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Maybe some stupid questions for female dommes - 8/4/2013 5:03:20 AM   
JustAMas


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Status: offline 		Ok, so I'm not a sub male... but sometimes, I would read stories by female dommes out of curiosity... and I find them somewhat interesting.

So I noticed that you female dommes like to turn guys into "girls" (I would also enjoy feminising... females)... so my question is, if you are a straight female, then would you fuck a real, biologically female, female? And if not, what's the difference between a guy that's turned into a "girl", and a real girl?

Yeah so this may be a stupid question, but this is confusing to me... And why would straight sub guys fuck guys?
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RE: Maybe some stupid questions for female dommes - 8/4/2013 5:35:11 AM   
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Status: offline 		Uh, I'm confused as hell, but I'll try to answer this.

Yes because I'm a straight female, kinda. My profile says bi, but, it's complicated. I'd fuck a female with a strap, do all sorts of kinky play...but I won't eat pussy nor allow mine to be eaten. I also won't kiss bitches. So I'm not really sure what sexual preference that falls under but...yea I'd fuck females.

As far as the difference between a guy turned into a girl, and a real girl, is simple.....a penis. Well that's the PHYSICAL difference.


I hope I helped, I'm confused as shit right now. Lol

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RE: Maybe some stupid questions for female dommes - 8/4/2013 5:43:20 AM   
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Status: offline 		You're confused because you're not a sub male.

Dominant women don't feminize men because they want a woman to fuck. If that were the case, they would go out and find a sub woman. Dommes feminize sub men because it's humiliating. It's a fetish for some men and women.

And, a submissive straight guy would fuck another straight guy because that's what his Mistress wants. It turns her on so it turns him on.



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RE: Maybe some stupid questions for female dommes - 8/4/2013 5:53:17 AM   
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Status: offline 		Most of the dommes I know who like to feminize males do NOT do it for humiliation. As a matter of fact, I refuse to feminize a male b/c he gets off on the humiliation. For me, it's a celebration of being female.

To use feminization as humiliation is to denigrate being female, as if it's lesser, or a reason for shame.

Now, porn fantasies and pros do use feminization as a humiliation technique, but catering to a male's humiliation fetish is not my thing.

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RE: Maybe some stupid questions for female dommes - 8/4/2013 6:33:33 AM   
JustAMas


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ORIGINAL: TNDommeK

Yes because I'm a straight female, kinda. My profile says bi, but, it's complicated. I'd fuck a female with a strap, do all sorts of kinky play...but I won't eat pussy nor allow mine to be eaten. I also won't kiss bitches. So I'm not really sure what sexual preference that falls under but...yea I'd fuck females.

As far as the difference between a guy turned into a girl, and a real girl, is simple.....a penis. Well that's the PHYSICAL difference.


And how would you feel while you're fucking a girl with a strap-on? Do you refuse to do anything else because it's "gross"?

And I take it that you're still (obviously) attracted to cock and "male"ness... just not as... "macho" and more "femme"? Is that correct? How far would you want him feminized, on a scale of 1-10, 1 being completely "male", and 10 being completely "female"? Would you only leave his penis?

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Dominant women don't feminize men because they want a woman to fuck. If that were the case, they would go out and find a sub woman. Dommes feminize sub men because it's humiliating. It's a fetish for some men and women.


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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

Most of the dommes I know who like to feminize males do NOT do it for humiliation. As a matter of fact, I refuse to feminize a male b/c he gets off on the humiliation. For me, it's a celebration of being female.

To use feminization as humiliation is to denigrate being female, as if it's lesser, or a reason for shame.


Well... now we have two different answers. I guess that is expected since we have different expectations. Can we agree that it is the femininity that is considered attractive?

In my opinion, it's also not so much of humiliation, but more of a celebration of being female and feminine. Ok, at least that is how I feel toward a female sub... I'm not sure about feminized male subs. I have heard from them that it is not about humiliation but it's because they look good as females or something like that. For others, it may be about humiliation.

