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ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Are men with small cocks inferior to women and other men in every way? (7/30/2013 2:02:25 AM)

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ORIGINAL: metamorfosis

No, in this case the OP got what was coming to him. But since the thread is still going, does anyone want to try to salvage this into an actual discussion?


When a person is so obviously focused on some aspect of their selves which they find negative, like a small cock, then it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. If you think a small cock mean you can't sexually satisfy a female, then you can't.

If you think your big nose makes you ugly, you are. How you see yourself ends up being who you become.

I've been reading this really cool book called 'The Four Agreements' -- the foundation of this book is that all of us go through life with a negative view of who we are, because the human psyche is such that one negative outweighs a hundred positives. This means we tend to be our own worst enemy, and take things far too personally. (A great book, highly recommended.)

So men with small cocks may well think of themselves as inferior.

As for the OP, lw got it right, please consult a good therapist, you don't just have issues, you've taken out a full subscription.



metamorfosis -> RE: Are men with small cocks inferior to women and other men in every way? (7/30/2013 2:46:55 AM)

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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt
When a person is so obviously focused on some aspect of their selves which they find negative, like a small cock, then it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. If you think a small cock mean you can't sexually satisfy a female, then you can't...So men with small cocks may well think of themselves as inferior.


It strikes me that, for the OP, that is the whole point. He likes feeling inferior and so he's glad to have a small dick so that he can be humiliated for it. His inferiority complex is really a source of pride. In a backwards way he's kind of bragging. I would say, more power to him, except that I would rather not have been obliged to see it or listen to him comment on how he's a slave dogshit, etc.

I can't say I think that attitude warrants therapy. Other than exposing people to his kink, I don't think he's doing anything wrong.



MyMasterStephen -> RE: Are men with small cocks inferior to women and other men in every way? (7/30/2013 2:53:22 AM)

You're more likely to be laughed at for your inability to pluralise the word "penis"...



metamorfosis -> RE: Are men with small cocks inferior to women and other men in every way? (7/30/2013 3:17:23 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Ibegtoeatyourpoo
...I should have put 'are men with small cocks inferior in other ways', as I have low self esteem and did wonder if there was a link.


If late night commercials are any indication, many men link self confidence and penis size. Perhaps lack of self confidence leads to a multitude of other problems. I wonder if any of the guys out there are brave enough to testify to this.



AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Are men with small cocks inferior to women and other men in every way? (7/30/2013 3:19:18 AM)

fast reply

It seems we have threads like this quite frequently, with an OP who is clearly very excited at the prospect of discussing their most treasured kinks and fantasies. Sometimes there is some attempt to start some discussion around the kink and other times it is a fairly straightforward request for humiliation/dirty stories or whatever.

It doesn't go down well here, and although the OPs could have benefited from spending more time reading the forums and figuring out the culture I can't entirely blame them. They have something very dear to them that they might not get to express very often and they have found a site dedicated to kink - it's not surprising that some people leap into the forums with the hope of getting what they need.

I do think it's tacky to come fishing for humiliation and/or masturbatory materials, but I also think there is an understandable desire to be able to say 'this is my most intimate fantasy, please validate it'.

Maybe we should start a 'judgment free fantasy thread' in random snippets so people can get this outpouring out of their systems. Not to indulge people's requests for small-dick insults (or whatever kink of the day may be) but so they could express their fantasy and have it heard publicly - that seems to be a big driving force. And also, maybe to say 'please tell me I'm not the only one'.



metamorfosis -> RE: Are men with small cocks inferior to women and other men in every way? (7/30/2013 3:36:01 AM)

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ORIGINAL: metamorfosis
Perhaps lack of self confidence leads to a multitude of other problems.


As a woman, I can testify that having a poor body image led to self confidence problems which surely had repercussions in my life. It's just that that "body image" was much less focused on a single body part. I just wasn't pretty, and that made me feel less feminine. Not sure if I would really say it made me "inferior in other ways", but certainly there were serious repercussions.



metamorfosis -> RE: Are men with small cocks inferior to women and other men in every way? (7/30/2013 3:43:32 AM)

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP
...how can confidence in the real world have any relation to something you don't discuss?


I'm not sure I agree. Anyone want to venture an opinion?



ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Are men with small cocks inferior to women and other men in every way? (7/30/2013 3:59:32 AM)

I've done some thinking about this, and it's my opinion that the OP purposely chose to slap people in the face with a kink he already knows most are squeamish about (at best).

Really, it's not a matter of being 'mugged' for having a kink many have on their hard limit list, the OP was mugged for slamming us in the face with it.

