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Age - 6/8/2013 6:12:52 PM

SaintEccentric

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How do you guys feel about younger people in the lifestyle? Most the people that contact me are much older. Should I give up on looking for a Dom my age and submit to an older man?

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RE: Age - 6/8/2013 6:34:58 PM

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Yes and no.

Yes, submit to an older experienced man. You'll learn a lot and if he is any good, it will open up your self awareness.

No, don't stop searching for someone your age that knows what they are doing.

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RE: Age - 6/8/2013 6:42:46 PM

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How do you guys feel about younger people in the lifestyle?

Last I checked, life in general contained people ranging from 0 to about 100 or so (for my life).

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Should I give up on looking for a Dom my age and submit to an older man?

Depends... you think you'd be happy with an older man? If so then yes. If not then that'd be a dumb idea.

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RE: Age - 6/8/2013 6:45:20 PM

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Are there munches in your area? See if there's a TNG munch or group - it can be an awesome way to get to know some younger people.

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RE: Age - 6/8/2013 6:49:33 PM

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Most the people that contact me are much older.

So? Who cares what they want. It's about what you want. There are a lot people getting into this in their 20's, you'll just need to put some effort in. I also recommend finding a TNG near you and getting out to meet people.

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RE: Age - 6/8/2013 7:16:43 PM

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You're asking if you should give up on finding something that you want in favor of taking what seems to be more easily available...no. Does that solution ever work? The person making it usually feels cheated or that they've compromised and received something of lesser value to themselves.

Going for the older Dominant doesn't necessarily mean you'll be getting anyone with the qualities that you're looking for. Many older men try to advertise themselves to younger women by stressing their experience and maturity- you're not guaranteed of either just by going by age.

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RE: Age - 6/8/2013 8:42:44 PM

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I want someone I can relate to outside of the bedroom.

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RE: Age - 6/8/2013 8:44:12 PM

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I was about 20 when I started. It would be hypocritical if I were to say that younger folks shouldn't be involved.

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RE: Age - 6/8/2013 9:22:34 PM

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How do you guys feel about younger people in the lifestyle? Most the people that contact me are much older. Should I give up on looking for a Dom my age and submit to an older man?

That's true on vanilla sites too. Older guys like younger women, and they'll reach out to them -- it's a numbers game. As far as what you do, that's up to you.

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RE: Age - 6/8/2013 9:37:54 PM

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I stopped counting age, its a number to a degree to me. I started young, but knew what I wanted and didn't give up on exactly what I wanted. Once found, have had no regrets. Even with the 10+ year age difference, there is still plenty of common ground with a good connection, at least for me and him. However, if it isn't what you are looking for, than don't go that route.

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RE: Age - 6/9/2013 1:55:16 AM

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I think you should try out for a Mexican wrestling team.

I think that would be immensely entertaining. Did I mention the wrestlers wear ski masks? So no one really knows who's who.

So. What do you think?

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RE: Age - 6/9/2013 4:23:46 AM

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You've been here less than a month. It takes about a month for the vultures to stop circling over the 'fresh meat'. Once they've gone, you can take your time to find the one you want. You'll get less mail, but hopefully it will be of a higher quality.

If you want to settle for older, go for it. If you want someone closer to your own age, you're going to have to put in the work. Look through profiles, message interesting people.

Even us older people find it tough to find what we want. Even now I get messaged by men in their 20s right through to men in their 70s, asking whether I'm available

Finding a relationship takes time. In my case, it took about 8 years to finally find the one for me. I dated a few guys in between, but I held out for what I wanted. It might not take so long for you, at least I hope not! But only being here a month and already thinking of settling for second best strikes me as being somewhat defeatist.

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RE: Age - 6/9/2013 6:15:44 AM

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OP,
I say be patient and don't settle.

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RE: Age - 6/9/2013 7:26:18 AM

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I agree with the majority here, OP. If you're looking for someone around your own age--so that the two of you can better connect outside the bedroom--then hold out for that. Why settle for anything less than what you need, especially when looking into older age groups probably wouldn't solve all your problems? It would still take time to find someone compatible with your unique personality and style of submission.

Case in Point: You're going to have to spend some time looking anyway. Might as well spend that time looking for what you want.

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RE: Age - 6/9/2013 8:23:39 AM

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Don't settle. If you can't find an experienced dom your age, who cares. Find a guy who is interested in this and explore together. Make sure you like each other as friends.

But if you find being with older guys a turn off, then you aren't going to enjoy it. Be true to yourself.

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RE: Age - 6/9/2013 8:47:50 AM

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older guys are not a turn off, Just nothing to relate to. There are lots of handsome older guys

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RE: Age - 6/9/2013 9:07:09 AM

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I was 18 and he was 23 when we started 20 years ago. I would say dont discount anyone because of their age.

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older guys are not a turn off, Just nothing to relate to. There are lots of handsome older guys

Looking at our pictures when we were first together and how he looks now, I have to say he is much more handsome now at 43 then he was at 23. We got pregnant shortly after we started an official relationship so when I see those pictures of us with our newborn son all I can think was we were such babies!

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RE: Age - 6/9/2013 11:01:10 AM

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It's only natural that with age comes experience but I wouldn't go so fas as to say that it's any sort of guarantee.
Stupidity can be found in all age and flavour.
Some older people stay in touch with the current times, some don't.
Imho, it's all about the individual.
Mr Right can come in varius shapes, age and size.

If you find someone interesting, give it a go. Talk to him, it shouldn't take to long to see if he's got it or not.

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RE: Age - 6/9/2013 11:39:19 AM

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I was 19 when I started this game. Like someone up above said, after the buzzards have stopped circling you can get down to business and find who you want. And RS is right, an older man can teach you a lot of things, and just because someone's older doesn't necessarily mean they're out of touch. Something to think about.

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RE: Age - 6/9/2013 12:03:43 PM

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It's only natural that with age comes experience but I wouldn't go so far as to say that it's any sort of guarantee.

This is dead on. But, I'm also going to say that there's also no guarantee that with experience comes experience. Some people never learn from their experiences.

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