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Is this the right place to ask this? - 7/1/2013 11:24:13 AM

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So.. I want to know absolutely everything that there is to know about sex. This community seems to have a lot of variety in experience in that regard. Can anybody tell me where/how to start? All questions, comments, concerns are welcome.

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RE: Is this the right place to ask this? - 7/1/2013 11:29:28 AM

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Finish sex ed at your local high school.

Come back when you're actually 18...

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RE: Is this the right place to ask this? - 7/1/2013 11:41:26 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: inquirindisciple

So.. I want to know absolutely everything that there is to know about sex. This community seems to have a lot of variety in experience in that regard. Can anybody tell me where/how to start? All questions, comments, concerns are welcome.

This is about all you need to know about sex

Definition of sex
noun
1 [mass noun] (chiefly with reference to people) sexual activity, including specifically sexual intercourse:
he enjoyed talking about sex
she didn’t want to have sex with him
[in singular] euphemistic a person’s genitals.
2either of the two main categories (male and female) into which humans and most other living things are divided on the basis of their reproductive functions:
adults of both sexes
[mass noun] the fact of belonging to either the male or female sex:
direct discrimination involves treating someone less favourably on the grounds of their sex
the group of all members of either the male or female sex:
she was well known for her efforts to improve the social condition of her sex

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RE: Is this the right place to ask this? - 7/1/2013 11:41:49 AM

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They might be eighteen. Some people are sheltered ya know.

Look around at the threads. If you have a question then ask.theres a search box too where you can plug in names of things. Google works for that too. I understand wanting to know everything,just take it easy and try not to get sucked into anything bizarre before you are ready ( ps pot Im kettle.I get sucked into everything). Dont give anyone money or pictures, trust me!youll like it here if you play nice and remember that these other posters know more than you, snd you should respect their answers. Dont argue. Your post comes off a little young, you may take some crap for that. But so does mine. Stick around anyway, you wont regret it.

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RE: Is this the right place to ask this? - 7/1/2013 11:44:10 AM

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Oh my geesh. Is that another dictionary definition.
At least use your own wording. Smh. I cant believe you checked a dictionary for the definition of sex.guess now we know what they do at your desk ;)

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ORIGINAL: inquirindisciple

So.. I want to know absolutely everything that there is to know about sex. This community seems to have a lot of variety in experience in that regard. Can anybody tell me where/how to start? All questions, comments, concerns are welcome.

This is about all you need to know about sex

Definition of sex
noun
1 [mass noun] (chiefly with reference to people) sexual activity, including specifically sexual intercourse:
he enjoyed talking about sex
she didn’t want to have sex with him
[in singular] euphemistic a person’s genitals.
2either of the two main categories (male and female) into which humans and most other living things are divided on the basis of their reproductive functions:
adults of both sexes
[mass noun] the fact of belonging to either the male or female sex:
direct discrimination involves treating someone less favourably on the grounds of their sex
the group of all members of either the male or female sex:
she was well known for her efforts to improve the social condition of her sex

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RE: Is this the right place to ask this? - 7/1/2013 11:45:48 AM

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Well, actually I'm 24. If you check my yahoo account, it's been around since '98. I just hate registering for anything, so that I do it as quickly and effortlessly as I can. Anyway, I mean like pointers, books, kama sutra type stuff. Pretend that I'm not so good and I'd like to be better. Granted, practice seems to work, but there must be something to learn. Everything has some method that can be learned in order to be better. In any sport, there are strategies and techniques to achieve better, more regular results. A haymaker may result in a knockout every once in a while, but if you learn the proper technique, you can win fights all the time. Or is it like boxing, and styles make sex?

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RE: Is this the right place to ask this? - 7/1/2013 11:48:30 AM

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They might be eighteen. Some people are sheltered ya know.

An 18 year old transexual dominant that grew up so sheltered they don't know about sex?

Please.. if the OP was raised that sheltered, how come they already are worldwide enough about their own sexuality to claim those labels?

It's a fake profile, and a kid's question.

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RE: Is this the right place to ask this? - 7/1/2013 11:48:56 AM

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I know nothing about boxing outside of taebo. But I kinda get what you are saying.

Maybe you should just specifically ask what you want to know.

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RE: Is this the right place to ask this? - 7/1/2013 11:53:02 AM

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I suspect your right. But then my instinct goes to older than eighteen, cheap thrill seeking.im not dure how to explain this. It just seems like he is playing a game possibly.
but possibly not.
i never want to doubt people on this site.I probably seemed fake on arrival, I assume other people might too.they let me stay and learn,I think other people should get the chance too.

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ORIGINAL: goodgirlmary

They might be eighteen. Some people are sheltered ya know.

An 18 year old transexual dominant that grew up so sheltered they don't know about sex?

Please.. if the OP was raised that sheltered, how come they already are worldwide enough about their own sexuality to claim those labels?

It's a fake profile, and a kid's question.

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RE: Is this the right place to ask this? - 7/1/2013 11:58:33 AM

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Find someone you like. Talk to them, get to know them a bit. Decide you like each other enough to have sex.

Create an atmosphere that's conducive to romance. Soft lights, bottle of wine, Barry White on the iPlayer.

Then get down to it - explore each other's bodies, communicate the whole time, do the sex thing (condoms!!), then maybe talk about it afterwards. And if you both feel like it, do it all over again

That's probably going to be of more use to you than hearing how to beat someone on the ass with a flaming paddle while buggering them relentlessly with a plastic cactus.

