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njlauren -> RE: Safe,Sane and Consensual (6/8/2013 9:53:14 AM)
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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist
I believe in trust . . . I do not believe in SSC as a credo, nor does the person (David Stein) that coined the phrase and he has retracted his comments and apologized for them. The original SSC speech itself was designed as a public service to a gay leathermen crowd, an attempt to curb a particular group of predators that were haunting the gay leather scene posing as Tops/Doms and seriously injuring people. Author David Stein never intended, nor did he want to create a credo. He says he never meant to see it "used to define something like articles of faith s/m newbies are expected to absorb turns my stomach, especially when the people doing the defining are the kind who do s/m at a very tame, low level of intensity and think that’s where the boundaries should be set for everyone." Anyway . . . it had to do with edge play and predators abusing edge play.
I strongly disagree with SSC mantra. I see SSC as a flag waving in the wind for those seeking one true way . . . for those that seek validation and a PC mantra that is acceptable to the general non-BDSM public. What we do is not safe and according to the DSM until recently, it was not completely sane. SSC has become a credo for the slap & tickle crowd and helps create a bigger divide between them and the edge players.
I believe in edge play and I like heightened risk factors to achieve fear, excitement and to achieve heightened pleasure. The article excerpt below touched on some interesting perspectives about SSC and BDSM in general.
I can’t imagine what the colleagues of Dr. Bruce Gross think when they read his curriculum vitae and see his Forensic Examiner article titled The Pleasure of Pain. I was very surprised when I read valid BDSM information and advice coming from the Forensic Examiner magazine. Here are some excerpts if you need to be “sold” on reading the article. Otherwise, jump to full article link at bottom of page.
“There is evidence of BDSM occurring across time and cultures, with perhaps the most widely known example being the Kama Sutra, written by Vatsysayana in 450 AD as a guide to maximizing sexual pleasure (Vatsysayana, 1964). As suggested by the Kama Sutra and as raised by Ellis in 1927, “pain” may not be an appropriate term or applied concept in the context of sadomasochism, in which (regardless of the underlying reason) pain is experienced as pleasure resulting in sexual gratification (Eulenburg, 1911). This paradox led to a paradigmatic shift away from a singular focus on pain, as pain itself is not perceived as erotic for every practitioner of BDSM and may be included in only one of many BDSM rituals practiced by those who do. As BDSM includes the desire or need for submission, domination, and humiliation for sexual gratification (often without requiring pain), the definition of BDSM shifted to a focus on the construct of an erotic power exchange.”
“Clinical and lay views on the practice of BDSM range from its being a form of normal, healthy sexuality, to being reflective of issues related to vulnerability and intimacy, to its being synonymous with mental illness. While dominance and submission are generally accepted as normal aspects of the continuum of sexual behavior, sadism and masochism are less so. In light of the fine line between pleasure and pain, it has been hypothesized that BDSM is associated with an atypically high pain threshold. As endorphins are autonomically released in response to both pleasure and pain, it has also been suggested that BDSM is associated with abnormally high levels of endorphins reinforcing an initial experimental or accidental experience with BDSM.”
“Within the BDSM subculture, there exists a division in thought (and in practice) related to safety measures (Masters et al., 1995). On one side are those who believe BDSM requires heightened risk to achieve heightened pleasure. The requisite imbalance of power becomes illusory when the interaction is negotiated and scripted, drawing emphasis to the difference in authenticity between playing a sexual sadist/masochist and being one. On the other side of the ongoing controversy are those who are adamant that the transfer or surrender of power and control should always be negotiated in advance.”
“The social and legal expectation for all sexual encounters is that each party has given informed consent and that each will respect and behaviorally conform to the other’s “no.” Without both elements a sexual act becomes a punishable crime.”
“Compared to more traditional or vanilla sex, the potential for missing or misreading a partner’s “no” is far greater in BDSM, given that the identifying power imbalance is manifested in signs of servitude, acts of blind obedience, desperate begging, vigorous resistance, and complaints of pain.”
“An increasing number of states are enacting mandatory arrest laws in situations of domestic violence that could potentially result in the arrest of one party (most likely the top) if for any reason the police are called to the location of the BDSM scene.”
“Those who advocate safe, sane, consensual (SSC) BDSM—also known as riskaware-consensual-kink (RACK)—recommend establishing safe-words (other than “no” or “stop”) that once spoken by either party will immediately stop the scene. If gagging is part of the sexual experience, a safe-sign should be created as well.”
“As a result of this normalization through familiarity, by the mid-1980s BDSM was no longer considered inherently indicative of mental illness.” “With the revisions made to the DSMIV in 2000, sexual sadism/masochism can be diagnosed if the fantasies or urges are acted upon, even if the individual does not suffer consequent distress or impaired functioning (APA, 2000). As noted by Masters et al., there are individuals with sadistic or masochistic fantasies that, while ego-dystonic, do not result in a level of distress sufficient for diagnosis and do not meet the criteria for obsessive-compulsive disorder (Masters et al., 1995).”
“Healthy relationships are characterized by mutual trust and respect manifested in the negotiation of roles and boundaries in interactions. When BDSM is part of a relationship, this negotiation of roles and boundaries is critically important not only for the health and survival of the relationship, but also that of the individuals involved.”
The entire article is eloquent, informative, well researched and well written. I have never seen someone wrap up BDSM so thoroughly in a nice 6 page read like this before. Although short, it covers the origins, practice, cultures, SSC, legal consent, TPE vs D/s, legal issues, legal exposure of practitioners, beating the law, safety, psychology and etc. Hell, he even claims it’s normal and is one of the few doctors I’ve seen to associate algolagnia with SM. If the article presents nothing interesting to you I at least hope you enjoy the irony of the source being the Forensic Examiner as much as I did. Someone buy Dr. Bruce Gross a beer will ya!
Refernce:
Forensic Examiner, Vol:15, Issue:1, Date: Spring 2006, Pg: 56 – 61
Article: The Pleasure of Pain
By Bruce Gross Ph.D.
Format: PDF
http://www.theforensicexaminer.com/pdfs/spring06.pdf
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Please note: although this a magazine publication it is not BDSM in the news.
RS, thanks for posting this, I agree, this guy did an amazing job with it. I worked with a therapist for more then a few years who was a scene person herself, had been for a long time, and what she said was pretty much what this guy did in so many words (and she was a deep, deep player from what I have heard about her). The key of it all is informed consent, which implies that I know what is going on as a sub, know the risks, and with my partner have agreed it is okay, that we both want to do it. Where there is a problem is as you say, people abusing edge play, going too far with it (the old argument about stretching limits and breaking them being the same thing is nonsense, with stretching, I as the sub make the effort to go farther and if it is too much, can stop it with a safe word or gesture, breaking a limit is keeping going even if I indicate I am not comfortable with it, or am in distress).
The irony of some of this is some play that looks really, really edgy is not (static electrical stuff like purple wands, that porn videos make look like it is the height of agony), while some kinds of corporal play can seem pretty mild, but can be dangerous or out there....:). Even relatively tame stuff has risks, you can tie someone up and blindfold them and they could for reasons freak out, and have a heart attack and die, tickling could trigger some sort of fit and cause issues....you get the idea.
Someone once asked me if our playing style was SSC or Rack, and I said it depends on how much I pissed off my domme *lol* (and obviously, I am not serious, for one thing, didn't need an excuse for her to do a number on me, and secondly, if pissed, she wouldn't play with me, since that would be only encouraging my SAM side....:)
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