but its a moot point, because i wouldn't have gone out with him in the first place if he was vanilla. I wouldn't have gotten to know him and appreciate his off center sense of humor, and intelligence, his sweet generosity and thoughtfulness.

I would have loved him - his personality and character - but not the sex life, because i do love the kink[:D].



RemoteUser -> RE: Love (6/6/2013 4:14:55 PM)

If my girl was vanilla, she wouldn't be who she is. I can't say I would love her if she were vanilla because the simple truth is, she's not, and never will be, and I love all of her. Excluding one part negates the totality of what that love is, and the love I share with her does not neatly compartmentalize itself to say "I love this about her, but not that". Sure, some things resonate stronger with her than others, but that's compatibility, not love.

I love her. She is mine. I am hers. That is all.



lilcracker -> RE: Love (6/6/2013 5:33:11 PM)

Yep our sex is very vanilla but he is still the boss



lizi -> RE: Love (6/6/2013 5:45:57 PM)

I'm drawn to the person, not the kink, so yes....I'd love the man whether he was kinky or not.



littlewonder -> RE: Love (6/6/2013 6:06:47 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: littleone35

Now ther was a recent post on here about who do you love Most people sais Master, Dom and things like that( (if you ised another term insert that.)

Now to my question. If hwe was not you Don,Master whatever if t was plain vanilla woulsd you sill love him?

For me the answer is yes i never believed in love at first sight till i saw him. Sure we talked on the ohone but when i saw him i fell in head over heels, even mors so today than those 7 yeats ago.

Matt's litleone


Yes, I would still love him. I love the man, not the role or the toys or the sex or the playing. I love him as he is as the personality that is his.



theshytype -> RE: Love (6/6/2013 6:21:12 PM)

For us...first came love, then came marriage, then came...kink.
So, can I love him without it? I don't see why not since that's how it started. But, we're in such a great place now and so much closer with, I have a difficult time picturing life back to vanilla.
If I ever stopped loving him, I don't believe the lack of kink would be the cause but could be ONE of many things leading up to it.



RaspberryLemon -> RE: Love (6/7/2013 1:52:47 AM)

Of course I would still love him. We are compatible people on all levels, we genuinely like each other and enjoy each others company.

I love him for who he is and he loves me for who I am. Even if my Master did not own me, he would still be assertive/dominant by personality. Likewise, even if he did not own me, I would still defer to him/want to please him, because that is just how my personality meshes with his. Ownership was just the natural progression of that for us.



AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Love (6/7/2013 11:23:21 AM)

Yes. Even without that he's still an awesome, smart, interesting, kind, funny, trustworthy, stable, and responsible guy. We still have the same moral code, the same life goals, and enough overlapping interests and hobbies to keep things going. The kink and/or power exchange is a bonus. Even without it, I can't imagine finding another guy who fits me so well.



NuevaVida -> RE: Love (6/7/2013 12:33:28 PM)

One of the reasons we fell in love with each other is because our personalities meshed. And those personalities include him naturally being dominant over his partner and me being submissive toward my partner. So we could see that in each other, which was one of the million reasons we were drawn together.

Some of the other reasons include our character, our love of music, food and movies, and our sense of humor.

However, we came to love each other before he was my dominant...master...daddy...owner. We love the person, not the role.

Our lives look more "vanilla" than M/s so whether or not we are M/s, the love is there. I love him for the whole man that he is.



littleone35 -> RE: Love (6/9/2013 5:16:35 PM)

Thanks to all who answered. I kinda figured the answeres would be the way they turened out. Many more years of love and happiness to you all.

Matt's littleone



JeffBC -> RE: Love (6/9/2013 8:39:10 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: theshytype
So, can I love him without it? I don't see why not since that's how it started. But, we're in such a great place now and so much closer with, I have a difficult time picturing life back to vanilla.

I don't think so much in terms of "can I go back?" But what I know is we've spent 18 years going forward and I see no reason why we can't continue to do so. We changed into M/s when it became appropriate to do so. If it becomes appropriate to change again then I will lead us there instead. To me it seems like just another potential curve in the road... no biggie.

I am for her. She is for me. That's the biggie.



myotherself -> RE: Love (6/9/2013 10:25:19 PM)

When Master and I first started dating I would have emphatically denied any chance of a life with this man without kink. I was looking for a D/s relationship, full stop. Nothing less.

However, 3 years on and I'd give a very different answer. We now know each other, love each other and we are each other's best friend. If for some reason the kink was to disappear, I have no doubt that we'd find a way to go forward together, happily.



goodgirlmary -> RE: Love (6/15/2013 6:01:21 AM)

Idk, I dont/did not love mine,but I adored him. I guess I mean that I treated everything involving him with reverance and was emotionally connected.



kalikshama -> RE: Love (6/15/2013 9:58:31 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

Absolutely. We are the best of friends who really enjoy being with each other even if we're doing absolutely nothing.

That said, he's an Alpha personality and that would exist whether he was into D/s or not.


Although this is true for us as well, part of what attracted him to me was being out as kinky in my OKCupid profile and I would not have dated him had he been vanilla.



slaveluci -> RE: Love (6/15/2013 6:13:42 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: littleone35

If hwe was not you Don,Master whatever if t was plain vanilla woulsd you sill love him?


Abso-frikkin'-lutely. He is my best friend. I am a 40 yr. old woman and he is a soon-to-be 67 year old man and yet I have more in common with him than anyone of any sex or age I've ever met. We love the same books, music, movies and our opinions and beliefs are extremely similar. I'd be honored to know him no matter our relationship [sm=hearts.gif]

luci



nephandi -> RE: Love (6/16/2013 3:44:44 AM)

Greetings

Me and Aswad are mates and have been together for 15 years both in kink related relationships and not so I would have to say yes, kink or no I love him, though it is very nice that he shares my kinky interests.

I wish you well



Charles6682 -> RE: Love (6/16/2013 5:02:45 AM)

Someday maybe. The kinks are nice but I can't see myself being in love with someone just on kinks alone. I know that limits my search right there. The Domme/sub ratio is already in favor of the Dommes on here. Add the fact I actually like doing vanilla things, makes my search even more difficult. I can go the "vanilla" route but would probably have to downplay my submissive nature. Or the other option is to find a D/s only type of relationship but then probably sacrifice my "vanilla" side.

If its even possible to meet the right Lady who fits both, that would be great. But I also know I'm not getting any younger either and living in reality can't hurt. Maybe I won't ever meet that right Lady and just continue being single. Something has to give. Whats more important? It really all depends.



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