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A Highly Educated Submissive - 8/8/2013 12:00:50 PM   
PressPlay


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Status: offline 		I was having a conversation with a friend and the topic of Education came up. He told me that he prefers a highly educated female submissive for long term
play. I think personality and how well we get along are more important than whether or not she has a degree.

How important is a college degree to a Domme / Dom when looking for a submissive?
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RE: A Highly Educated Submissive - 8/8/2013 1:08:54 PM   
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ORIGINAL: PressPlay

I was having a conversation with a friend and the topic of Education came up. He told me that he prefers a highly educated female submissive for long term
play. I think personality and how well we get along are more important than whether or not she has a degree.

How important is a college degree to a Domme / Dom when looking for a submissive?

Obtaining a college degree equates to being able to start a project and see it through to its conclusion. A degree is not a requirement for me but follow-through is important and a degree is a good indication that someone can follow through with what they start. If someone doesn't have a college degree but there are other venues that show they follow through I'm good.

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RE: A Highly Educated Submissive - 8/8/2013 1:15:34 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've been with women who had no degree and no college either.

They were stupid, very naive and didn't have much to say about themselves. They also were not very street smart.

For someone such as myself who prefers a TPE relationship. A submissive who can bring a lot to the table including being educated is a huge bonus.

There are guys who just want to get laid, sooner or later they will be bored of you and release you when you have had your fill. Then there are guys who want the LTR and everything that comes with it. Just that they are into the lifestyle is here or there.

For me the BDSM is not a game. It's my own way of life. I dont see that I am kinky, for me this is normal. I just see other people as being vanilla and they don't know what they are missing.

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RE: A Highly Educated Submissive - 8/8/2013 2:08:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		I wouldn't say a degree is as important as MASSIVELY intelligent.
I've known PHDs who were fucking STUPID.
I've known people who I had to prod to get a GED who were very intelligent.

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RE: A Highly Educated Submissive - 8/8/2013 2:37:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		Master told me he was looking for someone who had some knowledge of the world, an interest in what was going on around them and who could hold their own in a reasoned discussion.

He decided I fit the bill. I have two undergraduate degrees and two postgraduate degrees, but that doesn't matter. He doesn't have any college education but he's easily as smart as me, and in some areas even smarter.

Qualifications are really just paper that say someone has formal acknowledgement of their ability to pass exams. Sometimes qualifications aren't worth the paper they're written on when it comes to living in the real world.

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RE: A Highly Educated Submissive - 8/8/2013 3:16:28 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam

I wouldn't say a degree is as important as MASSIVELY intelligent.
I've known PHDs who were fucking STUPID.
I've known people who I had to prod to get a GED who were very intelligent.


I have to agree with you. I would probably qualify as one of the latter, though I'm not sure i'd use the word 'very' to describe my intelligence. I have personal issues with being in school that stem from high school. That doesn't mean that I'm not capable of learning new things, or that I can't carry on intelligent conversations. It just means that I had different priorities at that point in my life.

Personally, I think that piece of paper says very little about a person other than a certain skill set or base of understanding in their field. I'm always amazed by the interns that come through my work place that have little to no ability to think their way through a simple problem. Common sense, rational thought, life experience, and street smarts aren't taught in class, and usually can't be taught at all.

If a potential partner decided to judge me based on my lack of education, they are obviously not a match for me, and would strike me as being too close-minded for me.

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RE: A Highly Educated Submissive - 8/8/2013 3:37:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		The vast majority of today's college degrees are entirely worthless since the educational standards in this country have taken an absolute nosedive. Anyone can get a college degree today, but how many of you could pass this 101 year-old 8th grade exam:



Not very many...

In any case, to answer your question: education is important, but government-sanctioned pieces of paper mean nothing.

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RE: A Highly Educated Submissive - 8/8/2013 5:02:03 PM   
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I know any number of bright, creative, enterprising people
who don't have college degrees. And I know people with degrees
who aren't particularly bright, show no indications they've
learned anything since college and have little curiosity about
the world outside of their own bubble.

I think for a relationship to flourish mental compatibility is
important. But that can mean different things to different
people and you don't have to have a degree to be mentally
stimulating or to have a brain that others want to lick.

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RE: A Highly Educated Submissive - 8/8/2013 5:37:20 PM   
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ORIGINAL: BitaTruble
Obtaining a college degree equates to being able to start a project and see it through to its conclusion. A degree is not a requirement for me but follow-through is important and a degree is a good indication that someone can follow through


I've heard this from employers before, many don't even care what the degree is, but having one is a big advantage.
I would never use education as an arbitrary "you must be this tall to ride" type of standard to discriminate against people... A high level of education is an advantage but some peoples tallents can't be measured so easily, personality, a love of life, confidence etc... Are just as advantageous, and sometimes more so... Who really wants to be with a sad, reclusive, dull, troublesome partner that has a diploma or whatever...

***I'll add that, being a sexy, talented person with a great personality, super smart in all areas and highly educated may be hazardous to your health! If I found someone like that strolling by, I may... nay, would be compelled to club them 'caveman style', drag them away and make them my sexy smart slave!***

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RE: A Highly Educated Submissive - 8/8/2013 6:38:24 PM   
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How important is a college degree to a Domme / Dom when looking for a submissive?

