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RE: Overweight bdsm women - 6/27/2006 9:55:15 PM   
MistressSonya


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ORIGINAL: sixstrokes

Why does bdsm appear to attract far more than its' fair share of overweight women?


I dont feel like there is any more overweight women in the lifestyle then in the nilla world.. but I do feel that overweight women and men in the lifestyle are more out in the open.. not hiding themselves.. not ashamed to show off.
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RE: Overweight bdsm women - 6/27/2006 9:57:21 PM   
litleone8620


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Please, no more!!

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RE: Overweight bdsm women - 6/27/2006 9:58:48 PM   
dinaflower


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Status: offline 		well im sorry we bother you. but you knwo with bigger ladies theres just that much more to love

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RE: Overweight bdsm women - 6/27/2006 9:59:35 PM   
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ORIGINAL: QuietDom

Just because of an unbearable urge to be the devil's advocate, I'm going to put myself squarely in the path of vilification, here.  (And I don't know whether this counts as sadism or masochism.  Probably both.)

I Prefer Thin Subs!!!

Now that I've outed myself as a loathsome bigot, and the flamethrowers are being set to 'full power,' I'll use my few last words to explain my thoughts; First, I myself am rail-thin.  Nearly skeletal.  And it's very hard to feel powerful and imposing when your sub has forearms thicker than your own thighs.

Second, I enjoy being able to pick a sub up and carry her around.  It makes me feel very strong and in charge.  And there are physical limits to how much I can lift.

That's all.  Let the flames fly.


QuietDom
   there is NOTHING wrong with prefering thin over larger/plus size, that is your preference.. just some ppl perfer blondes.  I prefer larger subs.. because with the smaller ladies I always feel like I'm going to break them
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RE: Overweight bdsm women - 6/27/2006 10:04:42 PM   
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RE: Overweight bdsm women - 6/27/2006 10:09:49 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Noah

Really though, mustn't the reason for all the well upholstered women in the neighborhood be the preponderance of good taste and open-mindedness among the men around here?


I think it was the philosopher R.L. Burnside who said:

Why a man don't want no skinny womens is 'cause
meat don't shake.
Now
shake it one time fo' me!




<SMILING>at "well upholstered women"  I like that....too cute

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RE: Overweight bdsm women - 6/27/2006 10:10:45 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Caretakr

The levels of negativity in this thread have dropped to astounding levels. If this is what can be expected from so many overweight people, I can understand why you remain alone.

And it's not about how you look.
Your post as quoted above is posted/directed in reply to me, yet i am at a loss as to what you are talking about. Are you at a loss as well ?  Or could you please clarify?

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RE: Overweight bdsm women - 6/27/2006 10:17:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		i learned a really good lesson a couple years ago and feel like it should be shared here.  i was raised to be conscious of what other people thought of me and to never associate with anyone that was, well not pleasant to look at.  my parents made archie bunker look like a liberal and acorns don't generally roll to far from the big tree!  well i met someone, not a life partner but a person.  he is very homely, very portly, kinda bald but not entirely, has every old age disease you could wish for including that he poops in a bag at his waist.  ok there is a point here.  this man, this wonderful person has become my chosen father figure.  where my father is less than fatherly and hit every type of abuse you can imagine and that's where i will stop that thought... this other man stepped into the breach and gave me hope again.  yes i am not slim... i hesitate to use the accepted bbw title as to me i've always thought of beached baby whale and that's just so unacceptable to myself and the lovely women that don't deserve to be ridiculed.  honestly a 20 yo body is tight and gravity hasn't waged an ugly war with it however the body is bound with skin, the person inside is still the same, fun, loving, happy and caring individual that she was in a smaller dress size.  everyone has heard how the wrap isn't the gift and not everyone can be a '10' in today's current society.  when i've looked on the other sites at the men's wants, both kink & vanilla, no one wishes for a heavy woman, some are accepting but no one says... hey, save that lil heifer for me... she's my ideal!!!
back to the wonderful man here... with all the outside extras and internal ailments... he is the most delightful person to be around.  he makes me happy and so glad to just be.  i think the people that want someone svelt and attractive (to just use one description) are really limiting themselves but it's their life, their loss and the sad thing is they aren't even aware of it.
if i could find one man half the person as the wonderful man i am speaking of... i would be ridiculously happy.  i've learned that to find a rare jewel, you need to dig deep, remove the wrapping and really look at the gift inside otherwise you are window shopping and will never ever find a true gem.
i am not bitter.  i've learned to live and take care of myself and my home that i am purchasing yet i do desire to have someone in my life to help me focus and keep certain things in sight.  i've heard and i think it's appropriate here to repeat it... you can change fat, you can't change stupid.  it's the stupid that are narrow minded bigots that think they are superior.  stupid is as stupid does... 'nuf said

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RE: Overweight bdsm women - 6/27/2006 10:23:03 PM   
Caretakr


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Status: offline 		I was replying to another who asked me about it-I guess you were also posting at the same moment that I hit send-so it got attriubed to you.

