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graceadieu -> RE: Old adages (7/19/2013 7:53:00 AM)
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ORIGINAL: BambiBoi
We assume following is easier than leading.
People tend to assume someone a "master" maintains ties with the community, has practiced with various implements, has amassed a valuable arsenal of toys and knowledge, is balanced in work and life, plots and plans elaborate scenes. A slave just says "yes" and complies.
Most people don't give slaves enough credit for how hard their place actually is. A careful read of Dyfrynt's post confirms this notion. Dyfyrnt treats slave and sub almost the same, in that a person can be born as either. However, while he mentions a person can be born a dom, he does not deign to suggest one can be born a master. I agree, mastery takes practice. The point is that we're content to say slavery is a natural condition, that does not require practice... Just a submissive with deeper limits.
I think you're right about why people feel that way, but that the idea is very false.
Serving someone (whether you call it slave or sub) on an ongoing basis is a lot of work. It's intimately learning someone else's needs, wants, and preferences - emotional, physical, financial, domestic - and how to meet them and even anticipate them. It oftentimes involves learning new skills and overcoming significant fears and hangups, and may require putting in significant hours on top of a full-time job.
In some ways, I think the dominant/master has the easier role, because their job is to say "do this" - the sub/slave's job is to make it happen. To me, saying a slave or sub has an easy job is like saying a sergeant in the army has an easy job because a CO tells them what to do.
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