You know, to a certain extent, BDSM groups police themselves with it comes to how we view other's kinks in a group setting (and in my mind, this forum is a group setting.) If you go to a play party where others are engaged in something you find distasteful, you have the option to leave, to complain to the host, whatever. BUT, it is implied that your very presence is assumed consent for being exposed to kinks you may find objectionable.

Isn't the same true here in this online venue? I think it is, to a certain extent. This group, like ALL groups, has it own unspoken rules. Just like a play party may have a non spoken 'nothing overtly sexual in public' rule, another group may have a 'no edge play in public' rule, etc. What you do in the privacy of your own home and what you do in public, even if it is a BDSM group, is often different, and most people are socialized to the extent they conform to these unspoken rules. If they don't or can't, it's the DM's or host's job to explain the rules and ensure compliance.

The OP over-stepped the second he chose his screen name, IMO. That tells me he LOVED the attention he got, and reveled in the idea he could make so many uncomfortable with his 'humiliation.'



metamorfosis -> RE: Are men with small cocks inferior to women and other men in every way? (7/30/2013 8:20:18 AM)

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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt
...If you go to a play party where others are engaged in something you find distasteful, you have the option to leave, to complain to the host, whatever. BUT, it is implied that your very presence is assumed consent for being exposed to kinks you may find objectionable. Isn't the same true here in this online venue?


That was sort of my point. The OP has been heavily criticized for exposing others to his kink, without their consent. But this is a kink website that people elect to join (or leave) and this is a thread that people choose to read (or not). His username is not against TOS. His avatar may be, but apparently no one has reported it. His choice of thread topic is not against TOS. If the argument is that by entering this place, you are tacitly giving consent for being exposed to other people's kinks (at least within TOS), then everyone on this thread, by their very presence here, has consented to being exposed to his. At very least, they have consented to read the material in the thread.

What surprises me is the startling contrast between the responses on this thread, which suggest that consent in such a place is not implied and each person bears the responsibility not to expose others to his kink if the others don't wish it, and the responses on the thread I linked, which suggest that consent in such a place is implied and that people do not bear the responsibility of not exposing others to their kinks; to the contrary, that the responsibility lies with the person who objects to remove himself from whatever situation he considers offensive.

To be perfectly clear, I'm not saying that either of those positions is right or wrong. I'm simply saying that they contradict one other.

quote:

...This group, like ALL groups, has it own unspoken rules. Just like a play party may have a non spoken 'nothing overtly sexual in public' rule, another group may have a 'no edge play in public' rule, etc. What you do in the privacy of your own home and what you do in public, even if it is a BDSM group, is often different, and most people are socialized to the extent they conform to these unspoken rules. If they don't or can't, it's the DM's or host's job to explain the rules and ensure compliance.


I think the unspoken expectations of this forum have now been adequately explained to the OP, and if he continues to offend he won't be able to use ignorance as an excuse.

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The OP over-stepped the second he chose his screen name, IMO. That tells me he LOVED the attention he got, and reveled in the idea he could make so many uncomfortable with his 'humiliation.'


I believe his explanation that whatever offense he caused was unintentional.




Apocalypso -> RE: Are men with small cocks inferior to women and other men in every way? (7/30/2013 8:43:15 AM)


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ORIGINAL: cloudboy


You guys mugged the OP pure and simple. He's been a very good fellow about it, too, despite his lack of refinement and posting experience here. If his name were "thehandofgod" and he asked about milling paddles or something -- even if is interest in spanking were graphic and over the top -- we wouldn't see the same response.

BTW, he's not a victim. You guys are the aggressors. That's a big difference. Flying in formation, you just don't see it.

Yeah, it's terrible. The OP just came on and went "I'm really into small penis humilation and this is what I like about it in detail" and everyone mocked him.

Oh, wait, no he didn't. He pretended it was a serious question. Are you reading a different thread then me?



pahunkboy -> RE: Are men with small cocks inferior to women and other men in every way? (7/30/2013 8:58:45 AM)

OP- if you are into scat- make sure you have the HEP series of shots.



Rawni -> RE: Are men with small cocks inferior to women and other men in every way? (7/30/2013 9:12:11 AM)

So the question is legitimate eh? Well, I think the op can answer his question as the guy in the picture looks pretty successful to me. Besides the fact that the guy in the picture has more than one inch, he seems rather successful, seeing as though he is a guy used in many photo's with many dominants from planetfemdom.

So he misrepresents who he is by using a stolen picture, talks of nothing but eating poo in his profile and sincerely brings a question to the forum about his little cock, talking to other inferior men with little cocks, who must not be successful too because they relate a small cock to failure for which they now enjoy humiliation and wonder if this applies to all small cocked men or if bigger cocked men are more successful... and it is all sincere.

