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LafayetteLady -> RE: Would you be open to marrying your submissive half? (6/10/2013 8:53:35 PM)

Well, legally those are very different things, lol (Marriage and Civil Union).

However, getting the "government" involved in your relationship one way or another if you are planning on staying together until one of you dies. After all, there needs to be some kind of legal document (or should be) that protects both parties in regards to the assets they have acquired together. Of course, there are the scum buckets who think that the sub should just find someone else after and leaves her basically homeless, but I'm talking about responsible adults. We also have the whole need for the legal documents should one of you become ill and want the other to make medical decisions when you can't. If you aren't married, you don't get to make those decisions without a legal document.

Of course, I could go on and on, but the point is that one way or another if you intend to protect your partner in the event of your untimely demise or illness, some legal document is necessary, whether it be marriage or something else, and that qualifies as "government" interference.

Then again, if people don't protect themselves and they have read these boards for any length of time, then whatever happens is on them, because we certainly have enough discussions on it.



BlkTallFullfig -> RE: Would you be open to marrying your submissive half? (6/10/2013 9:18:53 PM)

*** Belatedly puts hands up***

I definitely would... M



LookieNoNookie -> RE: Would you be open to marrying your submissive half? (6/11/2013 2:27:10 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2


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ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie


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ORIGINAL: fun2playwith88

Just wondering how many people on here would be open to marrying their submissive partner.


I will only marry a woman who will have me.

(Which already puts her in serious question).

Groucho.


:)




littlewonder -> RE: Would you be open to marrying your submissive half? (6/11/2013 7:28:40 PM)


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ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady

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However, getting the "government" involved in your relationship one way or another if you are planning on staying together until one of you dies. After all, there needs to be some kind of legal document (or should be) that protects both parties in regards to the assets they have acquired together.


I suppose if you have assets. I don't, never have and never will. Even when I was married we didn't own anything and barely had any money so again, nothing to be concerned about. Plus for the most part, everything was in both our names....checking account and bills. That's all we had.

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We also have the whole need for the legal documents should one of you become ill and want the other to make medical decisions when you can't. If you aren't married, you don't get to make those decisions without a legal document.


The only reason my husband and I had any kind of power of attorney was because the military required it. Otherwise neither of us would have been concerned. His family knew his wishes just as well as I did so either way, I was never concerned about any of that.

And I don't worry about it with me because I have my daughter. She knows my wishes and she and Master get along great so if anything happened to me I'm sure they both would work together. Before she was old enough to do so and before I met Master, I had sisters who have copies of all my wishes so again, I wasn't concerned.




I guess for me it was the way I was raised being a Brethren and where people were married through the church and not the government and there was never any kind of need for any kind of legalities.



Spiritedsub2 -> RE: Would you be open to marrying your submissive half? (6/11/2013 8:56:04 PM)

I've been wondering why the question is whether people would be open to marrying their sub, instead of just whether people are open to marrying.



littlewonder -> RE: Would you be open to marrying your submissive half? (6/11/2013 9:28:23 PM)

because it seems newbies see bdsm and vanilla as somehow being different when in reality they aren't.



JeffBC -> RE: Would you be open to marrying your submissive half? (6/11/2013 9:58:48 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2
I've been wondering why the question is whether people would be open to marrying their sub, instead of just whether people are open to marrying.

What a fascinating point. I hadn't even thought of the "sub" part of it.



Itsthetruth -> RE: Would you be open to marrying your submissive half? (6/12/2013 12:11:43 AM)

Marriage is just another form of "ownership".Just ask any "vanilla" guy who is married?The old "ball and chain" has earned that statement.The wedding ring is just another "collar" around the finger.D/s and marriage,are basically the same thing.



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Marriage was traditionally viewed as a form of ownership.




