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Is there *really* such a thing as "online training... - 7/5/2013 9:40:32 PM   
NiceButMeanGirl


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Status: offline 		Is there? I mean, years ago when I was new to kink and I was a sub, I had this thing going with an online Dom for awhile, but it seemed like all it was was me sending him my daily journal and us pulling off some cyber-sex. Yeah, I admit I was that stupid and naive back then. But, after not too long, I just felt used and knocked it off.

So, now, there's this guy that seems really nice but he's on the opposite coast from me. He claims we could meet in real time somewhere down the road but, honestly, I feel I have the same chance as a snowball would have in hell of ever really meeting him. He wants me to train him online "before we meet" and (I told him) I just haven't got a clue how.

Is there, really, anything other than journal writing and cyber-sex that can be done for online training? I have no real experience with online other than that one aforementioned situation. If all there is to it is journaling and cyber-sex, I could do without it. Any ideas?

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RE: Is there *really* such a thing as "online trai... - 7/5/2013 9:49:14 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		What are you training him for? Going to bed earlier/getting more sleep, eating healthier?

Getting an online degree?

Sex games?

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RE: Is there *really* such a thing as "online trai... - 7/5/2013 9:59:13 PM   
lizi


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Status: offline 		I'm sorry, but it really sounds like the typical do-me sub trying to get what he wants out of his chosen Dominant kink provider. I know that sounds jaded and you said he's nice and all that, but why are you considering things that don't seem to be on your own spectrum of wishes? Isn't this the same old story of guys promising whatever they think the woman wants, in order to get what they're really after? He obviously wants cyber and is trying to talk you into it. Go ahead and ask him what he thinks online training is and I wonder if he'll have detailed guidelines of what he pictures it to be.

Also, so you see him at some point down the road...how often will that happen? Once a year, once a month? Do either of you have the time, money, and dedication to make a long distance relationship work? Otherwise why not just not get started on this one if it's not going to fit your bill of what you're looking for?

You could research this as you are doing, but I have to say, it seems as though you are servicing him. It's something he wants. If I've got that wrong then I apologize.

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RE: Is there *really* such a thing as "online trai... - 7/5/2013 10:01:43 PM   
Marini


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What are you training him for? Going to bed earlier/getting more sleep, eating healthier?

Getting an online degree?

Sex games?


ROFL
She is going to train him on how to jerk/or wank off over the computer or on cam.
That's the ONLY thing that comes to mind, when I hear "online training".
I swear I have zero problems with the financial and online Dominants around here, there is a market for them.

weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

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RE: Is there *really* such a thing as "online trai... - 7/5/2013 10:07:18 PM   
Rawni


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Status: offline 		Why would you want to do it? Some of them play nice, act nice and specifically look for someone they cannot meet and desire and push for training online because they are ever so sincere and promise the moon, knowing they will never have to do anything but get that online training attention they want. Someone that is long distance and is into you, doesn't make promises, doesn't push for training and just wants to get to know you. I've known many throughout the years and not one has ever asked me for anything. They wished things could be different, but lets face it, at our ages, we have family, local connections, employment and rarely are free to do anything but... visit someone long distance. So what would the purpose be? For you? For him?

Online training with these guys tends to be where they direct you to train them. As long as they find people to go for it... we will get to fend them off in email. They seek attention without strings, some sort of imitation intimacy and play. It's not like you are going to get anything of real worth... like a cup of coffee... a snuggle... a faithful friend or lover or anything else.

When approached for training... I tend to ask... train you for what? Even in person, what is the training? Personalized things you do between you could be training I guess... but unless you have some online need for services these distant players can provide... there really isn't much to it... as you know. Don't be fooled by nice. Nice guys don't push for training with empty promises of someday and they surely don't manipulate to get close to you. You would better spend your time... washing your hair... reading a book... watching infomercials, etc.

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RE: Is there *really* such a thing as "online trai... - 7/5/2013 10:13:30 PM   
Marini


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Status: offline 		Lockit, I think "the man" in question is attempting to trick NBMG, to get out of having to give a "tribute" to an online Dominant.

If he seeks online training, there are plenty on here that will do just that!

If fact, I see no shortage of women that will do online training.




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RE: Is there *really* such a thing as "online trai... - 7/5/2013 10:17:59 PM   
Rawni


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Status: offline 		That's for sure and number one reason... in my opinion is... they can't let the wife/girlfriend see the charges for tribute on the credit card. lol

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RE: Is there *really* such a thing as "online trai... - 7/5/2013 10:22:01 PM   
Marini


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I hope he finds someone willing to "train him" online.

