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RE: When You Hit a Brick Wall of Trust..... - 6/28/2006 12:12:26 AM

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Your words have much feeling behind them...it's obvious that you care a great deal about this person.

You are also one of the few that could and would be his greatest support systems in recovery. Unfortunately, it does not appear to be the right time in his life to address his issues...all of which is sad.

One of the hardest things to do is to be on the outside looking in. You know and are aware of his situation but nothing you say or do will have much effect on him. He just isn't ready...i am sure that the day will come, even if it is years down the road, he will realize all that you could have been for him...and in that token, you will be a pleasant memory...something he doesn't have many of.

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RE: When You Hit a Brick Wall of Trust..... - 6/28/2006 9:03:04 AM

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Thank you champagnewishes for you insight, deep inside me i know you are right, and i hope that that will be my compass, it has been several days now and the hurt is much less, and the perspective i have gained from this thread has been invaluable.

My greatest hope would be to be a happy memory for him.

I was just saying to a friend offline that i would be a mess if was not for this thread so i so appreciate every one that chimed in and offered such kindness and compassion, it has made me a better person.

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Your words have much feeling behind them...it's obvious that you care a great deal about this person.

You are also one of the few that could and would be his greatest support systems in recovery. Unfortunately, it does not appear to be the right time in his life to address his issues...all of which is sad.

One of the hardest things to do is to be on the outside looking in. You know and are aware of his situation but nothing you say or do will have much effect on him. He just isn't ready...i am sure that the day will come, even if it is years down the road, he will realize all that you could have been for him...and in that token, you will be a pleasant memory...something he doesn't have many of.

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RE: When You Hit a Brick Wall of Trust..... - 6/28/2006 10:28:30 AM

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To Lokisbrat (and anyone else who might be interested): I'm sorry Lokisbrat - I should have googled the title of the book myself. It is: "The Other Side: A Psychic's Tour of the Afterlife" by Sylvia Browne. She really does say that people choose who is going to be in their life before they are born - sometimes even everyone from importnat players in it (spouse, parents, dear freinds) to even "insignificant" people like the dry cleaning clerk. I think it's kind of fascinating. Good luck to Crouching Tigress (amy), I know she is hurting. - Susan

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RE: When You Hit a Brick Wall of Trust..... - 6/28/2006 11:37:14 AM

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SusanofO:
Thanks!!

I'm familiar with Sylvia. She's quite a character, but I'd love to have a cup of coffee with her!

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RE: When You Hit a Brick Wall of Trust..... - 6/28/2006 11:40:37 AM

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Yes - she is a colorful personality. I think she might be real (who knows)? I'd like to ask her which people might be watching me or trying to contact me.She does do periodic seminars in various cities; maybe she'll come to my town sometime.

- Susan

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RE: When You Hit a Brick Wall of Trust..... - 6/28/2006 2:50:35 PM

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My dear crouchingtigress---we hope that we provide two things as We go through this life:

1. A safe haven for honesty and openness
2. We leave everyone We touch better then We found them

You have succeeded in both---and you have become only stronger.

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RE: When You Hit a Brick Wall of Trust..... - 6/28/2006 3:05:42 PM

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thanks ...i dont know how safe though, i talked to him some more today and found out that i accidentally insulted him, and that is the core of why he pulled away....and the truth is i was an ass....i tried to draw a comparison to help him see a point i was making, but it back fired....and now he feels he cant trust me...

ugh.

not a good day for me.

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My dear crouchingtigress---we hope that we provide two things as We go through this life:

1. A safe haven for honesty and openness
2. We leave everyone We touch better then We found them

You have succeeded in both---and you have become only stronger.

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RE: When You Hit a Brick Wall of Trust..... - 6/28/2006 5:27:54 PM

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communication is a two way street, if you said something, he needed to open up and communicate, NOT pull away and give up on things--

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