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MalcolmNathaniel -> I am too much of a softy. (8/16/2013 3:27:10 AM)
A crying girl always makes me rethink my moves.

KnightofMists -> RE: I am too much of a softy. (8/16/2013 5:43:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MalcolmNathaniel A crying girl always makes me rethink my moves. Any girl? Or a specific girl?.... Always? Every single time? Making a girl cry in some contexts just don't cause me to rethink anything. In fact it validates my actions. Other times it highlights that I have to rethink my actions.

chatterbox24 -> RE: I am too much of a softy. (8/16/2013 5:50:21 AM)
That's to soft? Hmmmmmm. I disagree. I think its called being sensitive to others, which I regard as an awesome characteristic in another person. Of course why is she crying? To manipulate or is she sincere? Thumbs up to sensitive doms. I call that a strength, not a weakness.

ARIES83 -> RE: I am too much of a softy. (8/16/2013 6:21:34 AM)
FR Does a public forum seem like the best place to reflect upon your personal relationship goings on?

tj444 -> RE: I am too much of a softy. (8/16/2013 6:27:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MalcolmNathaniel A crying girl always makes me rethink my moves. did you make her chop onions or something??? [:-]

lizi -> RE: I am too much of a softy. (8/16/2013 6:30:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MalcolmNathaniel A crying girl always makes me rethink my moves. It's hard being faced by the emotions of someone you care about, but ask yourself if you'd be just dragging things out in the end if you let the fact that she's hurt sway your decision...? My oldest son has a hard time ending things in his relationships, I always tell him that if he's not fully invested, or sees that it won't work, to let her go; she deserves someone who treasures her for being who she is and actively desires to be with her, not someone who is sticking around in order not to hurt her. Two different things.

Hillwilliam -> RE: I am too much of a softy. (8/16/2013 6:30:40 AM)
It depends on why the tears are there.

Moonlightmaddnes -> RE: I am too much of a softy. (8/16/2013 7:16:02 AM)
Sometimes a person just needs to cry, not all tears are bad.

theshytype -> RE: I am too much of a softy. (8/16/2013 9:46:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Moonlightmaddnes Sometimes a person just needs to cry, not all tears are bad. This is true. I know for me, at least, I may cry when something is over but does not necessarily mean I don't understand or agree with it.

TieMeInKnottss -> RE: I am too much of a softy. (8/16/2013 9:56:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: theshytype quote: ORIGINAL: Moonlightmaddnes Sometimes a person just needs to cry, not all tears are bad. This is true. I know for me, at least, I may cry when something is over but does not necessarily mean I don't understand or agree with it. I agree entirely. This is the only comment I will make on this topic anywhere on these boards. It is not the place.

AAkasha -> RE: I am too much of a softy. (8/16/2013 10:14:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MalcolmNathaniel A crying girl always makes me rethink my moves. Have a hood ready. Akasha

JeffBC -> RE: I am too much of a softy. (8/16/2013 10:15:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MalcolmNathaniel A crying girl always makes me rethink my moves. I'm too much a softy too because NOTHING snaps my head around faster than negative emotions in Carol. Woe betide the person who is responsible and if that person is me then they are doubly screwed. <--- not a true dom

Spiritedsub2 -> RE: I am too much of a softy. (8/16/2013 10:15:44 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: theshytype quote: ORIGINAL: Moonlightmaddnes Sometimes a person just needs to cry, not all tears are bad. This is true. I know for me, at least, I may cry when something is over but does not necessarily mean I don't understand or agree with it. This is true for me too. Willie Shakespeare: To weep is to make less the depth of grief.

MarcEsadrian -> RE: I am too much of a softy. (8/16/2013 10:40:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MalcolmNathaniel A crying girl always makes me rethink my moves. “Every woman is wrong until she cries, and then she is right, instantly.” —Thomas C. Haliburton It's a common feeling, as noted in the quote above. Men are often portrayed and thought of as dolts, rapists, abusers, and brutes with little to no feeling, but the exact opposite is often the case. Men are usually tremendously sensitive to the moods of their wives, daughters, girlfriends, or female relatives, and usually give in or bend over backwards for them. Without inferring the nature of men to be sensitive to women is wrong in all cases, it is important for a dominant male to be mindful of emotional manipulation and learn how to spot it. Beyond her physical charms, much of the power of feminine wiles lies in that sort of manipulation. For this reason, it's good to first ascertain what is behind the tears. Some tears require a gentle touch. Others are best handled with cool indifference. Yet other tears can and should be...enjoyed.

MrRodgers -> RE: I am too much of a softy. (8/16/2013 10:59:48 AM)
If one cares, then it is 'Why the tears girl ?' Find the emotional source and you fix it...emotionally.

ResidentSadist -> RE: I am too much of a softy. (8/16/2013 11:55:13 AM)
Me too . . . but I suspect my motives may be different because I really like it when they cry.

JeffBC -> RE: I am too much of a softy. (8/16/2013 12:27:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist Me too . . . but I suspect my motives may be different because I really like it when they cry. As someone else noted, kinda depends on the source of tears dunnit? That's why I reworked my answer to "negative emotions" rather than simply tears. To me context is always important.

OsideGirl -> RE: I am too much of a softy. (8/16/2013 12:37:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam It depends on why the tears are there. Exactly. Am I crying because I'm upset? Am I crying because I'm happy? Am I crying because I'm in pain (not the good kind, anyway)? Am I crying because I know I was wrong and feel bad? Am I crying because we're having one kick ass scene? Am I crying because I just had an orgasm that broke through everything I hold inside?

JeffBC -> RE: I am too much of a softy. (8/16/2013 12:40:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl Am I crying because I'm upset? Am I crying because I'm happy? Am I crying because I'm in pain (not the good kind, anyway)? Am I crying because I know I was wrong and feel bad? Am I crying because we're having one kick ass scene? Am I crying because I just had an orgasm that broke through everything I hold inside? My own personal nightmare? Is she crying because she realized that I'm not the man she thought I was? Yeah... that'd be... uh... bad.

KnightofMists -> RE: I am too much of a softy. (8/16/2013 12:45:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: JeffBC quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl Am I crying because I'm upset? Am I crying because I'm happy? Am I crying because I'm in pain (not the good kind, anyway)? Am I crying because I know I was wrong and feel bad? Am I crying because we're having one kick ass scene? Am I crying because I just had an orgasm that broke through everything I hold inside? My own personal nightmare? Is she crying because she realized that I'm not the man she thought I was? Yeah... that'd be... uh... bad. Yeah. Really bad. It's why I work hard to make sure my girls don't have some rose colour glass viewofme. I want them to know my flaws accept my flaws. Even embrace my flaws. It's only through that I can feel secure in the relationship and be motivated to be a better me for the relationship. Otherwise, I feel that it a card they can play at any time and bright the house down! I hate wild cards!

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