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RE: for everyone who told me to dump my boyfriend ... - 6/28/2006 11:46:33 PM   
FelinePersuasion


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Status: offline 		I would like to also add please do not let him know where you end up going so he can forward the information to the old gf to torment her again.

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RE: for everyone who told me to dump my boyfriend ... - 6/28/2006 11:55:31 PM   
SweetDommes


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Status: offline 		Hey, I have the remains of a chicken crate in my back yard (inherited it when we bought the house) ... I bet he'd look good stuffed into it *blinks innocently*  I think I could rustle up some blackberry bush branches that would make an appropriate 'cushion' for him in there too.

Kiska - you are NOT an idiot.  Just because he is good at hiding what an asshole he is, that doesn't mean you're an idiot for falling for it.  How many others on these boards have done just that with their mates?  Hell, I showed mine how to use the computer programs and websites that he ended up using to cheat on us - because I thought I could trust him ... I thought that he really loved me and wanted to be a part of our family.  I was wrong ... that does not make me stupid, that does not make me an idiot - it makes me someone who trusts those that she loves.  You have done the same thing and it isn't your fault that he sucks.  You tried to stick it out, but not to the point of being overly silly about it - he chose to do you the favor of ending it first ... and you do realize that he did you a favor, no matter how much the realization hurts right now, so you are far from an idiot. 

You knew where to come for support and comfort, which is also a sign that you are not an idiot.  When you are ready, you will be able to move on, but I bet he will still be trying to be an ass to you (don't let him).

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RE: for everyone who told me to dump my boyfriend ... - 6/29/2006 5:32:36 PM   
kiska


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Status: offline 		Fortunately, I've managed to set up a place to go ... *thank you God!* ... And, after about 3 hours of working on it, I've got a resume that will hopefully land me a job. And I've applied to 9 jobs ... Looking for more as we speak. Yes, I know I'll be ok. I'm angry ... Too angry to really be hurt. I'm kind of wondering at what point its going to set in that this is really over ... This man that I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with, isn't going to be in my life at all. Its one thing to say it, its another to actually accept and mourn for it.

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RE: for everyone who told me to dump my boyfriend ... - 6/29/2006 5:41:33 PM   
Vendaval


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Status: offline 		Kiska, I am glad you have your priorities in order, a place to live and
a job being the most important. 
Focus on getting your life back together and process the emotions when you can. 
Taking care of
yourself, rather than being dependent on someone
who does not appreciate or want you is a far better course of action.
 
Take good care of your sweet self.
 
Vendaval

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RE: for everyone who told me to dump my boyfriend ... - 6/29/2006 5:52:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		kiska, I'm sorry things turned out as they did. Keep the spirits up and things will get better time does heal most things and remember he is the looser here, he lost you.. 

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RE: for everyone who told me to dump my boyfriend ... - 6/30/2006 3:09:16 PM   
trippingdaisy


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Status: offline 		From what i've learned of you, you're stronger than you think you are. :)

Continue to be strong, and hell...dance all you want! It's an opportunity for you, not a tragedy.

You'll make it. :)


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RE: for everyone who told me to dump my boyfriend ... - 6/30/2006 3:33:20 PM   
popeye1250


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Status: offline 		Where in S.C. do you live?
I'm in Myrtle Beach.

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RE: for everyone who told me to dump my boyfriend ... - 6/30/2006 3:40:24 PM   
TolerableCruelty


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Status: offline 		so.....
how's the sunburn healing up ?
gettin a sweet tan yet ?

*smiles*

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RE: for everyone who told me to dump my boyfriend ... - 6/30/2006 6:32:28 PM   
kiska


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I'm peeling, TC, but under the peeling, I do see a nice tan ... Not too dark but a lil more color than I had before. Enough for me.

I'm near Charlotte, popeye ...

I have a place to go, I can take my pets, I've even got a partner in crime ... So I've decided, I'm going to enjoy being single for now and just take care of me.

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RE: for everyone who told me to dump my boyfriend ... - 7/1/2006 1:13:06 PM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		I am so sorry Kiska. I was not around during the sunburn post era, and I usually do not suggest people dump each other anyhow.. I will say that you seem to be taking this well, better than I would for a fact! Just keep on keeping on.. with your head held high!

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RE: for everyone who told me to dump my boyfriend ... - 7/1/2006 4:01:49 PM   
subedana


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Status: offline 		Agreed you are not an idiot. We've all been there burned and blindsided. Just remember to go out and live well. It's always the best revenge.

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ORIGINAL: FelinePersuasion

You most positivly certaintly are NOT an idiot. We are supposed to trust our mates. That does not make us an idiot when they turn out to be boners.
quote:

ORIGINAL: kiska

I'm an idiot.


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RE: for everyone who told me to dump my boyfriend ... - 7/1/2006 4:50:22 PM   
SweetDommes


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kiska

I have a place to go, I can take my pets, I've even got a partner in crime ... So I've decided, I'm going to enjoy being single for now and just take care of me.


Yay! 

I'm glad that you are getting things worked out, and I'll keep my fingers crossed for you on the resume front - I know how nerve wracking the process is.

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RE: for everyone who told me to dump my boyfriend ... - 7/1/2006 5:40:31 PM   
enigmabrat


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Status: offline 		that really sucks and Im sorry but your better off without himm.... I missed the sunburn post what happend

< Message edited by enigmabrat -- 7/1/2006 5:41:42 PM >

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RE: for everyone who told me to dump my boyfriend ... - 7/1/2006 8:04:59 PM   
zumala


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Status: offline 		Can I join the angry posse?   Um... how about paintball guns?  You can shoot him from a distance while he's naked in the crate kneeling on the blackberry brambles. 
 
kiska, I'm sorry to hear about what happened.  It's good that you're moving on.  From past experience, I've found it to be a total waste of time and energy worrying about a jerk that's screwed you over.  Don't give him or his bitch the chance to gloat and/or laugh at you.  Hold your head high and forget his sorry ass.
 
