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AAkasha -> How bout a big dildo in his mouth? Why not? (8/14/2013 5:22:09 PM)
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For the first time in more than a decade a submissive man asked me specifically, in a certain way - what is it about a dildo forced into a man's mouth that is arousing to me on some level?
(I really enjoy it when a man asks questions about motivations - Hint: I think all dominant women like this!)
He told me he had been with many dominant women and he got the impression they liked making men suck fake dicks because they thought that was what dominant women did. They did it because it got them attention or or "turned" men submissive on or it was part of the act but it didn't really "turn them on" but it seemed to turn me on - and why did it turn me on?
Making a man suck on a dildo didn't used to turn me on. Sometimes, it still doesn't. I'd like to hear from other dominant women, does it actually arouse you, or do you do it, because it's what dominant women (sometimes) do? Because it puts "him" where he is supposed to be? It's a tool in your tool kit?
My personal story went something like this. Wall of text incoming, sorry.
Before I even knew what a dildo was, I had a fascination with the male mouth. Watching them lick a spoon when we shared ice cream. "Making" them hold a pen or pencil side ways between their teeth. Telling them playfully to lick their lips. Then it graduated to "making them" suck my fingers. Then, more suggestively, making them suck my fingers while I wore black latex gloves.
Meanwhile, I'm getting older, and more sexual (Age clicking: 18, 19, 20...losing virginity...etc).
Then random things happening. Like making a guy "lick" a vibrator. Out of the blue. Kind of interesting. I just like manipulating a man's mouth. By then I have a full blown gag fetish. I simply adore forcing anything into a man's mouth. Not just fingers, I like holding his chin still and forcing one finger, then two, until he winces. Pushing gags in forcefully. Making him beg not to be gagged, and then doing things like -- oh, how about this vibrator that was just inside of me (in my 20s, my sexuality starts to open up, my imagination and cruelty blossom).
I see how lips wrapped around that shape look interesting and suggestive with the vibrator and I like the size. Somewhere the lightbulb goes off, and I have a dildo around and the first time I propose it - the resistance from the man is authentic because he is humiliated at the thought. This is probably why it developed into a fetish. I had to tie him down, we fought for it, I seduced him. He did not want a cock shaped object in his mouth. Had to start with the head and work up.
I did not get THAT aroused at the idea that he was sucking on a "dildo" per se, but my oral fetish is well established. I like to have things in a man's mouth, really, that's what it's about. Whatever the effect is on the man, that's where the fetish goes from there - ok, is he humiliated, in shame, fear, vulnerable, etc. - and how does his mouth appear doing it?
There are some men that are too self indulgent and willing (well, with anything).
But "making a man suck a cock" or "my strap on" is not an arbitrary act that is done for the sake of establishing dominance. However, it is not something I do because a man seeks me out and demands it. My main kink is bondage, and I MUST be attracted to his mouth (huge mouth fetish here, including nice lips and teeth) of course. It's more than an act of power; it's a fetish in and of itself.
Subs, where does sucking on a dildo fall on the spectrum for you, and how do you see the dominant's enjoyment or disassociation of it? For example, have you been with a woman that seems to just have you suck cock but not really care? Can you tell? Is she just doing it to do it, or doing it because you like it, vs. one that loves it? Have you been with a woman that was hesitant and then she loved it?
Akasha
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