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RE: Overweight bdsm women - 6/27/2006 11:31:11 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sixstrokes

Why does bdsm appear to attract far more than its' fair share of overweight women?


Some people really like living dangerously, don't they?  Do you make a point of standing under trees in thunderstorms?

But in all seriousness...it would be interesting if someone actually did some research on any of these oft' lofted assertions --such as Submissives are more likely to have been abused in childhood or  Those involved in D/s are more likely to have 'issues' with self esteem. 

So if someone actually has a social research background and access to funding why not sling together a proposal and maybe we could find out once and for all how big we all are (or aren't)?  Or does anyone know of any genuine research that's already been done?  (I suppose you could do a very quick and dirty study by looking at the weight admitted to by women at collar me compared to the weights at vanilla dating sites...but that might be skewed by a greater tendency here to be prepared to admit to greater mass on the expectation of greater acceptance....so I doubt it would tell you anything at all unless you took far more care of selecting your sample.)

Meanwhile, I'll just go on being as big as I am and smaller than I once was and won't believe that it's part of any trend based on my sexual activities.

Laura

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RE: Overweight bdsm women - 6/27/2006 11:36:43 PM   
titching


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Status: offline 		indy, i'd like to see these stats that say many have self esteem issues.. or many bbws were molested as children or adults. this is an interesting statistic. i'm a fat girl, i dont say bbw since i'm short, that is neither here nor there. however statements like this make it seem like submissive bbws mostly come from troubled homes or troubled pasts and have little to no self esteem. are you only saying that bbws have these issues... alot of thin people were abused, alot of them have self esteem issues. lets not make generalizations based on your limited experience, unless you have some serious stats to back this up and compare to Doms, subs, switches, male, female, transgender straight or bi, fat, thin or average.... dont make assumptions based on a stereo-type. 

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RE: Overweight bdsm women - 6/28/2006 12:09:00 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

---regardless of weight, this slave body looks distorted and even at 110 pounds looked "overweight" in the mirror.  currently, at  5'7", weighing 145~the BMI thingee on the scale tells this slave she is "obese"...


beth

Then buy new scales, the BMI indicator on your current ones is just plain wrong!  I'm 5'3.5" and, at around 150 pounds, I'm only just 'over the border' into being clinically overweight and was 'obese' when I weighed 180.  So unless you've got a whole lot shorter since you weighed 110 pounds the idea that you are clinically obese doesn't make sense.

If you don't believe me, try this body mass index calculator:
http://www.halls.md/body-mass-index/av.htm

I know that mere facts won't affect how you feel about your body and how you view it, but I just wanted to be straight about the medical guidance on this.  At your current weight and height you're definitely in the normal range.

Laura

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RE: Overweight bdsm women - 6/28/2006 12:26:18 AM   
gentlethistle


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ORIGINAL: Invictus754

Learn how to use an apostrophe. 


How glad I am to know that I wasn't the only one more troubled by the spurious apostrophe in its than by the actual question!

I think that for many people it's more a case of learning how to not use an apostrophe....but this is just my own personal preference etc etc etc....I'm not asserting that there's a greater preponderance of dodgy punctuation in BDSM forums than....blah, blah, blah...

Laura

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RE: Overweight bdsm women - 6/28/2006 12:31:40 AM   
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But in all seriousness...it would be interesting if someone actually did some research on any of these oft' lofted assertions --such as Submissives are more likely to have been abused in childhood or  Those involved in D/s are more likely to have 'issues' with self esteem. 

