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RE: Rape play advice - 6/24/2013 2:41:36 PM

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I know... :P It's not that I can't overpower her, it's just that it sounds hard to do that and have sex at the same time. I can't get it in there if she keeps moving about.

Women don't normally fight back or struggle against their raper because they are usually too terrified or frightened to do so usually due to threat of death. What you need to do is allow her to resist and fight back at first until she finally gives in and gives up the sex. Otherwise, yeah....don't know how you're supposed to get it in if she's pushing you off the entire time.

I find it incredibly hard to believe that women don't normally fight back when someone is attempting to rape them. I was raped when I was 19 and I fought the entire time.

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RE: Rape play advice - 6/24/2013 5:49:46 PM

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I find it hard to believe also.

I've never been raped, but I'd imagine no response from a victim is "normal" in that no two people respond the same way. I would think some may go into a state of shock, not fighting, but others may do their damnedest to fight off their attacker.
I'd like to think I'd be in the latter group.

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RE: Rape play advice - 6/24/2013 5:52:42 PM

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I know... :P It's not that I can't overpower her, it's just that it sounds hard to do that and have sex at the same time. I can't get it in there if she keeps moving about.

Women don't normally fight back or struggle against their raper because they are usually too terrified or frightened to do so usually due to threat of death. What you need to do is allow her to resist and fight back at first until she finally gives in and gives up the sex. Otherwise, yeah....don't know how you're supposed to get it in if she's pushing you off the entire time.

I find it incredibly hard to believe that women don't normally fight back when someone is attempting to rape them. I was raped when I was 19 and I fought the entire time.

There was a man that attempted to rape me when I was 14. I broke his foot, kneed him in the groin and then broke his nose. I was really pissed off and those self defense classes really paid off.

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RE: Rape play advice - 6/24/2013 6:02:42 PM

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I was raped. I didn't have the ability to fight back, for several reasons, including threats, and shock/disassociation that set in pretty quickly. I don't particularly like to discuss it on a message board, but both responses are certainly understandable/"normal" responses.

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RE: Rape play advice - 6/24/2013 6:08:09 PM

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Having a gun held to you and told that if you move he will shoot you is one good reason you don't fight back. Many who are raped either go into shock or are threatened so they can't fight back or they are physically overpowered.

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RE: Rape play advice - 6/26/2013 7:35:45 AM

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I think I understand what you want... You want to surprise her with the rape. No one knows her routine better than you... so think as you follow her around for a week where you would jump her bones when you get horny. then figure out if this is a safe place to do this activiity.. Sfor instances can anyone hear us or see us..

Also you can invite her someplace to meet you.

Also I think too she have limits also. Yes she can fight back however the more she fights back that more you have to overcome her. so the both of you have to setlimits.. Maybe have some wrestling matches where you two can communicate back and worth what is ok and what is too much... then do the rape scenario.

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RE: Rape play advice - 6/29/2013 2:12:51 PM

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I enjoy rape play and fighting back.

The easiest way my sadist get me restrained is by forcing me in my stomach and using zip ties to bind my wrists. Do not use rope. It is quite ridiculous in rape play. Rope takes quite a while and if a female is being raped, is she really just going to sit there and let you tie her? No.

Is she okay with beatings? I don't mean struggle and wrestling, but is she okay with being punched and kicked? If so, do it. Weapons can also be fun, but for those experienced with them.

Also, if you want to make it seem more "real", try a hunt, take down and capture. Woods or an abandoned building is great for this.

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RE: Rape play advice - 6/29/2013 2:54:38 PM

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I know... :P It's not that I can't overpower her, it's just that it sounds hard to do that and have sex at the same time. I can't get it in there if she keeps moving about.

See, I think with a 'proper rape', you're supposed to enjoy her struggling and using your muscles on her - it actually adds to your feeling of being turned on. Or so I hear.

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RE: Rape play advice - 6/29/2013 3:03:22 PM

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I was really pissed off

That was possibly the most unnecessary five words I've ever seen in any of your posts.

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RE: Rape play advice - 6/30/2013 4:30:49 AM

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Love rape play, either with one or more guys. Unfortunately I dont have a regular partner so parameters have to be set each time but I very much agree with Leesalove as to how the play should run.
Make it as real as possible, let it flow and go for it.
Consensual play that looks like it isn't.

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RE: Rape play advice - 6/30/2013 4:43:16 AM

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I think this is the one time I am going to decline myself to write any elaborations on my past.

That being said, rape play seems both very intresting and frightening. I would wonder if rape play could take back for some of you that type of event. I know I personally cannot focus during vanilla sex, it terrifies me and I shut downBut I do well enough if Im going into it knowing Im going to be well, you know ;)

I think that you have to go in with safe words and a real logistic plan in place.This will happen, than tnis.this is the safe word or action. I mean,you want it to feel real,but not to the point where it is real.

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RE: Rape play advice - 6/30/2013 4:55:15 PM

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Strength and confidence...be unshakable and forceful but not freaking out and frenetic.

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RE: Rape play advice - 6/30/2013 6:47:24 PM

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Some women will fight, some wont.
I don't know this from experience but I'm assuming there are different types of thinks that happen. Shock was mentioned, gun was mentioned. Perhaps if the rapist was small and twerpy, the woman may feel like she could take him. Who knows?

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RE: Rape play advice - 6/30/2013 6:54:33 PM

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The first thing I tell a guy who wants to be 'raped' is that it's always in quotations, and then we have a brief discussion about his limits.
And then I seem to forget we had discussed it, and things go on as usual for several weeks, to lull him into [hah!] submission, and then: POUNCE!
Every good Canadian girl knows the quickest way to surprise and immobilise a man is to pull his shirt half-way over his head as in a classic hockey fight. Tie his shoes together [or big toes if he's barefoot], whisper he better be nice or else, get out the gaffer tape [duct tape if you want to depilatorise him after you deflower him] and the strapon, and ride him, cowgirl!

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