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RE: humiliation ideas ? - 7/7/2013 7:20:05 PM   
ottawaguy35


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Interesting conversations going on here. No, I and my sub are not in a TPE 24 X 7, nor is my sub "shooting" down my proposals, just that pet play is not in the game, so I just want to get the feel of other ideas, vague is good enough for me, I can work with that. I want to consider my sub's interests as well, unless its consensual non-consent in which case I don't have any problems forcing my wishes on him. He after all is also like me, human !

Thank you for all the suggestions and interesting posts. :-)


In that case, I owe you an apology. Sorry about that - I read in more than I should have.


No need to apologise, DarkSteven. It's all good. :-)

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RE: humiliation ideas ? - 7/7/2013 9:31:08 PM   
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I have an wild idea.

Get to know your sub. Find out who he is as a person. What are his likes, dislikes in life in general, go out, date, learn about him. It's amazing what you will find out about that man.

Now if you two are just casual play buddies then I can't help ya. Use your imagination.


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RE: humiliation ideas ? - 7/8/2013 12:25:49 PM   
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Humiliation ideas just come naturally to me when I interact with a sub. But. Some classics of mine are, no cloths without permission, even when answering the door. (but watch that one) asking to use bathroom, making them eat off a plate on the floor (directly off floor grosses me out ..) Forbidding the use of hands for any task. Cuming on them and forbidfing them to clean up. Even when guests arive. Using the slave as a stool or drink holder. Making them be a pet when they aren't into that kink. (if they like pet play it ain't humiliation it's fulfillment). Using their face as a toy for your unit like in a good ol fashioned nasty porn. Begging, and performing "tricks" for small rewards like removal of a clamp. Dressing the sub in fun outfits. (great in combination with other fun ideas).

One of my personal donts. I don't ever demean a sub unless they fucked up. I want a sub to know that I value them and their service. They are not scum. They are the best thing I could own. A concubine fit for a king. Who the fuck wants to own trash? And who wants to obey someone with all their might just to still be trash? My "Delicious Treasures" obeyed partly to maintain my high approval. Even if the act humiliated. Doing it made me proud and honored.


< Message edited by SwitchNSpanky -- 7/8/2013 12:26:56 PM >


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RE: humiliation ideas ? - 7/8/2013 12:32:23 PM   
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no cloths without permission, even when answering the door.


Unless the person knocking on your door has consented to be part of that dynamic, you're involving them without consent.



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RE: humiliation ideas ? - 7/8/2013 12:36:17 PM   
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how about having the sub make a list of what they would consider humiliating, then you have a nice jumping off point for what the sub feels.

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RE: humiliation ideas ? - 7/8/2013 1:50:24 PM   
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no cloths without permission, even when answering the door.


Unless the person knocking on your door has consented to be part of that dynamic, you're involving them without consent.




Which is only an issue if nudity is illegal in the local in question.

If public nudity is legal, and/or if nudity on your own property is legal, there isn't any need to get consent first any more than there is a need to get public consent for engaging in other legal activities like kissing, holding hands, showing cleavage, or not wearing a head covering in church.

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RE: humiliation ideas ? - 7/8/2013 1:58:42 PM   
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no cloths without permission, even when answering the door.


Unless the person knocking on your door has consented to be part of that dynamic, you're involving them without consent.




This is very true. It's what I meant by (but watch that one). I should have elaborated that using the general public without their conscent is only cool in porn. Good call.

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RE: humiliation ideas ? - 7/8/2013 2:03:27 PM   
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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar


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no cloths without permission, even when answering the door.


Unless the person knocking on your door has consented to be part of that dynamic, you're involving them without consent.




Which is only an issue if nudity is illegal in the local in question.

If public nudity is legal, and/or if nudity on your own property is legal, there isn't any need to get consent first any more than there is a need to get public consent for engaging in other legal activities like kissing, holding hands, showing cleavage, or not wearing a head covering in church.


Very true Ishtar. Thank you. Where I live a Dom has gotta be on top of that door tho. I made a mistake early on. It's a funny story now. But the mail lady didn't think so then! Lol.


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RE: humiliation ideas ? - 7/8/2013 2:16:41 PM   
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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar


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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: SwitchNSpanky
no cloths without permission, even when answering the door.


Unless the person knocking on your door has consented to be part of that dynamic, you're involving them without consent.




Which is only an issue if nudity is illegal in the local in question.

If public nudity is legal, and/or if nudity on your own property is legal, there isn't any need to get consent first any more than there is a need to get public consent for engaging in other legal activities like kissing, holding hands, showing cleavage, or not wearing a head covering in church.


Actually, I disagree. It's about courtesy to whomever has knocked on your door.

If you're engaging in kissing, holding hands, showing cleavage or not wearing a head scarf in public...you're not using me to enforce your dynamic or to get your jollies.


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RE: humiliation ideas ? - 7/8/2013 3:53:02 PM   
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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar


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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


quote:

ORIGINAL: SwitchNSpanky
no cloths without permission, even when answering the door.


Unless the person knocking on your door has consented to be part of that dynamic, you're involving them without consent.