So if someone actually has a social research background and access to funding why not sling together a proposal and maybe we could find out once and for all how big we all are (or aren't)?  Or does anyone know of any genuine research that's already been done?  (I suppose you could do a very quick and dirty study by looking at the weight admitted to by women at collar me compared to the weights at vanilla dating sites...but that might be skewed by a greater tendency here to be prepared to admit to greater mass on the expectation of greater acceptance....so I doubt it would tell you anything at all unless you took far more care of selecting your sample.)
I've been seriously answering this "fat women" curiosity with this similar idea, but no one takes me seriously.
Instead all we end up having is "it's an honest question?"  To which I call BS!
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litleone8620
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You don't want to keep doing that, very bad for your health, and it's gonna hurt like a mutha.   M

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RE: Overweight bdsm women - 6/28/2006 1:37:50 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Invictus754

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ORIGINAL: sixstrokes  Why does bdsm appear to attract far more than its' fair share of overweight women?


Ahh, sixstrokes [ and by the way... just exactly to what does your name refer?  Hopefully not your sexual prowess!  Unless you consider six strokes more than a woman's fair share, of course.] ... for professing to have a 'reasonable build' you don't do us the favor of pasting your picture on the web.  Offering the lame excuse that collarme wouldn't accept your photos is pretty funny.  I would guess that this is a posting of a man who can't attract the "skinny" girls he can abuse, and certainly would be scared of trying to dom some of the larger women who might just kick your dumb ass if you asked that question of them directly. 
 
If you were truly a dom, you wouldn't be asking this question. 
 
IMHO, of course.  
 
P.S.: Learn how to use an apostrophe.  Maybe if you had a command of the English language, you would be in command of more thin girls.

Then all I can suggest is that it is a good job your 'opinion' on whats 'twu' isn't really important to the majority of people.
 
Did you actually read the op or just decide to charge in with insults, guns blazing?
 
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RE: Overweight bdsm women - 6/28/2006 1:45:34 AM   
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Question -
 
At 15 or so pages later, are people actually bothering to read all the comments and understand the OP?  Or are people just seeing the word 'overweight' and going - 'oh yay - fight!'?
 
I will repeat.  The amount of people responding to this thread has not only upheld the OP s original question, but proved it.
 
'Nuff said.
 
Now the question should be - why?
 
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RE: Overweight bdsm women - 6/28/2006 4:12:27 AM   
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ORIGINAL: FelinePersuasion

Why does someone at least once a month on the dot post pointless questions like this?

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ORIGINAL: sixstrokes

Why does bdsm appear to attract far more than its' fair share of overweight women?



Why do women once a month have a period ?? .... because thats life ... we deal with it the best we can and we move on

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RE: Overweight bdsm women - 6/28/2006 4:28:48 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Invictus754


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ORIGINAL: sixstrokes  Why does bdsm appear to attract far more than its' fair share of overweight women?



Ahh, sixstrokes [ and by the way... just exactly to what does your name refer?  Hopefully not your sexual prowess!  Unless you consider six strokes more than a woman's fair share, of course.] ... for professing to have a 'reasonable build' you don't do us the favor of pasting your picture on the web.  Offering the lame excuse that collarme wouldn't accept your photos is pretty funny.  I would guess that this is a posting of a man who can't attract the "skinny" girls he can abuse, and certainly would be scared of trying to dom some of the larger women who might just kick your dumb ass if you asked that question of them directly. 
 
If you were truly a dom, you wouldn't be asking this question. 
 
IMHO, of course.  
 
P.S.: Learn how to use an apostrophe.  Maybe if you had a command of the English language, you would be in command of more thin girls.

Well Invictus I see you describe yourself as a "a handsome, educated dominant male" - you missed a comma out but it would be infantile of me to pick up on a slight grammatical error :) - so why did you feel the need to comment on my error when the site is littered with mistakes which really do not bother anyone

Essentially your post contains insulting conjecture on your behalf about what you think I may be like based on little information - well done :)

In reply to the lady who stated that i am still here so i have not been censored - one of my threads has been removed and i may well be still here only because i brought it to general attention that i had been threatened with removal - and in any event to my mind the threat is censorship in itself.

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RE: Overweight bdsm women - 6/28/2006 4:30:20 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sixstrokes

Why does bdsm appear to attract far more than its' fair share of overweight women?


I am starting to think its so that once a month, someone can start a thread on weight that will lead to 20 pages of "What's with all the fat chicks?  Who the hell are you insulting, I rock you shallow jerk.  Its a health thing, you're gonna die of a heart attack.  Yes, its a health thing, insulting people considerably larger than you usually results in a skinny snapped neck." It seems to be a strange blog ritual. 


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RE: Overweight bdsm women - 6/28/2006 4:37:59 AM   
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Status: offline 		Your post pretty much proves that you didn't bother to read the thread.

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