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RE: questions?? - 6/19/2013 11:32:04 AM   
Rawni


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ORIGINAL: SwitchNSpanky


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ORIGINAL: Rawni

It might be an honest question... just as anything sexually or kink related, but it is a clueless man that asks such right off the bat.


Guess I jumped into this topic knee deep. (I never have before. Im usually very private). Ask whatever your curious about. I'll answer. If I can.


Oh you are fine. Really. I wasn't going for your throat or anything. It may be because of the mail that women get more often than men and what men say to the women that are total strangers to them, that you didn't see what someone could make of that. It was all in good fun.

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RE: questions?? - 6/19/2013 3:10:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		Once I filled out my profile on here and clearly stated I was just looking for friends, the amount of mail I got really decreased, simply because people could get an idea of what I was looking for and what I am about. I second the idea that you should fill out your profile.

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RE: questions?? - 6/19/2013 3:30:11 PM   
lizi


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Status: offline 		Filling out the profile is a great suggestion to getting an improvement in the quality of responses if that is what the OP is looking for, also, changing her main picture to something that isn't a body part. Men tend to react to what they see, if the OP wants more depth in her initial emails, she might consider putting out a different kind of image to represent herself.

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RE: questions?? - 6/19/2013 3:54:03 PM   
shiftyw


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ORIGINAL: lizi

Filling out the profile is a great suggestion to getting an improvement in the quality of responses if that is what the OP is looking for, also, changing her main picture to something that isn't a body part. Men tend to react to what they see, if the OP wants more depth in her initial emails, she might consider putting out a different kind of image to represent herself.


I was going to suggest this but...I am currently committing the same crime

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RE: questions?? - 6/19/2013 4:11:41 PM   
lizi


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ORIGINAL: shiftyw


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ORIGINAL: lizi

Filling out the profile is a great suggestion to getting an improvement in the quality of responses if that is what the OP is looking for, also, changing her main picture to something that isn't a body part. Men tend to react to what they see, if the OP wants more depth in her initial emails, she might consider putting out a different kind of image to represent herself.


I was going to suggest this but...I am currently committing the same crime


I can see where you're coming from, lol

Let's look at these two pics though. The OP has her lovely cleavage up front and center in a closeup while she is lying in a bed. She is amply endowed, to the point where you look and say...holy cow, great tits! She has on a bra, a bra that looks as though it might possible be enhancing her cleavage to the point where it is even more in the viewer's face. Her breasts are about 3/4ths of the picture content.

Your picture Shiftyw is you in a classy looking dress that enhances your breasts while not thrusting them up and out of the dress. You are sitting on a stool/seat, the setting kind of implies you are out and about in a social setting. It's more the type of picture that a man would look at and think wow...that's the kind of woman that my co-workers would envy if they saw her with me. Your breasts are about 1/4th of the picture content.

All I'm saying is that the men who will be distracted by breasts may find the OP's picture more distracting, and therefore they may react in a more pronounced knee jerk fashion.

Both pictures are quite breathtaking in their own ways, both may prevent the women using them to find more meaningful correspondence with potential partners. It's a consideration that either of you may want to take under advisement.

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RE: questions?? - 6/20/2013 6:21:02 AM   
SunTzuSwe


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Status: offline 		Do people really do that for real? Send a questionare in a first contact?

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RE: questions?? - 6/20/2013 7:26:44 AM   
Killerangel


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ORIGINAL: SunTzuSwe

Do people really do that for real? Send a questionare in a first contact?



I haven't had any questionnaires, but I have had a guy send me a contract in a first contact that outlined in great detail what he expected in general areas and intimate ones over the course of my life with him. Idiot.

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RE: questions?? - 6/20/2013 7:30:55 AM   
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ORIGINAL: shiftyw


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ORIGINAL: lizi

Filling out the profile is a great suggestion to getting an improvement in the quality of responses if that is what the OP is looking for, also, changing her main picture to something that isn't a body part. Men tend to react to what they see, if the OP wants more depth in her initial emails, she might consider putting out a different kind of image to represent herself.


I was going to suggest this but...I am currently committing the same crime

And doing a beautiful job of it I'd like to say

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RE: questions?? - 6/20/2013 12:40:06 PM   
shiftyw


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ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam


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ORIGINAL: shiftyw


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ORIGINAL: lizi

Filling out the profile is a great suggestion to getting an improvement in the quality of responses if that is what the OP is looking for, also, changing her main picture to something that isn't a body part. Men tend to react to what they see, if the OP wants more depth in her initial emails, she might consider putting out a different kind of image to represent herself.


I was going to suggest this but...I am currently committing the same crime

And doing a beautiful job of it I'd like to say


Thank you!

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RE: questions?? - 6/20/2013 2:31:23 PM   
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ORIGINAL: lizi
All I'm saying is that the men who will be distracted by breasts may find the OP's picture more distracting, and therefore they may react in a more pronounced knee jerk fashion.