*hugs*
 
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RE: for everyone who told me to dump my boyfriend ... - 7/1/2006 11:32:41 PM   
WayWardSoul


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ORIGINAL: givemyall

Sorry to hear your bad experience..... people can be so damn hurtful at times.  Im having lots of hassle with mine at the moment and as much as I try, I cant get him out of my head.  I know the sensible thing would be to walk away, but it means starting over again..... but who knows what is round the corner.... something better I hope!

Your story reminds me of something that happened to me a few years ago - only it involved another women who just happened to be my sister (oooh dont get me on that topic lol)..... anyway, before I left, I removed one of the kickboards from under the built in cooker and put a lovely piece of steak in the space, screwed the kickboard back into place and took joy over the next few months that everytime she cooked him a meal in the oven, a minging smell would waft about the house - brought me hours of fun thinking about it.

Anyway, I moved on, laughed alot and survived, its amazing the good that can come from bad!   I'm sure you will rise above him and his nasty friend - good luck!


When i worked as a machinest we would always find a way to slip something in the bottom of the toolbox of the people that quit. The best thing we found for that was a can of Tuna in oil, you just take the can opener and make four or five short cuts in the top of the can. That way if they don't find it right away it takes a long time to dry up and a lot long to get rid of the smell.

Kiska
Things like this always seem to turn around and bite the person in the ass. As each day goes by and your life gets better, his well fall apart.

I wish the best of luck to you
WWS


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RE: for everyone who told me to dump my boyfriend ... - 7/2/2006 12:37:59 AM   
Noah


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kiska

LOL

I'm peeling, TC, but under the peeling, I do see a nice tan ... Not too dark but a lil more color than I had before. Enough for me.

I'm near Charlotte, popeye ...

I have a place to go, I can take my pets, I've even got a partner in crime ... So I've decided, I'm going to enjoy being single for now and just take care of me.


I've just read the thread and what occurs to me is that if you can be this open and genuine moments after having your trust assulted so cruelly, if you can express such hurt and sacrifice with such clarity and without a moment of useless self-pity, well you must be a formidable person.

Unless you smell really bad or listen to Top 20 radio stations you must be pretty cool to be with when times are good. I suspect you fuckin rock.

And this is what he traded for someone with no more class or taste than to harrass you?

Okay, I haven't heard his story ot the other woman's but if you are being honest with yourself and with us I'm glad it happened the way it did, abruptly rather than through a protracted process of suspicions and doubts growing slowly harder and harder to deny. And I'm glad it happened today because tomorrow would be one day too many to be stuck where you were.

This kind of pain is like rain. It comes, lasts as long as it lasts and then dries up ... if we don't get in our car and drive back under the cloud.

Will somebody say "Amen"?


Wishing you some nice shoulders to cry on for just as long as it takes and not a day more.




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RE: for everyone who told me to dump my boyfriend ... - 7/2/2006 10:09:58 AM   
TolerableCruelty


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Status: offline 		Amen, Brother Noah....

*tosses in a hallelujah, too*

The Reverend T.R.

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RE: for everyone who told me to dump my boyfriend ... - 7/2/2006 9:29:41 PM   
kiska


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Status: offline 		Wow ... LOL

Ya'll are great, seriously.

I personally feel like I could be handling this a lot better ... I've been completely scatterbrained for the past week and then trying to move into a new place and stuff ...  Gawd.

I'm honestly just taking it one day at a time. He and I finally talked the day before I moved out and he apologized for the way he handled things. I do rock ... *grins* ... But we both made mistakes. We moved WAY to fast for one thing.

He's being really kind and letting me borrow his laptop and I'm still using my cell phone and I have my key to the house because I forgot stuff and I need to pick it up ... I've had some horrid boyfriends who caused me to lose everything and start over with nothing. I think a lot of my current perspective is based on that and I feel like this isn't as bad as it could be.

We're still talking and now at least we're able to talk without screaming at each other. I didn't lose my pets or my keepsakes or anything like that and my new housemate (who is a GIRL ... yay!) is awesome. I think once the mental, emotional and physical exhaustion wears off, I'll be a lot less chipper ... I had a really low moment this afternoon ... But all in all, I'm gonna be ok and I appreciate all of you being so great too. (Even the posse ... LOL)

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RE: for everyone who told me to dump my boyfriend ... - 7/3/2006 10:13:37 AM   
MarksFantasyGirl


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Status: offline 		sweetheart, I just feel that I should tell you that you aren't an idiot... the smartest of people can believe the lies of the dumbest... it's not that you are an idiot.... you just felt the need for the love, that you didn't see the bad... this is just your time to show the world(and your ex) what a wonderful person you are.... just remember.... never frown... you never know who may be falling in love with your smile.... you will feel bad for a while, but you will someday figure out that you are better than that... (you dont ALWAYS want to keep looking up.... a bird might shit in your eye! lol).... but always remember, you have friends... and don't ever let some little bitch that you could have taken in high school bring you down.... like I always say, To all you people that talk about me behind my back, thank you for making me the center of your world!!  I have been dumped in some of the worst ways.... If you ever need someone to talk to, just drop me a line... i will be happy to lend an ear, a shoulder, or a baseball bat.... whatever you are in the mood for! 

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