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RE: Doms with kids - 8/14/2013 8:14:47 PM

Nerosadist

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Nuevavida thank you for great advice you have been the most help with my worrying with this whole situation I think we hold of for a very long time like 18 years or so. Over the last few years I have learned that I was in a very unique situation with my aunts and my parents they must have had a very close relationship to have carried on for over 24 years.

Also has for considering someone because she did not turn and run how do you consider those who do not PM back at all?

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RE: Doms with kids - 8/14/2013 9:06:28 PM

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you don't.

Strange question

But you also don't consider someone just because you're desperate and they are the only one to respond. Did you marry your wife because she's the only one who would go out with you?

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RE: Doms with kids - 8/15/2013 7:38:36 AM

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I was not desperate if I was I would not be blogging with you I would have taken her on. Instead of mentoring her to seek help for mental health and to leave the D,s lifestyle all together, this is why you will not find her name on this blog.

You know I wanted advice from my piers not a diagnostic on my character.

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RE: Doms with kids - 8/15/2013 12:08:48 PM

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This is not a blog, it's a forum.

If you're seeking how to have a successful long term poly relationship when you have a child, it's exactly the same way you have a successful long term monogamous relationship when you have a child.

You begin the relationship by getting a sitter and going elsewhere for the evening. You date for months and years without allowing your child to do more than meet your new date briefly. After you're well past the new relationship energy period and you're going strong, then you invite the new partner to come over for a barbecue and throw a frisbee. You slowly integrate them as friends into the relationship.

And since you're married, both you and your wife need to be in love with the new person before they get invited over for dinner.
You seem to think you can tell the new person and your wife that they must love and like each other.

It doesn't work any more than you going up to a strange woman on the street and telling her she wants to fuck you works. You and your wife need to date the new person together. You need to be on the same page or you'll destroy your marriage and find yourself without physical custody.

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