Not at all.

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RE: A Highly Educated Submissive - 8/8/2013 7:08:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		I do want (and I have) an intelligent submissive. While there is a correlation between intelligence and education., I won't accept education in place of intelligence.

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RE: A Highly Educated Submissive - 8/8/2013 7:18:53 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam

I wouldn't say a degree is as important as MASSIVELY intelligent.
I've known PHDs who were fucking STUPID.
I've known people who I had to prod to get a GED who were very intelligent.


Ya, I worked with a PhD and EdD who were definitely less bright than undergraduates. And South Florida public radio broadcasts the Miami School Board meetings one Wednesday a month - there's a Dr something who definitely strikes me as a nincompoop. I used to listen for the lulz.


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RE: A Highly Educated Submissive - 8/8/2013 8:30:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		I had a friend who is a Stanford Grad and thought that alone would carry her through. It didn't. She is extremely simple minded, unenlightened, stubborn in ways that don't work for her, unworldly, and does nothing to broaden her thinking or her outlook. She is in her 50s and never had a relationship over 6 years, constantly blaming the other guy for why things didn't work, constantly claiming that life isn't fair. She stays home and watches TV every night, won't read a book, doesn't have any hobbies, and gets upset that she can't meet anyone. She is one of the most negative people I know, which is why our friendship is past-tense. This is a woman who is quite attractive, has a good job, owns a beautiful home in an affluent town, and drives a Lexus. And she seems to turn off every man she meets.

I've been to college, but didn't finish, for reasons that are unimportant here. College taught me critical thinking, follow through, how to research, how to collaborate with others, and how to meet deadlines. Well, other areas of my life contributed to those teachings, as well, but I found college to be valuable in areas I wouldn't have considered, had I not gone.

When I was single, a college degree was on my preference list, when considering men to date. Who'd have thought the man of my life - - the man who takes care of my heart - - the man who loves me as I never realized I could be loved - - the man who has enlightened me in whole new areas of my life, would be a humble, simple man who stopped his formal education after high school?

I do think college and getting a degree enhances ones life, but I also believe it really boils down to who the person is. Is he open minded? Is he willing to consider alternate views on things? Does he see things through to the end/conclusion? Is he a good man? Is he confident? Strong? Loving? Kind? Happy? Funny? Humble? Etc...So many things factor into what's important in life and in a partner.

So hey, he doesn't have a degree. But he loves me deeply, adds joy to my life, and is in the process of buying us a house. I'd say I've struck gold.

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RE: A Highly Educated Submissive - 8/9/2013 3:29:40 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam

I wouldn't say a degree is as important as MASSIVELY intelligent.
I've known PHDs who were fucking STUPID.
I've known people who I had to prod to get a GED who were very intelligent.


Agreed.

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RE: A Highly Educated Submissive - 8/9/2013 5:34:36 AM   
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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

And South Florida public radio broadcasts the Miami School Board meetings one Wednesday a month - there's a Dr something who definitely strikes me as a nincompoop. I used to listen for the lulz.


Would it be a Dr. Marshall?
She was a principal I dealt with a couple of decades ago.

One of the densest human beings I've ever met and, when introduced, she made it very apparent that you should call her DOCTOR Marshall.

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RE: A Highly Educated Submissive - 8/9/2013 7:51:51 AM   
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Status: offline 		We had one of those at the private college I attended a few years ago. Insisted on the title everywhere she went, until there was an incident on an airplane. I learned about this from one of my former bosses. She'd booked a flight to somewhere overseas and insisted on her title on the manifest, to the point of threatening legal action.

Somewhere over the Atlantic, another passenger started getting chest pains, so the chief flight attendant checked it and went up to her. She was then forced to tell them she had a doctorate in education and wasn't able to help. When they got on the ground, she apparently was chewed out by someone from the airline for misrepresenting herself. I have no way for verifying the veracity of this, but I do know she was a major PITA for the short time she was employed by that school.

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RE: A Highly Educated Submissive - 8/9/2013 5:55:01 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
I do want (and I have) an intelligent submissive. While there is a correlation between intelligence and education., I won't accept education in place of intelligence.

Honestly, I'm not even sure what "intelligence" is. I know that I score really high on IQ tests. I know that Carol does not. Her brain just doesn't work that way. She does, however, have a great many unique insights that I find very valuable. Then, of course, is this business of the value of IQ. I'm not joking when I say I'd trade 10 IQ points for 1 wisdom point any day of the week.

I want a partner who can complement my mind as well as my body but despite my fairly high IQ I don't find IQ in my partner to be all that relevant.

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RE: A Highly Educated Submissive - 8/9/2013 8:10:09 PM   
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RE: A Highly Educated Submissive - 8/10/2013 2:23:51 AM   
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Status: offline 		Having a degree need not actually denote intelligence. I have a degree, but at a practical level, I can't tie my own shoelaces .

If two people meet, D/s or otherwise & they just want more of each other, the spark is there, degree or no degree.

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RE: A Highly Educated Submissive - 8/10/2013 2:30:33 AM   
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

I do want (and I have) an intelligent submissive. While there is a correlation between intelligence and education., I won't accept education in place of intelligence.


I agree 100%.


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