Oh poo on that.




pahunkboy -> RE: Are men with small cocks inferior to women and other men in every way? (7/30/2013 9:19:02 AM)

maybe this was some kind of university paper. hmm



Rawni -> RE: Are men with small cocks inferior to women and other men in every way? (7/30/2013 9:25:04 AM)

Well, there is that... [:D]

I'm always a test subject in my research projects. I guess it makes sense. [;)] and [8|]



LadyPact -> RE: Are men with small cocks inferior to women and other men in every way? (7/30/2013 9:36:51 AM)

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ORIGINAL: metamorfosis
That was sort of my point. The OP has been heavily criticized for exposing others to his kink, without their consent. But this is a kink website that people elect to join (or leave) and this is a thread that people choose to read (or not). His username is not against TOS. His avatar may be, but apparently no one has reported it. His choice of thread topic is not against TOS. If the argument is that by entering this place, you are tacitly giving consent for being exposed to other people's kinks (at least within TOS), then everyone on this thread, by their very presence here, has consented to being exposed to his. At very least, they have consented to read the material in the thread.

What surprises me is the startling contrast between the responses on this thread, which suggest that consent in such a place is not implied and each person bears the responsibility not to expose others to his kink if the others don't wish it, and the responses on the thread I linked, which suggest that consent in such a place is implied and that people do not bear the responsibility of not exposing others to their kinks; to the contrary, that the responsibility lies with the person who objects to remove himself from whatever situation he considers offensive.

To be perfectly clear, I'm not saying that either of those positions is right or wrong. I'm simply saying that they contradict one other.

I think the unspoken expectations of this forum have now been adequately explained to the OP, and if he continues to offend he won't be able to use ignorance as an excuse.

I believe his explanation that whatever offense he caused was unintentional.

This is where I think they are two different things.

Being exposed to somebody's kink is different than that person trying to incorporate other people into their kink. The best analogy is to compare it to a place space. When I go to a group play party or dungeon, I am accepting that other people are going to be conducting scenes that involve their kinks. That would be similar to the OP and the person who has agreed to provide him with his sph by talking to him about his member, laughing at him or whatever they agreed to within the confines of their negotiation.

Where the difference is would be the attempt to try to include others in the scene without their consent. Overhearing their scene is different than approaching others to try to get them to comment on the size of the OP's member or trying phrases such as "look how small it is" and "this little penis must be why I think I'm less of a man" because even if no reply to the subject is made, it's being projected onto others.




MrBukani -> RE: Are men with small cocks inferior to women and other men in every way? (7/30/2013 9:45:56 AM)

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According to the latest studies I am sorry to inform you most women like big cocks within reason(about 9 inch on average I heard). Just like most men love big tits(DoubleD)
You will get many liars now, that say they love small tits, but that's only because their girlfriends have two eggies on the chest.

But there is a remedy, one moment.

You see it when you surf for porn a lot these days. They keep poppin up all the time everywhere.



MrBukani -> RE: Are men with small cocks inferior to women and other men in every way? (7/30/2013 9:51:39 AM)

Got one after only surfing a few seconds for porn.


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I cant garantee they work cause I dont need that shit. Good luck!
Here you go problem solved.[:D]



pahunkboy -> RE: Are men with small cocks inferior to women and other men in every way? (7/30/2013 9:54:12 AM)

The OP has to listen to me. I am hung well.



LadyPact -> RE: Are men with small cocks inferior to women and other men in every way? (7/30/2013 9:56:46 AM)

Personally, I always got a kick out of the smiling Bob commercials.



Rawni -> RE: Are men with small cocks inferior to women and other men in every way? (7/30/2013 10:01:00 AM)

[:D] Superficial at best... No wonder society suffers so many things it wouldn't have to if people didn't base so many things on so little.

I know men that absolutely love small breasted women. It is a bit more challenging to find women that say they love small cocked men. Still, a great partner with a small cock or a big cocked man that just doesn't fit in other ways... and this old broad is going for the great partner.

I've known some very successful men and women and boob and cock size had little to do with it unless they slept their way to the top. Hell, I've done a few successful men and the surprise in their pocket was a little surprising in a couple of situations, but... they were still successful in life and with me and other women... damn it. [:D] So, I guess if you have a small one... you BETTER by successful, but even with that, it may be an in-general thing, because I have known some without a dime, but successful with ladies, that were all personality and had little ones.

Whatever. Emotional health and well being is where it's at for me.



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