Dyfrynt -> RE: Would you be open to marrying your submissive half? (6/12/2013 9:37:38 AM)

Marriage has indeed traditionally been viewed as ownership. And, sadly, that perception seems stronger now than ever. It is very often an ownership demanded from both men and women these days. Two people marry and apparently their individual lives simply cease to exist. What a terrible, terrible shame.

Marriage, to me, is a partnership, not a straightjacket. I describe it as two orbiting bodies. Their orbits swing out into their own space, but always swing back together again at the end of the day. I guess I can say it works for my wife and me as we have some 30 years under our belt. We have friends together, she has friends of her own and I have friends of my own. Both of us have friends of both sexes.

When I collared my slave, I explained to her that it was as strong a bond as the ring around my wife's finger. Obviously not the same, but just as strong. We have now been together for 10 years, the latter five she has lived in our home, which is now her home too.

It may not be very conventional; it works for the three of us.



littlewonder -> RE: Would you be open to marrying your submissive half? (6/12/2013 6:57:27 PM)

what's so wrong when the individuals go from me to US and WE??? Master and I are not married but we are a we and us.



TheLilSquaw -> RE: Would you be open to marrying your submissive half? (6/12/2013 7:49:14 PM)

FR

My primary and I are building a life together but that doesn't include marriage unless specific circumstances came up.

My subs and slaves know marriage with me isn't in their cards.



kalikshama -> RE: Would you be open to marrying your submissive half? (6/13/2013 8:56:22 AM)

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I've been wondering why the question is whether people would be open to marrying their sub, instead of just whether people are open to marrying.


THIS question I'll answer :)

I've only been open to marriage twice - in 1987 and now.



JustAMas -> RE: Would you be open to marrying your submissive half? (8/4/2013 1:04:26 AM)

I would ONLY marry a submissive! I would not find anyone else attractive. Well, I wouldn't really know since apparently your "type" can actually change! But for me, I think it has been set quite firmly.



VictoriaLash -> RE: Would you be open to marrying your submissive half? (8/8/2013 8:09:10 AM)

I would love to find a sub who knows how to treat me and have a real relationship and marriage.
Its just hard to find someone who has all.
I like ALpha subs - men with powerful jobs who submit to me.
Its a turn on.



needlesandpins -> RE: Would you be open to marrying your submissive half? (8/9/2013 11:11:51 AM)

not only have I never wanted to be married, but after 16 years dedicated to someone who behaved like a complete cunt I never plan to make that mistake again either. I like the idea of having someone that loves me, and will tell me they love me, and I also would like the exclusivity. however, having to have that full on every day relationship again is a compromise too far to get the bits I want.

needles



LookieNoNookie -> RE: Would you be open to marrying your submissive half? (8/9/2013 5:06:10 PM)


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ORIGINAL: fun2playwith88

Just wondering how many people on here would be open to marrying their submissive partner.


If I married my submissive other partner....we'd have a negative submission factor and....I'm fairly confident we'd implode on impact.



Moonlightmaddnes -> RE: Would you be open to marrying your submissive half? (8/9/2013 5:26:11 PM)

We are married, have been since 1991. We are very happy. :)



BamaD -> RE: Would you be open to marrying your submissive half? (8/9/2013 8:12:30 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam

I won't get married again.

The first was enough of a living hell.

For me marriage is like Star trek.
The odd numbers suck but the even number are good enough to keep trying.



MasterofSteel -> RE: Would you be open to marrying your submissive half? (8/14/2013 1:10:17 AM)

People do sometimes the most strange things, but no, I could never marry a slave, in my eyes she would not be farther a slave, but just a submissive wife with a collar

I would also never marry a dog.



bbbecky -> RE: Would you be open to marrying your submissive half? (8/16/2013 12:39:48 AM)

I'm young only 20 (21 in Dec) But besides being drawn to bdsm I've always wanted to be married and have a bunch of kids. So if I can have the best/and worst (haha get it for better or worst...I know bad joke) of both worlds I want it. At this point I'm tipping my toe in the life style and just trying to learn about it so my focus is on the hubby and kids idea.



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