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RE: BDSM in four words - 6/25/2013 5:48:59 PM

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Oh do me, do me...

I'm sexually submissive but only with certain men and socially dominant across the board, hate pain but enjoy extremely painful edge play, I'm an absolute sadist, I adore bondage but only when I'm the subject, and micromanaging somebody else is so enjoyable to me that it makes me feel "high" and giddy...

Oh wait... trying to classify me in the system you've come up with doesn't work... not in any combination of shuffling the acronym around.

Hmmmm I wonder who else here is to complex an individual to be identified with a simple sequence of four letters? Everybody? Yup, that's what I thought...

Maybe instead of using silly shortcuts people could instead, ya know, talk, to get to know each other's quirks?

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RE: BDSM in four words - 6/25/2013 5:52:38 PM

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Woman, you forget that most people are NOT more complicated than a few letters...

Luckily a few are though!

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RE: BDSM in four words - 6/25/2013 6:05:59 PM

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Oh come on Michael, CUNT and PRICK don't count, stick with his system.

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RE: BDSM in four words - 6/25/2013 6:14:16 PM

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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar

Oh do me, do me...

I'm sexually submissive but only with certain men and socially dominant across the board, hate pain but enjoy extremely painful edge play, I'm an absolute sadist, I adore bondage but only when I'm the subject, and micromanaging somebody else is so enjoyable to me that it makes me feel "high" and giddy...

Oh wait... trying to classify me in the system you've come up with doesn't work... not in any combination of shuffling the acronym around.

Hmmmm I wonder who else here is to complex an individual to be identified with a simple sequence of four letters? Everybody? Yup, that's what I thought...

Maybe instead of using silly shortcuts people could instead, ya know, talk, to get to know each other's quirks?

NUTZ

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RE: BDSM in four words - 6/25/2013 6:21:27 PM

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Oh shush slave girl, lest I put another hand on your other cheek.

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RE: BDSM in four words - 6/25/2013 6:32:12 PM

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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar

Oh do me, do me...

I'm sexually submissive but only with certain men and socially dominant across the board, hate pain but enjoy extremely painful edge play, I'm an absolute sadist, I adore bondage but only when I'm the subject, and micromanaging somebody else is so enjoyable to me that it makes me feel "high" and giddy...

Oh wait... trying to classify me in the system you've come up with doesn't work... not in any combination of shuffling the acronym around.

Hmmmm I wonder who else here is to complex an individual to be identified with a simple sequence of four letters? Everybody? Yup, that's what I thought...

Maybe instead of using silly shortcuts people could instead, ya know, talk, to get to know each other's quirks?

You're a "MMM! UNICORN."

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RE: BDSM in four words - 6/25/2013 6:37:34 PM

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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar

Oh shush slave girl, lest I put another hand on your other cheek.

Uh huh... like that is some detriment... err... I mean....

Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!

Can I bend over now?

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RE: BDSM in four words - 6/25/2013 6:46:39 PM

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I saw this thread.

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RE: BDSM in four words - 6/25/2013 7:57:13 PM

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ORIGINAL: SeekingTrinity

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ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders

I think he wants you to arrange the initials in 'BDSM' in the order of their appeal to you.

I also suspect there's some translation issues.

Ah, ok. Makes more sense now. Kept asking myself what the hell I was reading. Read it again. Still asking WTF. And finally just said fuck it and suffered a trip instead to the 7th circle of hell...a.k.a grocery shopping.

Rearranging BDSM still doesn't make sense to me, OP. BDSM is a universally understood concept (or misunderstood depending on whether or not someone is into it), whereas if I say Im into DBMS, MDSB, or whatever other combinations there are of these 4 letters...it's likely Im going to be asked what the fuck Im talking about. If it ain't broke, don't fix it

But I will say I do like DMB...but that's Dave Matthews Band

I disagree. It should be important for everyone to find their sexual drive, how else would you know what you are looking for in BDSM, some are unsure of their sexual drive, and need time to find themselves, and that's perfectly okay. But everyone finds their sexual drive at some point and should be able to put the words in order.

If you ask someone about their sexuality, then you will most time get a straight answer, and most people know what they're looking for, whatever you are gay, lesbian, straight, bisexual, trans, shemale, or whatever, only very few will say they are all sexuality equally.

Here is an example of an extreme combination.

A Dominant whose sexual drive is Masochism he loves Discipline and enjoying Sadism is not so much to Bondage.
His perfect match would look like this
A Sub whose sexual drive is Sadism she loves Discipline and enjoying Masosochisme and is not so much to Bondage.
Their combinations looks like this MDSB and SDSB Dom will train his sub to inflict him with pain. so their BDSM relationship is MDSB + SDSB = equal

But if Dominant found a Sub whose sexual drive is Masochism she loves Bondage enjoying Discipline is not so much to Sadism her combination is MBDS
and together will their BDSM relationship look like this MDSB + MBDS = unequal

Equal BDSM relationship can probably last a very long time and Unequal BDSM relationship holds probably not so long

This is only a philosophic word play, you can try to find your own combination, or you can play word game with which you found here in the collarme, and see how far you are from each other.

My guess is that it's easier to find what you are looking for if you know what you are looking for, but it's only a guess

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RE: BDSM in four words - 6/25/2013 8:05:23 PM

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ORIGINAL: SoulAlloy

tis just a game (the thread that is), albeit a bit hard to follow. Personally I'd be MBDS if I followed it correctly, though that'd change periodically with my mood, though M or B would always be one of the first two letters.