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RE: Maybe some stupid questions for female dommes - 8/4/2013 8:00:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		First, we should clarify that there are very few D-Type females that are interested in femming up a guy. What you see in porn is "made to market" to the legion of guys who want a Lady to femme them up.

The guys that do want that, are typically driven by a fetish desire rather than desiring an authentic expression of who they are as a being.

Of the small proportion of D-Type women who will engage with either gender expression or gender play, most go for the person for whom gender is a matter of expression rather than fetish and is part of how that male engages with their own innate sense of self and authenticity.


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RE: Maybe some stupid questions for female dommes - 8/4/2013 8:16:29 AM   
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My profile says bi, but, it's complicated. I'd fuck a female with a strap, do all sorts of kinky play...but I won't eat pussy nor allow mine to be eaten. I also won't kiss bitches.


Lol, one of my favorite things to do with females is kiss - nice soft lips, yum yum! Different strokes I guess

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RE: Maybe some stupid questions for female dommes - 8/4/2013 8:43:03 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm not into feminization myself. Seeing a man dressed up as a woman is repulsive to me. I think it's more of a male sub fetish than a domme fetish. I'm proud of being female and the idea that making a man into a woman would be humiliating really turns me off.

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RE: Maybe some stupid questions for female dommes - 8/4/2013 8:47:04 AM   
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ORIGINAL: JustAMas

Ok, so I'm not a sub male... but sometimes, I would read stories by female dommes out of curiosity... and I find them somewhat interesting.

So I noticed that you female dommes like to turn guys into "girls" (I would also enjoy feminising... females)... so my question is, if you are a straight female, then would you fuck a real, biologically female, female? And if not, what's the difference between a guy that's turned into a "girl", and a real girl?

Yeah so this may be a stupid question, but this is confusing to me... And why would straight sub guys fuck guys?


Wow.

1. Very few Dommes like to feminize men. They usually do it because, like OtterSwim said, they're being paid to do it, or they just want to please their man.

2. A straight female will fuck a biological female if she's doing it for someone else.

3. The difference between a feminized man and a born female? That's much more complicated than you think.

The binary world is very simple. There are men and there are women. If they're straight, they are attracted to those of opposite gender. If they're gay/lesbian, they're attracted to those of the same gender. If they're bi, they're attracted to both.

What's confusing you are the people who don't fit squarely into the nice neat boxes.

Transgender are those people who want to present as a gender other than the one they were born in. One kind of TG, CDs/TVs change clothes and present as the other gender. Then they go back to their born gender.

Transsexuals are another form of TG. They actually want to transform into the other gender. Hormones are common, and sexual reassignment surgery for those that can afford it. MtFs frequently get electrolysis to remove facial hair.

Genderfluid is another confusing one. While I don't fully understand it, I believe it's for those who choose to present as male sometimes, and female other times.

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RE: Maybe some stupid questions for female dommes - 8/4/2013 9:22:57 AM   
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Status: offline 		You're right. It's stupid question.

And so is the other one.

Obvious troll is obvious.

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RE: Maybe some stupid questions for female dommes - 8/4/2013 9:44:49 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		It's generally not a good idea to read erotica and/or watch porn and decide that all female Dominants like engaging in a certain activity just because of the fiction that was created to turn on the demographic that it was made for. I'm also not in the category that likes feminizing males, and in fact, it's even on My hard limit list. I also happen to be straight and when I say straight, I mean it. That means I don't have sexual encounters with women in any way. No strap-on play with females or any other thing. I'm not attracted to females sexually so wanting a male to be more feminine doesn't trip My trigger. I can appreciate that a female is attractive but it's just the same as a male who can understand that another male is a good looking guy. It doesn't mean you want to do them.

