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ORIGINAL: NissanGTR

Dunno If I could ever "Love" a Domme romantically... Being submissive isn't who I am in the vanilla world.

Being a slave for me, is more a path to enlightenment, personal growth and new experience.

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ORIGINAL: njlauren

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ORIGINAL: NissanGTR

Dunno If I could ever "Love" a Domme romantically... Being submissive isn't who I am in the vanilla world.

Being a slave for me, is more a path to enlightenment, personal growth and new experience.

That raises an interesting question, then are you basically doing this only in the bedroom/playroom with someone where it is strictly about BD/SM play, or do you play with pro dommes? I am not asking this in a negative way, but it highlights I think differences in how people approach this.

For example, someone may be married to a non kink person, and have an outside mistress/master to fulfill those needs, and they may not be romantically linked to the outside dominant (in part, because they don't want to hurt their married, primary relationship, though IRL the few instances I know of like this, it often became problematic when the sub did fall for the outside dominant, and ended up either with some sort of poly relationship if the marital spouse was okay with that, or leaving the vanilla spouse for the dominant...).

My own personal story is of course, but that is because we were romantic long before we were into the BD/SM, D/s, and our relationship has survived long stretches with out, because we have so much else to our lives as parents/friends/lovers/ partners. I can't or won't speak for everyone, but with lifestyle D/s people, my experience has been that most have multi level relationships, that despite the porn and erotica images, there are a lot smaller number where the whole thing is the D/s or BD/SM, where they are M/s, D/s, and that is it, where there is no romantic/love relationship the way a vanilla couple has it.