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RE: Is there *really* such a thing as "online trai... - 7/5/2013 10:27:50 PM   
playfulotter


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Status: offline 		Way back in 2001 I was trained online for a bit (2 months or so) before I met him up where he lived near Santa Cruz, California....I think it takes a certain expertise and intelligence on the part of the Dom.......that is all I am willing to say about that...ha ha..I wouldn't do it again but it was a "learning experience"! It would go on 2-4 hours on the phone when we were not together...I was pretty much brain-washed to a certain extent...I wouldn't recommend it for anyone...we would see each other every 3-4 weeks....for 2-3 days...sometimes more...I found myself..wanted to get home but regretting it too....but the hardest part was the part apart and only on the phone...Online stuff involved me flogging myself etc...it hurt but I did it...I ended up with bruises....

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RE: Is there *really* such a thing as "online trai... - 7/5/2013 10:31:49 PM   
Marini


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Status: offline 		I never said there was no such thing as "online" training or that it does not exist.
I just rarely see any Female Dominant willing to engage in it for a long period of time, unless she is getting something "more" out of it.

It may work for many people!

To each their own.

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RE: Is there *really* such a thing as "online trai... - 7/5/2013 10:35:15 PM   
Rawni


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Status: offline 		I had a long distance relationship for a time. There are things you can do and you must be creative, but at the same time, there is first an interest in you as a person, not online training. There is a difference between someone that wants an end goal of being with you and one that just gives the appearance of wanting something more than online play and if you have to ask yourself if they are sincere... you might as well figure... they aren't. Really, are we all so jaded that we cannot see sincerity? I don't think most of us are. Knowing the game.. valuing yourself and your time and not being afraid to be alone until you find that right person(s) are your best assurance of not falling for the ever pleasant, sweet talkin man that is practiced enough to pull off the promises are real bit. Married men can be very practiced at what it takes to keep the little lady happy, they communicate well often times and when they target you... good luck with that, if you aren't aware, secure and willing to wait until they can actually prove themselves.

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RE: Is there *really* such a thing as "online trai... - 7/5/2013 10:41:20 PM   
Marini


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Status: offline 		There usually is a difference between a long distance relationship, and online
training.

I guess a long distance relationship can involve "online training" if that is what both parties want.

Hummm, what is the difference between "online trainng", "wanking", "phone sex', "cam sex" or "cyber sex"?



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RE: Is there *really* such a thing as "online trai... - 7/5/2013 10:46:36 PM   
tazzygirl


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Status: offline 		The best on line training relationship I had was one that involved no sex. If the OP can get him to go for that, he may have potential. Sex doesnt have to be a part of the equation.

Training can encompass many things. But if its all about his cock, and not about making you into a better person, its just sex.

Just my 2 cents.

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RE: Is there *really* such a thing as "online trai... - 7/5/2013 10:51:23 PM   
Marini


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Status: offline 		Thanks tazzy, for letting us know its possible.

Those that have always approached me with training were wankers.

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RE: Is there *really* such a thing as "online trai... - 7/5/2013 10:56:44 PM   
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ORIGINAL: NiceButMeanGirl

... He wants me to train him online "before we meet" and (I told him) I just haven't got a clue how.

Is there, really, anything other than journal writing and cyber-sex that can be done for online training? ...



I always turn the question around to them. What do they think they can do *for me* long distance? None of them has come up with anything either.

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RE: Is there *really* such a thing as "online trai... - 7/5/2013 10:57:17 PM   
Rawni


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Status: offline 		I think the difference between the good and the bad here is that with some, there is a relationship goal or established relationship... someone talking training before meeting, with no mention of much else... isn't coming from the same place as someone sincerely interested in you and whatever type of relationship you each may want. You take sex/kink out of it in the first place and ask if they are still interested in training... smile... it is very interesting to watch those butts run and I do love a good butt... bent over or arunnin...

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RE: Is there *really* such a thing as "online trai... - 7/5/2013 10:58:37 PM   
Rawni


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ORIGINAL: MissToYouRedux


quote:

ORIGINAL: NiceButMeanGirl

... He wants me to train him online "before we meet" and (I told him) I just haven't got a clue how.

Is there, really, anything other than journal writing and cyber-sex that can be done for online training? ...



I always turn the question around to them. What do they think they can do *for me* long distance? None of them has come up with anything either.


Oh for sure! That is one of my first questions, especially with the 'nice' ones. I haven't gotten an answer either. *frowns*

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RE: Is there *really* such a thing as "online trai... - 7/5/2013 11:07:59 PM   
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RE: Is there *really* such a thing as "online trai... - 7/5/2013 11:10:25 PM   
Rawni


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Status: offline 		Well damn, didn't know that was on the table. I may revise a few things just for that!

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RE: Is there *really* such a thing as "online trai... - 7/5/2013 11:11:27 PM   
tazzygirl


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Status: offline 		Should be good for laughs! Thats what I bring to the table... entertainment extraordinaire!

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