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non pro mistress - 7/24/2013 6:11:54 PM   
buddhabob


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RE: non pro mistress - 7/24/2013 6:16:00 PM   
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RE: non pro mistress - 7/24/2013 6:49:53 PM   
Rawni


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Status: offline 		Sex slave? Oh... I have one in the drawer, runs on batteries and never talks back.

Oh? You meant that other kind... Don't do them. No need. Now, if I want sex with my submissive, that I will do, but he is no sex slave. He multi-tasks and doesn't have a list of things he serves in sexually. That oral thing... naw... no thanks. That isn't a service. That's just fun. I wouldn't be bragging about it though... must guys that say what you said... aren't typically very good at it. Ekkk!

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RE: non pro mistress - 7/24/2013 7:31:13 PM   
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ORIGINAL: buddhabob

What percentage of dominat women want actual sex as part of thier slaves duties? How many love having a sex slave slut boy or pet?


Absolutely none. We're all just a bunch of penis-pinching money-grubbing harpies.

Serious answer: Bob, lifestyle dynamics don't change a thing about how useful people find each other. You still have to jump through the same hoops as vanilla-land; maybe more hoops since dominant women can pick and choose from a veritable sea of submissive partners. There are so many who want to just be our 'tool' (as stated in your profile) we couldn't possibly have time or desire for all of you, so we pick the ones that are awesome on every front with VERY little regard for their 'tools'.

The left-overs either pay a prodomme and/or complain on the boards about how providing their tool should be quite enough and thus we owe THEM for the 'pleasure' of dominating their whiny asses.

Might I suggest a good read and heed of the Ask A Mistress FAQ? I think you will get far more useful information there than the 15x weekly "how many mistresses...?" (in fact, I think that's one of the FAQ, so you will get your answer there.)

Oh, and Bob? PLEEEEEEEZE learn the difference between 'dominat' and 'dominant'. The ladies here are the second word, 'k?

Also, +1 for a big 'blech' to the oral thing. Many men think offering that is some kind of rare and special commodity. It's not rare or special in the least, and the fact is MANY women don't like it to begin with. Personally, I don't consider it 'service', just a guaranteed yeast infection.

Welcome to the boards and best of luck to you!


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RE: non pro mistress - 7/24/2013 7:38:05 PM   
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ORIGINAL: buddhabob

What percentage of dominat women want actual sex as part of thier slaves duties?

41.92275%

quote:

How many love having a sex slave slut boy or pet?

37.042%


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RE: non pro mistress - 7/24/2013 7:41:25 PM   
MsLadySue


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Status: offline 		You're going to find what you offer is nothing special. The majority of dominant females can find a sexual partner anytime they have the need.

What is more important is the sub's ability to carry on an intelligent conversation and serve in ways that are useful to us. Things like running errands, doing repairs, yard work, window washing, etc. are what we look for.

Were you expecting to get a call from a dominant woman to come service her when she was in the mood and that would be all that's involved? Sorry to disappointment you but that's just a friend with benefits, not a d/s relationship.


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RE: non pro mistress - 7/24/2013 9:23:50 PM   
Anatolium


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RE: non pro mistress - 7/24/2013 10:42:13 PM   
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I think quite a lot of dominant women have sex with their subs, because a lot of domme/sub relationships are ultimately romantic-partner relationships. That said, very few women want a 'sex slave' as such, because that suggests sex is the only or main duty. Sex is easy to come by for women, especially dominant women. I've seen very few women with the fantasy of keeping a guy purely for sex. That's not to say that regular kinky sexy fun time won't happen, but rather it's likely to be part of a whole relationship.

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RE: non pro mistress - 7/24/2013 11:15:06 PM   
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ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders
I've seen very few women with the fantasy of keeping a guy purely for sex. That's not to say that regular kinky sexy fun time won't happen, but rather it's likely to be part of a whole relationship.


This.

In my case, x 2 concurrently. Men, that is. OP, see why I don't have time for more 'tools'? Where would I put them, for gawd's sake?


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RE: non pro mistress - 7/25/2013 1:10:02 AM   
lizi


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Status: offline 		Men keep projecting their fantasies onto women hoping to have them happen the way they envision it. Yeah, not so much. Women don't tend to want the same things men do in the same ways.

There are probably a very low percentage (since you want a percent) of lifestyle female Dominants who want to have a man around just for sex, and if there was a woman or two like this, I imagine the competition is tres fierce amongst the potential sex slaves.

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RE: non pro mistress - 7/25/2013 5:24:00 AM   
searching4mysir


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Status: offline 		Sex is easy to get for women. Lifestyle dommes don't need to "train" a sex slave if sex is all they have to offer. It is far more trouble than it is worth.

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RE: non pro mistress - 7/25/2013 5:31:11 AM   
DarkSteven


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ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt
OP, see why I don't have time for more 'tools'? Where would I put them, for gawd's sake?