From a personal standpoint, I tend to use different terms for various positions of sexuality. Rather than straight, you're asking if women who engage in sexual activities with other women are bi-sexual or hetero-flexible. Bi-sexual would be women who are sexually attracted to both genders. Hetero-flexible women are straight women who are willing to engage in sexual activities with other women depending on the circumstances. (Chicks who are willing to engage in acts for the purpose of turning on a guy would fall into that hetero-flexible category.) Straight women, such as Myself, only engage in sexual activities with men.


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RE: Maybe some stupid questions for female dommes - 8/4/2013 11:00:18 AM   
LittleMsMary


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Status: offline 		I would just chime in to say that I enjoy "femming" up guys to a degree, but to me it doesn't have to do with humiliating men by "forcing" them to dress as women.

Personally I don't get into guys crossdressing as part of play (though I don't have any strong negative reaction to those who do, it's just not my thing) and I think it also can definitely get to the point where it becomes an insanely over the top caricature of women and get insulting. For me I enjoy taking a guy who is pretty masculine from a traditional/societal point of view and put them in panties as a bit of a play on gender stereotypes/power etc and it's something that can be done 24/7 if desired but also subtly and without involving others in your kink.

So I guess I'd say I enjoy the power exchange/role reversal and tweaking or breaking social rules by being the one in charge (in general) and also more specifically in deciding what he wears and picking something that might be embarrassing but not "humiliating" by it's association with women. To me, embarrassing and humiliating are two different things with different impacts. So I see it more as a taboo/rule breaking thing than specifically having to do with gender...So to me it doesn't make me think of him as a female or necessarily "feminine" just because he's wearing panties and therefore it doesn't really affect any sexual feelings etc

Hope that makes some kind of sense.

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RE: Maybe some stupid questions for female dommes - 8/4/2013 1:31:05 PM   
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ORIGINAL: JustAMas

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ORIGINAL: TNDommeK

Yes because I'm a straight female, kinda. My profile says bi, but, it's complicated. I'd fuck a female with a strap, do all sorts of kinky play...but I won't eat pussy nor allow mine to be eaten. I also won't kiss bitches. So I'm not really sure what sexual preference that falls under but...yea I'd fuck females.

As far as the difference between a guy turned into a girl, and a real girl, is simple.....a penis. Well that's the PHYSICAL difference.


And how would you feel while you're fucking a girl with a strap-on? Do you refuse to do anything else because it's "gross"?

And I take it that you're still (obviously) attracted to cock and "male"ness... just not as... "macho" and more "femme"? Is that correct? How far would you want him feminized, on a scale of 1-10, 1 being completely "male", and 10 being completely "female"? Would you only leave his penis?

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ORIGINAL: masmiss
Dominant women don't feminize men because they want a woman to fuck. If that were the case, they would go out and find a sub woman. Dommes feminize sub men because it's humiliating. It's a fetish for some men and women.


quote:

ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

Most of the dommes I know who like to feminize males do NOT do it for humiliation. As a matter of fact, I refuse to feminize a male b/c he gets off on the humiliation. For me, it's a celebration of being female.

To use feminization as humiliation is to denigrate being female, as if it's lesser, or a reason for shame.


Well... now we have two different answers. I guess that is expected since we have different expectations. Can we agree that it is the femininity that is considered attractive?

In my opinion, it's also not so much of humiliation, but more of a celebration of being female and feminine. Ok, at least that is how I feel toward a female sub... I'm not sure about feminized male subs. I have heard from them that it is not about humiliation but it's because they look good as females or something like that. For others, it may be about humiliation.


I refuse to do only what I mentioned previously bc I'm not into it. It's not gross. Just not something I'm into.

Oh no, I'm very much attracted to males and macho-ness lol. The Hubby is a huge beast of a man.


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RE: Maybe some stupid questions for female dommes - 8/4/2013 1:34:23 PM   
TNDommeK


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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

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My profile says bi, but, it's complicated. I'd fuck a female with a strap, do all sorts of kinky play...but I won't eat pussy nor allow mine to be eaten. I also won't kiss bitches.


