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How to find a Master - 7/20/2013 6:05:32 PM   
pianosubmissive


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Status: offline 		it is from a small village in Northeastern Ohio looking for a Master to serve. it has transportation but no place to serve as it is currently living with its parents. How does it find a Master?
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RE: How to find a Master - 7/20/2013 6:23:10 PM   
TieMeInKnottss


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Status: offline 		Well first...stop using third person...I know some prefer it but..it just sounds artificial. Second, I know the male Dom to female sub and the female Domme to male sub market is always more men then women but I am not familiar with the demand in the gay community.

It will be interesting to see the responses....

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RE: How to find a Master - 7/20/2013 6:58:10 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		Second that for the third person speak. Stop it!

How did you meet men before? It's the same thing. Same way.


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RE: How to find a Master - 7/20/2013 7:04:17 PM   
DarkSteven


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Not that it's any of my business, but why are you living with your parents at the age of 39?

To answer your question, I'd recommend munches to meet local people. Once you know a few people, you'll hear about local gay Masters, both good and bad.

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RE: How to find a Master - 7/20/2013 8:00:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		Canton and Akron are close by, Cleveland is only an hour away, and Columbus and Pittsburgh on either side about 2 hours away. Pick one, and look up groups on fetlife.

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RE: How to find a Master - 7/20/2013 8:05:27 PM   
JeffBC


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quote:

ORIGINAL: pianosubmissive
it is from a small village in Northeastern Ohio looking for a Master to serve. it has transportation but no place to serve as it is currently living with its parents. How does it find a Master?

I would recommend engaging with your local real life community. I'd strongly recommend doing so without the whole slave-facade thing you have going on. You might also ponder why anyone would want "lowly scum". Where'd you get all that from? Is there some reason I can't just want a person who obeys me and is otherwise a normal, sensible person?

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RE: How to find a Master - 7/20/2013 9:20:08 PM   
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ORIGINAL: pianosubmissive

it is from a small village in Northeastern Ohio looking for a Master to serve. it has transportation but no place to serve as it is currently living with its parents. How does it find a Master?



Sorry but they do not understand that you are a slave, and NOT submissive, and it's one of the things that makes it difficult for you to find a Master, because as you can see they believe that Master and Dominant is the same that is ignorant many people in BDSM and in particular here the collarme.

First of all you should change your profile, you write that you are submissive, and it is quite clear that you are a slave! Before you can find a Master, you have to find "it" who are you as a slave? What is your fantasy? How is your. fantasy of being treated like a slave?

Some slaves want to be like a piece of furniture, or want to locked up or be in chains or leash, wear hood be treated like a servant, there are many different kinds of slaves, each slave with his own fantasy, to be "it" if you can imagine "it" write about "it" in your profile, so a Master can see "it" as clear as you.

You write on your profile that you are gay and you have no boundaries, the two things do not match, because you have no limits, then it's not up to you whether you are gay. So try to think about it and find out what is most important to you, being a slave or being gay! and then maybe you should write bisexual on your profile

It is my impression that most female Dominant not call themselves Mistress, and they have easier by seeing the difference between slaves and submissive.

And there are quite a few sadistic Mistress who takes all kinds of slaves, and it might be easier for you. to find a Mistress so you can live out your fantasy as a slave

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RE: How to find a Master - 7/21/2013 6:54:04 AM   
Miyani


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Status: offline 		Jeff:

This, this, this. I want to own someone I can like and RESPECT, not someone who isn't worth my time. Ain't nothing wrong with being a strong, smart, capable person who chooses to submit because it fulfills them, instead of OP's persona of the typical weak-willed worm who isn't good for anything else.

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RE: How to find a Master - 7/21/2013 8:21:10 AM   
hrxxx


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ORIGINAL: Miyani

Jeff:

This, this, this. I want to own someone I can like and RESPECT, not someone who isn't worth my time. Ain't nothing wrong with being a strong, smart, capable person who chooses to submit because it fulfills them, instead of OP's persona of the typical weak-willed worm who isn't good for anything else.


You are talking to deaf ears, there is noone here who understand what it means for a slave, to live there life as a real slave, they've got the idea to submissive and slave is the same thing, and slavery is a role-play
And try to teach them what the difference is, is like pissing into the wind impossible!