Well, if they're to be used for sex, a few places spring to mind immediately.

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RE: non pro mistress - 7/25/2013 6:16:11 AM   
Anatolium


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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
a few places spring to mind immediately.


No. It can't be. You're not suggesting ... are you... in between the toes?

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RE: non pro mistress - 7/25/2013 9:25:28 AM   
LadyPact


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No. It can't be. You're not suggesting ... are you... in between the toes?

No, that's for pointy little sticks. Very effective.



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RE: non pro mistress - 7/25/2013 1:57:24 PM   
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ORIGINAL: buddhabob

What percentage of dominat women want actual sex as part of thier slaves duties? How many love having a sex slave slut boy or pet?


Ummmmm, Bob. May I give you some advice, one male sub to another?

Your profile basically says that you want to be used as a sex slave, and that you're "very oral". That's basically all that you say about yourself. You don't talk about any of your vanilla interests, or about what makes you unique and interesting (I hate to tell you this, but wanting sex doesn't make you unique). So why should any of the ladies be interested in you?

As some of them have already said, most women can get sex anytime they want it. It's basically a commodity to them. So what's important is all of the other things that come along WITH the sex. Things like a sense of humor, chivalry, great conversationalist, incredible wealth (let's not kid ourselves), shared values, etc. So why not spend some time telling the ladies about why you're great in those vanilla areas. If you convince them that you're a great catch in non-sexual ways, I guarantee you that you'll get all the sex you could ever hope for. But leading with your desire for sex is a sure way to guarantee that you never get any.



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RE: non pro mistress - 7/25/2013 3:01:54 PM   
MistressDarkArt


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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

If you convince them that you're a great catch in non-sexual ways, I guarantee you that you'll get all the sex you could ever hope for. But leading with your desire for sex is a sure way to guarantee that you never get any.




This ^^^ Thanks, Roch. What was it I said on another thread about this same hackneyed topic? That whether or not there's play involved, time spent usually includes dinner, a car wash, and a 2-hr foot massage. If I want an orgasm, my electric bill is on auto-pay.

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RE: non pro mistress - 7/26/2013 4:48:58 PM   
LookieNoNookie


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ORIGINAL: buddhabob

What percentage of dominat (dominant) women want actual sex as part of thier (their) slaves duties? How many love having a sex slave slut boy or pet?


I know this one.

27%/43%/some.

(Glad I was here to assist).

JJ

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RE: non pro mistress - 7/27/2013 12:45:02 PM   
NiceButMeanGirl


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ORIGINAL: buddhabob

What percentage of dominant women want actual sex as part of their slaves duties? How many love having a sex slave, slut boy or pet?

First, I fixed the spelling, it was bugging me. Moving on....

Sure, I like to have sex with my sub because the ideal D/s dynamic - for me anyway - includes romantic love and sex as well as D/s. BUT, if he just considers it another one of his "duties" I don't want him around anyway. That takes all the fun out of it.

As for having a sex slave, well, if he's just for sex he's not worth it. I have both plug-in and battery-operated toys for that and they're right where they need to be when they need to be. No fuss, no muss.

I looked at your profile and it's 100% about sex sex sex and do-me do-me do-me. There's nothing it about what makes you you or about what you offer besides sex. Any sub of mine will be submitting outside the bedroom as well as in. Besides, if everything is centered solely around what you like to do or have done to you, it really isn't submission, now, is it?

NBMG


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RE: non pro mistress - 7/27/2013 4:05:29 PM   
PeonForHer


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ORIGINAL: Rawni

Sex slave? Oh... I have one in the drawer, runs on batteries and never talks back.

Oh? You meant that other kind... Don't do them. No need. Now, if I want sex with my submissive, that I will do, but he is no sex slave. He multi-tasks and doesn't have a list of things he serves in sexually. That oral thing... naw... no thanks. That isn't a service. That's just fun.


Right. So you'd never say 'thank you!' to the man who'd just given you the *best bj of your life*? Nor even think it - on account of you know the sub male in question got off on doing it? Nonsense. If a good sub-man was to do that for you, you'd be thankful. If you thought him both brawny and horny, Rawni.


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RE: non pro mistress - 7/27/2013 4:24:25 PM   
Rawni


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Status: offline 		I don't know that I have ever thanked a man for good sex, whatever we were doing. He puts me in heaven... all good, I am still not thanking him. Thankful? Um... hummm, oh yes, appreciated, but to get to my bed, he's had a good workout in so many ways and I will thank him for some of those various things. I just got one of the best massages ever... I was thankful for that and did thank him, repeatedly. However, he also took me to dinner, rescued me when I got lost in Kansas and has been helping me accomplish quite a bit lately with that brawn.

He isn't a sex slave... though I might call him that someday, in a moment. And so far, he doesn't talk back. Just keeps me laughing and taken care of.

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