Which is only an issue if nudity is illegal in the local in question.

If public nudity is legal, and/or if nudity on your own property is legal, there isn't any need to get consent first any more than there is a need to get public consent for engaging in other legal activities like kissing, holding hands, showing cleavage, or not wearing a head covering in church.


Actually, I disagree. It's about courtesy to whomever has knocked on your door.

If you're engaging in kissing, holding hands, showing cleavage or not wearing a head scarf in public...you're not using me to enforce your dynamic or to get your jollies.



Sorry that's absolute bullshit.

If nudity is legal, and I'm a nudist because that's the personal lifestyle I choose to live, there ain't any fucking reason why I should cover up to answer the door to you on my own property.

Whether the choice to be a nudist is made because of a kink dynamic, or any other reason is irrelevant. What's relevant is that you don't get to push your own prudish hangups on me. If you have a problem with people doing completely legal activities, that's on you, not on them.

Following your logic, gay people shouldn't kiss in public either, because it bothers some people, nor should women be allowed to pray in church without headwear because it bothers some people, nor should women be allowed deep cleavage because it bothers some people.

If you're bothered by me being naked in my own home when it is absolutely legal to do so, then you're the one that's having the inappropriate issue, not me, and you're the one that should be looking away when you knock on a door, instead of expecting to be able to force your completely absurd, backwards, unjustified personal hangup on innocent people who have the law on their side.

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RE: humiliation ideas ? - 7/9/2013 7:04:15 AM   
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I used to spend a lot of time at a clothing optional beach. Before you walked out on the beach there was sign that said, "Attention. Beyond this point you may encounter nude bathers." I believe that other places that allow nudity have these disclaimers as well.

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If nudity is legal, and I'm a nudist because that's the personal lifestyle I choose to live, there ain't any fucking reason why I should cover up to answer the door to you on my own property.


So thought this VA man, who was originally convicted after two women saw him naked in his home through his windows.

http://www.foxnews.com/us/2010/04/07/va-man-acquitted-flashing-passers-home/

...Under Virginia law, indecent exposure occurs when a person intentionally makes an obscene display of his or her private parts. The law does not necessarily require the exposure to be in a public place — it allows for prosecution when the exposure occurs in a "place where others are present."


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RE: humiliation ideas ? - 7/9/2013 11:04:15 AM   
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I believe that other places that allow nudity have these disclaimers as well.



That's absolutely not the case if nudity is point blank legal in public regardless of where you are, as is the case in various places around the world, including some places in the US.

There is a guy in Denver who sunbathes naked in public parks. It's legal for him to do so but it took the locals a couple months to get used to that, and the police still sometimes gets called to complain. When that happens, they politely explain what he's doing isn't indecent exposure, because he's not being lewd.

There are various places in the Europe and the US as well where similar things apply, and it's perfectly legal for people to go out in public not wearing clothing, as long as they're not lewd. None of those places have warning signs posted everywhere to remind people that people may choose to be nude, but that doesn't mean that nudity is a crime there, nor that you are legally obligated to warn people before you do it.

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If nudity is legal, and I'm a nudist because that's the personal lifestyle I choose to live, there ain't any fucking reason why I should cover up to answer the door to you on my own property.


So thought this VA man, who was originally convicted after two women saw him naked in his home through his windows.

http://www.foxnews.com/us/2010/04/07/va-man-acquitted-flashing-passers-home/

...Under Virginia law, indecent exposure occurs when a person intentionally makes an obscene display of his or her private parts. The law does not necessarily require the exposure to be in a public place — it allows for prosecution when the exposure occurs in a "place where others are present."




So this guy exposed himself in his own house to women in a place where doing so was NOT legal? Ok, so what's the point.

I've clearly stated that doing so in a place where that IS legal is not a matter of consent, so I don't see if it's relevant if people are getting in trouble for doing it in places where it isn't legal, seeing that I never said that it would be ok to unconsensually expose yourself to an unexpected third party in places where it isn't legal for people to do so. However, where it IS legal to be nude in public, people can have no expectation whatsoever of being asked to consent first, prior to being exposed to somebody else's body.

To claim that doing so is nonconsensually involving other people in your kink is nonsense, because people do not need to get unaffected third party's consent to engage in perfectly legal behavior. If it's legal for me to be nude, I don't need to ask you if it's of to you if I do that before doing it, regardless of whether or not the reason is kinky, or otherwise. This is because you've already given consent to be exposed to naked people unexpectedly by being in a territory where being naked in public is allowed. People who are in territory in which public nudity is legal do not have a reasonable expectation to not be confronted with naked people when they ring a door bell.

If it's not legal to be nude in public, opening the door naked is not only stupid, and illegal, but also offensive and nonconsesual involvement of others, because people who are in a territory that doesn't allow public nudity have a reasonable expectation to not unexpectedly be confronted with naked people when they ring a door bell.

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RE: humiliation ideas ? - 7/9/2013 1:05:14 PM   
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In San Francisco you see nude people walking around, usually men. City laws require nude people to sit on towels.

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