< Message edited by hrxxx -- 7/21/2013 8:25:03 AM >

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RE: How to find a Master - 7/21/2013 9:29:22 AM   
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ORIGINAL: SomethingCatchy

Canton and Akron are close by, Cleveland is only an hour away, and Columbus and Pittsburgh on either side about 2 hours away. Pick one, and look up groups on fetlife.


This is good advice. I also usually advise to volunteer to work at the events. It's a great way to show grace in service and get to know the people in your community.


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RE: How to find a Master - 7/21/2013 12:21:05 PM   
kalikshama


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Status: offline 		Another vote for volunteer work as a way to make a good impression and network.

Additionally, I have a bit of social anxiety in new situations and find that volunteering helps with that.

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RE: How to find a Master - 7/21/2013 12:36:19 PM   
JeffBC


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ORIGINAL: kalikshama
Another vote for volunteer work as a way to make a good impression and network.

And just as a general comment (because this was news to me). Now that I've been being all volunteery recently (homelessness, friendliness, etc.) I have come to decide that being able to say something like "I'd love to go out with you next Saturday but I've already committed to help out at the homeless shelter that day" is pretty much the guy's "I WIN" button for dating.

Seriously guys. Chicks seem to dig that shit. So maybe volunteer for something non kink related too. Bonus points if you actually care about the cause.

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RE: How to find a Master - 7/21/2013 5:17:09 PM   
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ORIGINAL: pianosubmissive

it is from a small village in Northeastern Ohio looking for a Master to serve. it has transportation but no place to serve as it is currently living with its parents. How does it find a Master?


It rubs the lotion on its skin, gets a job, moves out of mommy and daddy's house, turns off the porn, joins the real time BDSM community and meets people, face to face.

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RE: How to find a Master - 7/21/2013 10:04:41 PM   
graceadieu


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Status: offline 		piano - how involved are you in the local gay scene? Assuming there is one in "a small village in Ohio". Maybe you should head out to Cleveland, there's probably something going on there.

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RE: How to find a Master - 7/22/2013 6:41:35 PM   
Kana


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ORIGINAL: Miyani

Jeff:

This, this, this. I want to own someone I can like and RESPECT, not someone who isn't worth my time. Ain't nothing wrong with being a strong, smart, capable person who chooses to submit because it fulfills them, instead of OP's persona of the typical weak-willed worm who isn't good for anything else.

Fucking Marylanders always be making sense.

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RE: How to find a Master - 7/23/2013 1:03:09 AM   
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ORIGINAL: HarryVanWinkle


quote:

ORIGINAL: pianosubmissive

it is from a small village in Northeastern Ohio looking for a Master to serve. it has transportation but no place to serve as it is currently living with its parents. How does it find a Master?


It rubs the lotion on its skin, gets a job, moves out of mommy and daddy's house, turns off the porn, joins the real time BDSM community and meets people, face to face.


He might be taking care of his parents, for all we know. "It" needs to work on his self esteem a bit, and there's been some good advice given, but we also have to remember that the third-person speak may be a big part of his personal trip. He may wish to interact with someone who's looking for that kind of headspace.

But yeah, OP, you need to get out into the world a bit more. Baby steps are better than no steps, and a little adventure couldn't hurt. Hit a munch, they're low stress (last one I did was at a coffee shop in a supermarket). Get out of the house for awhile, that'll work wonders. Best of luck.

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RE: How to find a Master - 7/24/2013 4:55:34 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: JeffBC

quote:

ORIGINAL: kalikshama
Another vote for volunteer work as a way to make a good impression and network.

And just as a general comment (because this was news to me). Now that I've been being all volunteery recently (homelessness, friendliness, etc.) I have come to decide that being able to say something like "I'd love to go out with you next Saturday but I've already committed to help out at the homeless shelter that day" is pretty much the guy's "I WIN" button for dating.

Seriously guys. Chicks seem to dig that shit. So maybe volunteer for something non kink related too. Bonus points if you actually care about the cause.


Chicks. Seem. To. Dig. That. Shit.

*koff*

Bonus points if you CARE? BONUS POINTS????

Lawd have mehsee!

To the OP:
How to find someone? From The Holstee Manifesto:

If you are looking for the love of your life, stop; they will be waiting for you when you start doing things you love.

Good luck,
sunshine

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RE: How to find a Master - 7/24/2013 6:22:57 PM   
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