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RE: I've Lost my Optimism... - 7/7/2013 5:09:29 PM   
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This is a favorite passage: gentle, loving, wise, and (no small matter in my world) beautifully crafted. I confess I still puzzle over exactly how to do what Rilke advises.

Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and to try to love the questions themselves like locked rooms and like books that are written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you win then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.

-- Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet

ETA: You have cmail.

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RE: I've Lost my Optimism... - 7/7/2013 5:19:29 PM   
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it has not been a good day today

Big hugs! I hope the night brings peace and rest, and may you "look expectantly to a new day, new joys, new possibilities."


Thank you for the kind words. I wish you all the best as well. xxx

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RE: I've Lost my Optimism... - 7/7/2013 10:12:05 PM   
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I'm not even going to try to match what Master said. Read and reread what he wrote. It's good words to remember. We both think highly of you and want nothing but the best for you and hate to see that you are hurting.

I have a little something that might help you though, kind of just a small daily exercise. Do something positive every single day, find something that makes you smile even if it's just a flower in a sidewalk crack or the the laugh of a child or just a warm breeze on a summer day. And be grateful for everything you have in your life and that his leaving is even something to be grateful for because it will make you a better, stronger person and it will bring bigger and better things in time.

And remember, you have children. Don't let them see this getting to you. Believe me, to this day with my own my grieving hurt mine because I didn't spend the time I should have with her, I showed too many jaded, stupid, bitter, angry emotions and I think it rubbed off on her that she is distrustful of a lot of people now. I hate that she thinks like that. I'm not saying to hide your emotions or lie about what you feel. I'm saying find genuine positivity and grace in your life no matter how small. Small things lead to larger things.


And remember, when one door closes another opens and my experience is it will be one helluva great door!

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RE: I've Lost my Optimism... - 7/8/2013 12:12:45 AM   
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And my biggest fear is that I'll move and find out that I still wake up every morning hoping that he'll walk back into my life.

Aileen, you're really not going to like Me for what I'm about to say.

I've read this thread and a lot of folks have said really positive things about understanding your pain and such. Lots of helpful tips about how you can try different things to move on. I think you might need some help in that department from a professional.

Perpetually hoping that somebody is going to come back into your life when they have made the decision that they don't want to do that isn't a good thing for you. It sounds to Me like you are stuck in a really bad place. Yeah, I've noticed the very same thing that you put in your own words here about the change in you and how you respond to threads. If you want to be the person that you were, or at least the person that you were on some level, maybe you might not be able to do that on your own.

If I lost MP, I'd probably feel as though I was emotionally devastated. It might be a place that I'd be stuck in for a year and a half. I'd probably be crying in My Cheerios every chance I got for a damn long time. If/When I got to the point when nothing was working, I'd have to try something new. Even if that meant parking My ass in a therapist's office to see if I could make something change.

I didn't say any of this to hurt you. I said it because I want the things for you that you say you want for yourself. I hope you'll take this post in the spirit it was intended.



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RE: I've Lost my Optimism... - 7/8/2013 4:06:45 AM   
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We both think highly of you and want nothing but the best for you and hate to see that you are hurting.



And it's not only Kana and lw. Count me in as well, and I'm sure plenty of others.

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RE: I've Lost my Optimism... - 7/8/2013 4:38:14 PM   
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I've become so jaded this last year and a half. I realized how bad it's become when I see my responses to threads.
I was always one of those 100% positive people. I was always happy.
How do I get that back?
How do I get to the point where I can believe what a man tells me?
How do I get to the point where I even want to meet a man?
I'm tired of being alone. I'm tired of being sad.
I've tried all of the basics to move on, but I still find myself stuck in my own personal hell.
I'm moving in a few months so hopefully that will help.... a new place with no ties to old memories.

I'm just tired of the person I've become. I don't like her at all.


Men feel similarly. It ain't that uncommon. Honest.

You start thinking your "picker" ain't working anymore.

I've found that crawling into a small hole in the backyard, with wifi access works for me.

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RE: I've Lost my Optimism... - 7/8/2013 4:42:19 PM   
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You start thinking your "picker" ain't working anymore.

I've found that crawling into a small hole in the backyard, with wifi access works for me.

I had to reread that.. I thought it said "pecker" instead of "picker".. maybe I need to get my glasses updated..

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RE: I've Lost my Optimism... - 7/8/2013 4:53:22 PM   
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ORIGINAL: tj444


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ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie

You start thinking your "picker" ain't working anymore.

I've found that crawling into a small hole in the backyard, with wifi access works for me.

I had to reread that.. I thought it said "pecker" instead of "picker".. maybe I need to get my glasses updated..


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RE: I've Lost my Optimism... - 7/8/2013 5:15:31 PM   
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Sometimes the pecker is the picker!


lol that is true!

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RE: I've Lost my Optimism... - 7/8/2013 6:01:55 PM   
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Thanks for all of the kind words. The last few weeks have been very emotional for me.
I've been packing up my home and helping to pack up my exhusbands home.
We built that house together and there are a ton of memories in those walls.
He sold in less than four weeks and final closing is mid August.
He will be moving down to South Carolina and will be bringing my girlies so they can start school there.
It's looking like I'll be separated from them for some time until I sell and that has me upset.
I'm just physically tired and it's made me very weepy.

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RE: I've Lost my Optimism... - 7/8/2013 6:32:41 PM   
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I'm just physically tired and it's made me very weepy.

Fatigue does that to me too, especially these days.

I know you're crazy busy with packing, but is there a possibility of taking a day or an afternoon to visit a favorite place, shoot some pix, and decompress a bit?

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RE: I've Lost my Optimism... - 7/8/2013 8:30:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		Since it was Lookies, it's probably safe to assume he did mean, "pecker."

(...slinks naughtily out of the room while blowing love kisses to Lookie....)

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RE: I've Lost my Optimism... - 7/8/2013 8:33:46 PM   
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RE: I've Lost my Optimism... - 7/8/2013 8:34:30 PM   
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RE: I've Lost my Optimism... - 7/8/2013 8:39:14 PM   
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What about those of use who'd like a well-packed and picked, peppered peck of peckers?

As long as the peckers aren't pickled. That would really freak this guy out.

(Places hands protectively before groin.)

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RE: I've Lost my Optimism... - 7/8/2013 10:36:24 PM   
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What about those of use who'd like a well-packed and picked, peppered peck of peckers?

As long as the peckers aren't pickled. That would really freak this guy out.

(Places hands protectively before groin.)


Pickles? I love pickles. Gimme me a peck of pickled peckers, now I say!
You is a naughty, funny boy, dc.
Hey, how come you're protecting your groin? Got a pickled pecker you think I might want to have at? Mmmmmm...nom...nom...nom.....

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RE: I've Lost my Optimism... - 7/9/2013 7:21:15 PM   
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