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RE: Pick a number - 8/20/2013 9:21:49 PM

graceadieu

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I've never had that experience, and would not put up with it. If somebody broke up with me, well, then we're broken up. I wouldn't keep going back to the same person who didn't cherish or grow the relationship.

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RE: Pick a number - 8/20/2013 9:30:02 PM

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I don't do the multiple release thing. He either wants me or he doesn't. If he doesn't, he lets me go, and I go away. Simple as that. So if he lets me go, I take that as he doesn't want me, and I move on. The end. Done deal.

The last owner let me go after 4 years. Then he came back, said he didn't think I'd really take that seriously. Guess what - I did.

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RE: Pick a number - 8/21/2013 10:29:47 AM

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How many times have you released the same sub? Is it okay to occur frequently? Why do you think people do it? Is it about not wanting to find someone to replace her with fast enough?

For us, "release" and "divorce" are not the same thing. I've released Carol 3 times... the first 2 of which you can ignore. Generally I don't think it's OK to happen frequently which is why I stopped doing that after the last time.

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RE: Pick a number - 8/21/2013 2:15:39 PM

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This
People get involved too easily. It's like picking up a drill at the dollar store.

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The problem here isn't the releasing, it's the frivolous collaring, and that anyone would allow themself to be collared so frivolously.

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RE: Pick a number - 8/21/2013 4:27:49 PM

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I don't generally end intimate relationships for light and transient causes. When I do end them, I don't restart them.

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RE: Pick a number - 8/21/2013 7:24:46 PM

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I did that. Once. She stomped out and told me it was over, and a couple of hours later was on the phone, crying and begging to come back. I let her back in, and a few months later it happened again. This time I didn't let her back, and she became angry that I had "dumped" her.

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RE: Pick a number - 8/21/2013 7:32:30 PM

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Normally, you break up and it is over. Once in a lifetime (hopefully) you will meet someone who makes you crazy.

Sometimes, you are both struck with temporary insanity and during a 10 year relationship, you break up, get back together numerous times.

Sometimes, you think something will change; again, you are possessed with temporary insanity.

Don't let that happen to you.

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RE: Pick a number (How many times have you released the... - 8/22/2013 9:16:45 AM

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The problem here isn't the releasing, it's the frivolous collaring, and that anyone would allow themself to be collared so frivolously. Are you saying that marriage takes more trust and knowledge of a person than giving yourself to them as a slave? A SLAVE?

Exactly. I wouldn't consider taking a master less seriously than I would taking a husband. (My marriage lasted 18 years.)

I wouldn't go back to someone who dumped me either.

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RE: Pick a number (How many times have you released the... - 8/22/2013 11:29:37 AM

Hillwilliam

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I've never taken anyone back after releasing them.

There is one I would. the reason I released her was she got an awesome job opportunity 500 miles away and I told her to go for it. We are still best friends and talk frequently. Would I take her back? Yes but no others I can think of.

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RE: Pick a number - 8/22/2013 2:46:38 PM

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Since the subject line said "Pick a number", I'm going to go with 3. I have always been partial to the "three strikes your out" philosophy.

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