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RE: Is this the right place to ask this? - 7/1/2013 12:02:32 PM

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ORIGINAL: goodgirlmary

Oh my geesh. Is that another dictionary definition.
At least use your own wording. Smh. I cant believe you checked a dictionary for the definition of sex.guess now we know what they do at your desk ;)

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ORIGINAL: hrxxx

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ORIGINAL: inquirindisciple

So.. I want to know absolutely everything that there is to know about sex. This community seems to have a lot of variety in experience in that regard. Can anybody tell me where/how to start? All questions, comments, concerns are welcome.

This is about all you need to know about sex

Definition of sex
noun
1 [mass noun] (chiefly with reference to people) sexual activity, including specifically sexual intercourse:
he enjoyed talking about sex
she didn’t want to have sex with him
[in singular] euphemistic a person’s genitals.
2either of the two main categories (male and female) into which humans and most other living things are divided on the basis of their reproductive functions:
adults of both sexes
[mass noun] the fact of belonging to either the male or female sex:
direct discrimination involves treating someone less favourably on the grounds of their sex
the group of all members of either the male or female sex:
she was well known for her efforts to improve the social condition of her sex

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Can anybody tell me where/how to start?

Did he not ask?

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RE: Is this the right place to ask this? - 7/1/2013 12:03:24 PM

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Maybe you should just specifically ask what you want to know.

Easy. Are there techniques that can be learned, outside of pure experience, to achieve more effective results during sex?

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RE: Is this the right place to ask this? - 7/1/2013 12:04:41 PM

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... i never want to doubt people on this site...

I think that's a mistake regarding the internet in general, and personally, regarding this OP in particular.

*Edited for typo.

< Message edited by MissToYouRedux -- 7/1/2013 12:05:25 PM >

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RE: Is this the right place to ask this? - 7/1/2013 12:06:15 PM

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http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_ss_i_0_2?url=search-alias%3Dstripbooks&field-keywords=sex+positions&sprefix=se%2Cstripbooks%2C386

There you go. Do your research.

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RE: Is this the right place to ask this? - 7/1/2013 12:06:44 PM

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Hmmm. I am suspecting a bit of a featherweight here.

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Well, actually I'm 24. If you check my yahoo account, it's been around since '98. I just hate registering for anything, so that I do it as quickly and effortlessly as I can. Anyway, I mean like pointers, books, kama sutra type stuff. Pretend that I'm not so good and I'd like to be better. Granted, practice seems to work, but there must be something to learn. Everything has some method that can be learned in order to be better. In any sport, there are strategies and techniques to achieve better, more regular results. A haymaker may result in a knockout every once in a while, but if you learn the proper technique, you can win fights all the time. Or is it like boxing, and styles make sex?

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RE: Is this the right place to ask this? - 7/1/2013 12:21:08 PM

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An 18 year old transexual dominant that grew up so sheltered they don't know about sex?

Please.. if the OP was raised that sheltered, how come they already are worldwide enough about their own sexuality to claim those labels?

It's a fake profile, and a kid's question.

I completely agree. 18, a transexual Dominant, so he knows enough to label himself something that is incredibly complicated and to do with a tiny subset of human sexuality, blank profile, just joined today and found his way to the forums immediately...? Yeah, all of that does not add up. Sorry.

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RE: Is this the right place to ask this? - 7/1/2013 12:30:32 PM

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ORIGINAL: inquirindisciple

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Maybe you should just specifically ask what you want to know.

Easy. Are there techniques that can be learned, outside of pure experience, to achieve more effective results during sex?

Sure. There is tantric sex and several other ones. Unfortunately, thats research you may have to do elsewhere. This seems like a google thing.
How do you know you are the labels you gave yourself? Or did someone help you.maybe to show peoole you are legit you should introduce yourself. Tell them a bit about you? They are pretty advanced labels.

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RE: Is this the right place to ask this? - 7/1/2013 12:31:55 PM

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Easy. Are there techniques that can be learned, outside of pure experience, to achieve more effective results during sex?

No. There are no spots to touch that cause exactly the same reaction in everyone.

There are no specific techniques that work on everyone.

There is a way to find out what works with your specific partner though. Communication.
Ask them what they like before you have it. Ask them during if you can't interpret a nonverbal sound. Talk to them afterward to find out what they did and didn't like.

In general, it's always a good idea to file your nails so you don't accidentally scratch someone.

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RE: Is this the right place to ask this? - 7/1/2013 12:32:55 PM

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ORIGINAL: MissToYouRedux

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ORIGINAL: goodgirlmary

... i never want to doubt people on this site...

I think that's a mistake regarding the internet in general, and personally, regarding this OP in particular.

*Edited for typo.

Yeah. I know,youd think Id stop believing people on this site.but what if hes just a confused transexual dominant who wants fellowship and info

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RE: Is this the right place to ask this? - 7/1/2013 12:39:04 PM

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Actually, I believe I selected transgender under the gender option. No offence taken, but there is a difference in denotation. And I came here from a google search for bdsm forums. Of course I found the forums. I know only the conventional wisdom that I've gained from other and what I've gained from my own limited experience. So I'm behind. Pure experience seems to be a slow process of improvement and like I said, I'm behind. Is it so immature to want to catch up. I haven't asked how to find someone to have sex with. It's become a lot easier since I've learned to relax and be open. I just feel like everyone else has an edge on me. Perhaps I'm childish. Better to never get old.

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