The bondage you like is it painfull?

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RE: BDSM in four words - 6/25/2013 8:32:33 PM

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BDSM stands for Bondage Dicipline Sadisme Masochisme and only that D/S is top and bottom and notthing more same goes for M/S. So If you are a Dominant and your sexual drive is to dominate, then your first word would be Discipline.

Example of a Dominant whose sexual drive is Discipline and love Bondage Sadism enjoys, and not so much for Masochism such combination is DBSM.

You can try to play or not, this is up to you.

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RE: BDSM in four words - 6/25/2013 8:35:13 PM

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It's interesting that all your examples assume that a person would necessarily not enjoy whichever letter comes last. Why is that?

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RE: BDSM in four words - 6/25/2013 9:37:41 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar

Oh do me, do me...

I'm sexually submissive but only with certain men and socially dominant across the board, hate pain but enjoy extremely painful edge play, I'm an absolute sadist, I adore bondage but only when I'm the subject, and micromanaging somebody else is so enjoyable to me that it makes me feel "high" and giddy...

Oh wait... trying to classify me in the system you've come up with doesn't work... not in any combination of shuffling the acronym around.

Hmmmm I wonder who else here is to complex an individual to be identified with a simple sequence of four letters? Everybody? Yup, that's what I thought...

Maybe instead of using silly shortcuts people could instead, ya know, talk, to get to know each other's quirks?

Maybe you just need more time to experiment before you find your combination.

And the play has nothing to do with the combination.

My combination is SBDM and it stays the same whether I am Dom / Master / Trainer / Daddy / this are just top roles

And whatever play i am in
school Play
rape play
dog play
pony play
egde play
race play
or whatever
remains my combination the same SBDM.

You can use the word game as a shortcut or use it to philosophize or for fun it's up to you.

For myself, I have a bit of fun to think about my perfect match, my perfect slave girl combination is MBDS and when looking at the combination, I see a slave that is hard to train, she would probably make many mistakes, and my whip would never gather dust. but this is just funny philosophical thoughts.

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RE: BDSM in four words - 6/25/2013 9:46:10 PM

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Maybe you just need more time to experiment before you find your combination.

LOL

The idea that after a decade and a half, and having tried just about anything there is to try in BDSM, on all ends of the spectrum, especially the extreme I need to experiment more to figure out who I am is very very funny.

Darling, the more I've learned and evolved, the more complex I've become... something I've observed in most long term kinksters btw.

10 years ago you're little acronym game would have worked for me... but that time is long gone, and I don't imagine myself ever getting "more simplified" again. Not unless entropic decay catches up with my brain that is.

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RE: BDSM in four words - 6/25/2013 10:22:38 PM

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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar

It's interesting that all your examples assume that a person would necessarily not enjoy whichever letter comes last. Why is that?

As I write "not so much" does not mean you do not like it, but it's the last thing on the list of what you like. If I were a switch I would have 2 combinations SBDM and MBDS or I can write it M / SBDM / S.

One can also find the combination from the rear
What can you live without in BDSM
If you can only choose 3 words
Answer Bondage, Discipline, Sadism
What can you live without in BDSM
If you can only choose 2 words
Answers Bondage, Sadism
What can you live without in BDSM
If you can only choose one word
Bondage, Sadism
So my combination is SBDM.

But if I had to put my combination 17-18 years back it would look like this S / MM / SBD so i do think it kan changs over the years, but probably not for everyone, for some it will probably remain the same always

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RE: BDSM in four words - 6/25/2013 10:30:55 PM

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I saw this thread.

So did I. I also saw others about teargas and allergies.

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RE: BDSM in four words - 6/25/2013 11:18:51 PM

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I originally thought BDSM stands for Bondage-Discipline-Sadism-Masochism.

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RE: BDSM in four words - 6/25/2013 11:28:34 PM

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I am clearly "sexually submissive" towards Dominant Females. That has always been the case for me since I was very young and still continues to this very day.

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RE: BDSM in four words - 6/25/2013 11:31:19 PM

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ORIGINAL: hrxxx
I disagree. It should be important for everyone to find their sexual drive, how else would you know what you are looking for in BDSM, some are unsure of their sexual drive, and need time to find themselves, and that's perfectly okay. But everyone finds their sexual drive at some point and should be able to put the words in order.

Perhaps, though we have many sexual drives, as I mentioned before my acronym would vary day to day, and it only encompasses what lies within those four words. It doesn't cover fetishism which also covers a part of my sexual drive for example.
Others will only attribute themselves to half the equation within the restrictive terms (liking D/s relationships but not s/m and vice versa)

And to answer your other question, I like my bondage strict and intense or controlling, painful no - my masochism works on a basis of short to medium bursts of pain, not constant pain.

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RE: BDSM in four words - 6/25/2013 11:42:13 PM

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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar

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ORIGINAL: hrxxx

Maybe you just need more time to experiment before you find your combination.

LOL

The idea that after a decade and a half, and having tried just about anything there is to try in BDSM, on all ends of the spectrum, especially the extreme I need to experiment more to figure out who I am is very very funny.

Darling, the more I've learned and evolved, the more complex I've become... something I've observed in most long term kinksters btw.

10 years ago you're little acronym game would have worked for me... but that time is long gone, and I don't imagine myself ever getting "more simplified" again. Not unless entropic decay catches up with my brain that is.

I will say that it is the definition of what is BDSM become more advanced over the years, and the things i do in BDSM get more advanced over the years.

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