Lol, one of my favorite things to do with females is kiss - nice soft lips, yum yum! Different strokes I guess


I have a theory about kissing. To me, sex or sexual acts aren't sacred anymore.ya know, people fuck left and right. The only thing left in this world that's intimate, is kissing. So I save that for the one I love...Hubby.

It's weird I know, but I just feel that's just for him.

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RE: Maybe some stupid questions for female dommes - 8/4/2013 4:22:42 PM   
JustAMas


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Status: offline 		Well see... the reason that I ask this... is because the dommes who are into feminising... are like me. They think like me, they have similar fetishes like me, their turn-ons are kind of similar to mine. Actually it's kind of weird, how much they're like me sometimes. I'd be like... "I'd do this too... but to a girl".

I'm not trolling, and I understand that my questions could be perceived as trolling... but I can assure you, that I'm not.

I do realize that I have put them in a box and expected all dommes to act in that same way. Yes, there's great diversity among every doms and subs. Okay, so maybe I'm talking about a very specific type of dommes, and not dommes in general.

I don't think that the dommes who feminise do it because they're "getting paid to do it" or "trying to please their partner". I do think that they do it because they genuinely enjoy it.

I think that people like us... both males and females, are just into feminising, and feminine things or people. It... could potentially be a fetish. So are there any dommes who could relate to what I'm saying...?

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RE: Maybe some stupid questions for female dommes - 8/4/2013 5:41:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		OK, but you do get that, if you were into the same thing with a girl, you'd be trying to make her more masculine, yes? Gender play isn't about bringing out more of the same gender that a person already is. It's about dressing them as the opposite gender for various reasons.


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RE: Maybe some stupid questions for female dommes - 8/4/2013 6:58:12 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

OK, but you do get that, if you were into the same thing with a girl, you'd be trying to make her more masculine, yes? Gender play isn't about bringing out more of the same gender that a person already is. It's about dressing them as the opposite gender for various reasons.



I suppose it's possible to humiliate a woman by, say, making her dress in pretty girly frocks and with ribbons in her hair, rather than the kick-ass leathers she's used to wearing. Might be even more humiliating for such a woman than for a domme to force a sub male into female clothing, come to think of it. Myself, I don't think I'd feel humiliated by being forced to wear a dress. I'd just feel a bit of a plonker, that's all.

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RE: Maybe some stupid questions for female dommes - 8/4/2013 7:14:22 PM   
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ORIGINAL: JustAMas

... Okay, so maybe I'm talking about a very specific type of dommes, and not dommes in general...

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See, OP, easy enough to fix. You should have started out with that.

And Peon, you'd still be such a pretty plonker...



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RE: Maybe some stupid questions for female dommes - 8/4/2013 11:52:30 PM   
SoulAlloy


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Status: offline 		I enjoy dressing up purely because I feel that much sexier, far from humiliated. I've often confused people trying to explain that, similarly they tend to get confused when I say I don't want a femme name.

It's almost like crossdressing has become a stereotype in itself sometimes.

Of course it depends on the clothes really, pink and frilly are on my hard limits :p

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RE: Maybe some stupid questions for female dommes - 8/5/2013 5:28:07 PM   
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ORIGINAL: JustAMas

Ok, so I'm not a sub male... but sometimes, I would read stories by female dommes out of curiosity... and I find them somewhat interesting.

So I noticed that you female dommes like to turn guys into "girls" (I would also enjoy feminising... females)... so my question is, if you are a straight female, then would you fuck a real, biologically female, female? And if not, what's the difference between a guy that's turned into a "girl", and a real girl?

Yeah so this may be a stupid question, but this is confusing to me... And why would straight sub guys fuck guys?



I actually thought at one point that chics were this stoooopit.....so I could lead them into chatting with me but.....one thing I learned is....chics are really smart.

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