I find shiftyw's avatar pic to be classy and alluring. I find the OP's pic to be a turn-off, and it would cause me not to write to her. Reason: correctly or incorrectly, the photo says to me that the OP does not consider her mind to be her most important asset.

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RE: questions?? - 6/20/2013 2:34:04 PM   
OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: SunTzuSwe

Do people really do that for real? Send a questionare in a first contact?


You'd be shocked at some of the things guys send as a first contact. Most of it is the epitome of social ineptness.


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RE: questions?? - 6/20/2013 2:49:52 PM   
lizi


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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

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ORIGINAL: lizi
All I'm saying is that the men who will be distracted by breasts may find the OP's picture more distracting, and therefore they may react in a more pronounced knee jerk fashion.

I find shiftyw's avatar pic to be classy and alluring. I find the OP's pic to be a turn-off, and it would cause me not to write to her. Reason: correctly or incorrectly, the photo says to me that the OP does not consider her mind to be her most important asset.


I'd agree wholeheartedly. It's a matter of in your face, this is what is important about me, socially inept, compared to I'm a classy package, and know how to socially market myself so that men are attracted to me yet wish to know more.

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RE: questions?? - 6/20/2013 2:56:05 PM   
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i am new to collar me and have been bombed with emails from Doms and i realize there is a period of getting to know a person...but what is with the men who send a questionaire...is this something i should avoid?


I tell women who have done the same thing (send a questionnaire over): "when you offer to transfer existing balances over for 0% for the first 12 months, or offer free delivery....I'll fill out your form...until then, go find yourself some other poor sap".

(Said of course, in the most submissive of ways, natch).

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RE: questions?? - 6/20/2013 3:02:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		I def would never send a questionnaire on the first contact I made with someone.

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RE: questions?? - 6/20/2013 8:33:29 PM   
MasterCaneman


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Status: offline 		On the rare occasion I do contact someone, I keep it down to about a paragraph at most. I figure their profile should answer 90% of any questions I may have about that person before I even consider contact. Basically just a "Hello, you sound interesting, want to talk?" or something along those lines. Then again, I'm not really looking for a hookup either, but still, I know how to talk to a woman in the real world in a manner that won't send them screaming off into the night. Although I am perfectly capable of that as well...

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RE: questions?? - 6/20/2013 10:00:40 PM   
Tezzireth42


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Status: offline 		See my go to thing when I first message someone on here if the opposite sex (regardless of role) is usually like: "Hello there madame. How are you today?" And in my eyes that isn't a terrible way to try and start a conversation with someone and still be respectful. Unfortunately for every... Lets say ten messages I send I only get about one reply. And of those replies only about 1 in 20 actually end up in a conversation.

Now all the messages I receive from someone without sending them one first is always a fake account.

So to put it bluntly: Welcome to the internet.

But on a more positive more welcome to CM. Hopefully you will at least get something useful by being here.

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RE: questions?? - 6/21/2013 12:22:58 PM   
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"Hello there madame. How are you today?" And in my eyes that isn't a terrible way to try and start a conversation with someone and still be respectful. Unfortunately for every... Lets say ten messages I send I only get about one reply. And of those replies only about 1 in 20 actually end up in a conversation.


Well, what else is there to say other than, "Fine, thanks, and you?" I respond to messages that indicate he's read my profile and is not sending the same messages to other women.

As a sub, I'd find being addressed as "madame" by a dominant odd.

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RE: questions?? - 6/21/2013 12:32:32 PM   
lizi


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Status: offline 		Let me chime in as well and say I'm not sure I'd also find a Dominant addressing me as madame as odd. At least ask a question in your initial message so she'll have something to write back to you about.

Your sample first email is not going to net you great results, I'd read it and move on. Try to add something as Kali suggested that shows you read the profile, something that's funny if you can think of it, and ask a question of some kind. I'd also use their username instead of madame.

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RE: questions?? - 6/21/2013 3:18:48 PM   
Kana


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Status: offline 		I've occasionally sent a questionnaire to a gal after talking to her for some time.
It helps to get to know her better. Now, these aren't sex oriented, usually more stuff like, "What's your favorite color?" sorta stuff...
I've never had much problem with them.In fact, usually the last question is, "Do you have any questions for me?" and the instant response is, "Can you answer this questionnaire?"
So it cuts both ways and we both get to know each other better.

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RE: questions?? - 6/21/2013 7:49:52 PM   
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I've occasionally sent a questionnaire to a gal after talking to her for some time.
It helps to get to know her better. Now, these aren't sex oriented, usually more stuff like, "What's your favorite color?" sorta stuff...
I've never had much problem with them.In fact, usually the last question is, "Do you have any questions for me?" and the instant response is, "Can you answer this questionnaire?"
So it cuts both ways and we both get to know each other better.


I never got one of those from you.

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