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RE: need mentoring for intermediate level dom - 6/15/2013 12:05:43 PM

SimplyMichael

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Anyone who presents themselves to you,as a mentor at a party is likely an asshole who wants to play,with your partner.

Assholes like Kana above who don't give a shit and have nothing to gain will give you advice you won't want to hear. In,fact, not liking advice is often a sign it is good advice, which Kana's is...

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RE: need mentoring for intermediate level dom - 6/15/2013 5:57:38 PM

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ORIGINAL: Kana

I only know one way to be a dominant-My way or the highway.

But you do realize there are other successful ways? Sure you do........luci

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RE: need mentoring for intermediate level dom - 6/16/2013 7:37:04 AM

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ORIGINAL: slaveluci

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ORIGINAL: Kana

I only know one way to be a dominant-My way or the highway.

But you do realize there are other successful ways? Sure you do........luci

Absolutely.
They just don't work for me.

Everyone has their own style. No two are exactly the same (And that style will alter from partner to partner-kinda Heilelbergian in that the same truth applies to smaller and smaller levels) which is awesome. Find the one that works for you, rock that shit out.

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RE: need mentoring for intermediate level dom - 6/16/2013 9:30:51 AM

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mentoring for intermediate level dom

Every time I see this, I think of some game point system, and if he can only get enough dom points, he can advance to the next dom level.

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RE: need mentoring for intermediate level dom - 6/16/2013 10:27:09 AM

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and would like no more posts about it as it is not helpful. Thank you again

Oh now I remember you! Wants kink laid out as tab A, slot B so you can con uber sub into believing the lies you told her.
Didn't listen then & stomped off like a wilful child
Got what you deserve
Now STILL believe you get to boss around dominants because we refuse to play your little con game...uh yeah good luck with that!!!

This boys & girls is why reading instructions, meeting real live breathing kinksters (not just using munches for hunting) & listening to advice is so importamnt. Many of us will let those ignoring advice drown in the mess they lied their way into.

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RE: need mentoring for intermediate level dom - 6/16/2013 11:43:37 AM

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Kerbingo!

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RE: need mentoring for intermediate level dom - 6/23/2013 8:26:49 AM

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At the start of your relationship things seemed to be clear. Dude she is manipulating you. She is topping you from the bottom. she is telling you what to do. You have the control. There are so called subs who think they educate Doms. I have a question fot you. Do you want to keep her? Is she worth it? If she is teach her who is in control. Bieng Dom is not easy, No one saind it would be easy. Put her in place or send her packing.

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RE: need mentoring for intermediate level dom - 6/23/2013 8:54:46 AM

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ORIGINAL: MasterSignusNova

There are so called subs who think they educate Doms.

Only a weak person chooses someone they are incapable of learning from, or someone too insecure to admit they dont know everything.

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RE: need mentoring for intermediate level dom - 6/24/2013 11:58:44 PM

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ORIGINAL: postmanh22

I have recently realized my role as a dom through my relationship with a very experienced sub. She made me realize how much of a fit I was for the position and how much she wants me to be her dominant. I have set up rules and protocols with rewards and non-physical punishments and some light physical ones. Recently she informed me that she doesn't respect me as her dom because I don't "scare her". Or in better terms Idont have complete control of her . At least Ibelieve that's what she means. Id like any and all help in the form of someone I can contact every so often with questions like "if she does this I should do this".to better assume control and receive obedience. Thank you in advance. Mod edit: email address removed

She's topping from the bottom and controlling you. Dump her and find your own path.

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RE: need mentoring for intermediate level dom - 6/25/2013 12:22:44 AM

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ORIGINAL: Kana

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ORIGINAL: slaveluci

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ORIGINAL: Kana

I only know one way to be a dominant-My way or the highway.

But you do realize there are other successful ways? Sure you do........luci

Absolutely.
They just don't work for me.

Everyone has their own style. No two are exactly the same (And that style will alter from partner to partner-kinda Heilelbergian in that the same truth applies to smaller and smaller levels) which is awesome. Find the one that works for you, rock that shit out.

This x1000.
Relationships work on different levels. His works for him. I'm the same way, My way or the highway. Hubby is also like that.
Certain things that work on others don't work for us. There is no blueprint to this shit. There are slaves out there who won't respect anything less than the " my way or the highway" approach.

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RE: need mentoring for intermediate level dom - 6/25/2013 4:21:27 AM

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ORIGINAL: TAFKAA

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ORIGINAL: postmanh22

I have recently realized my role as a dom through my relationship with a very experienced sub. She made me realize how much of a fit I was for the position and how much she wants me to be her dominant. I have set up rules and protocols with rewards and non-physical punishments and some light physical ones. Recently she informed me that she doesn't respect me as her dom because I don't "scare her". Or in better terms Idont have complete control of her . At least Ibelieve that's what she means. Id like any and all help in the form of someone I can contact every so often with questions like "if she does this I should do this".to better assume control and receive obedience. Thank you in advance. Mod edit: email address removed

She's topping from the bottom and controlling you. Dump her and find your own path.

I agree about the topping from the bottom part. But I disagree about dumping her. This is a wonderful opportunity to see if he CAN be more decisive and controlling. The relationship is likely doomed, but OP can make one last stab at saving it, and find out about himself in the process.

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