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RE: Weighty Titles and Thoughts - 8/26/2013 11:35:46 AM   
UllrsIshtar


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So..How many of you will respond to a profile where someone says outright "BBW" or "BHM (Big Hunky Man-I think)


I would, if the person using the label is actually attractive.

I see so many using the BBW label and then pose in pictures where they're wearing an oversized (even for them) dirty t-shirt or a tank top two sizes too small creating bulk that sticks out everywhere, with hair that looks like it hasn't been washed for weeks, and the distribution of their weight making it clear that A) they're not attractive regardless of their weight and wouldn't be 'beautiful' even with a BMI of 21 and B) the distribution of their weight makes it clear that they sit on the couch all day (no muscle mass whatsoever).

I don't find people like that attractive, so I don't contact them. If I do find somebody attractive, I care very little about their weight. As far as how I determine attractiveness, a lot has to do with personal pride shining through, a certain level of health and fitness, and an appearance that shows they put in the effort to maintain themselves and look nice.

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Is weight/body size a deal breaker?


Nope, but laziness and poor attention to the upkeeping of their own body is.
If those two things aren't an issue, then weight is irrelevant, and I find people of all body types attractive.

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Do you want a Dom/me who is bigger than you or a sub who is tinier?


I prefer larger, taller hairy muscular men (the gay 'bear' type is my type). I prefer shorter women with 'slutty' features (large perky breast, beach blond, curves, tan, well done hair and makeup) or 'goth' types.

I don't date people who can't run up two flights of stairs without having to stop halfway through to catch their breath.

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RE: Weighty Titles and Thoughts - 8/26/2013 11:57:51 AM   
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As a result, when I grew up, my peers were all...


No pitchforks from me as I attribute my fondness for tall guys to my childhood. I realize that everyone has their preferences and when I was looking was not offended when people pass me by because I don't match theirs.

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RE: Weighty Titles and Thoughts - 8/26/2013 12:02:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		Hiya DaddyS,

Actually I meant reference to the larger lady as 'Rubenesque'. It's just that it's been a long while since I've heard the expression.

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RE: Weighty Titles and Thoughts - 8/26/2013 12:02:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		I list my weight on my profile, because honesty is easier when looking for a dom/sub, especially if you are planning face to face time.
I'm overweight, as is my sweetie, and that's the way we started.

I like a bit of a tummy on my men, and find that sexy. Something about a bit of fluff is comforting. So much so that a crush I had several years ago was completely spoiled when he lost a bunch of weight. Completely spoiled it for me, not that he knew anything about it.... lol.

My sweetie isn't a lover of overweight women, but he also doesn't shun them - as he put it , he is in it for more than how much we weigh. There are more aspects to a woman (or a man) than how much we weigh.

Of course, one thing with a guy - the more weight they loose, the longer their penis extends. My sweetie has lost a bunch of weight, and gained at least two inches in length. VERY nice for me.

As for fitness, I spend eight hours a day in a physically fairly demanding job, so I figure I am pretty fit. And because of what I do, i'm pretty strong, so my sweetie might be able to overpower me, but he'd have to put up a fight.

I guess I see weight as being one part of who I am, and not an especially important part. I see with my sweetie that my self confidence in who I am and my sexuality as being way more important. I don't need to apologize for one part of me, I enjoy sex so much more now than I did twenty years ago and 60 pound lighter. Its a matter of self confidence and being with a man who loves me and what I am.
I would love to be 60 pound lighter, but won't put my life on hold until I reach there. Yep, there might be jokes about whales when I go swimming, but the jokers ugly nature is more damaging to them than me. And I love to swim. So off I go.

Ok, am rambling now,,,, so to sum up, be yourself , in all your glory, what ever you weigh, and plunge into your life, in spite of your insecurities. And we all have 'em.

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RE: Weighty Titles and Thoughts - 8/26/2013 12:08:55 PM   
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Hiya DaddyS,

Actually I meant reference to the larger lady as 'Rubenesque'. It's just that it's been a long while since I've heard the expression.


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RE: Weighty Titles and Thoughts - 8/26/2013 12:10:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		Hi Kiwi,

It always pays to be honest in all areas of life, also, is it true what you say about losing weight increasing the length of a mans penis?

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RE: Weighty Titles and Thoughts - 8/26/2013 12:12:15 PM   
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Hiya DaddyS,

Actually I meant reference to the larger lady as 'Rubenesque'. It's just that it's been a long while since I've heard the expression.


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Sorry DaddyS .


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RE: Weighty Titles and Thoughts - 8/26/2013 12:13:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yes it is - or rather, it isn't that the length is increasing, so much as the length that is there isn't buried in fat. One of my urologists stated that for ever twenty odd pounds lost the penis is an inch longer.
If you think about it, fat around the base of the penis is decreasing the usable length. In my job I have seen penis's that didn't even come level to the fat. Sort of sad for the men really.

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RE: Weighty Titles and Thoughts - 8/26/2013 12:15:15 PM   
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Of course, one thing with a guy - the more weight they loose, the longer their penis extends. My sweetie has lost a bunch of weight, and gained at least two inches in length. VERY nice for me.


For real? I always thought it just seemed bigger because the stomach was no longer in the way.

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RE: Weighty Titles and Thoughts - 8/26/2013 12:16:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		Thank Kiwi, I'm going on a diet right now .

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RE: Weighty Titles and Thoughts - 8/26/2013 12:37:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		lol - enjoy the extra length....

and kalikshama, yes, it is because that extra fat isn't in the way. You don't actually gain length, you get more usable length from what you already have, because the fat isn't in the way, shortening the usable length. So, it looks longer. And you have more usable length.

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RE: Weighty Titles and Thoughts - 8/26/2013 12:38:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		Here's my problem with body descriptors: They're not one-size fits all.  Everyone has their own idea of what BBW, athletic built, curvy, fit and so on mean.  To me, they're useless.  If someone wants to use one, great - doesn't bother me.  But, it doesn't tell me much.  A picture is worth more words, IMO. 

I do have size preferences, but they're not extremely rigid.  I do work out and enjoy physical activities, so as long as he can keep up and is confident with himself, I'll most likely be happy.  

I don't fault anyone for having their personal preferences.  If I were overweight or too skinny, it wouldn't bother me if some weren't interested solely based on that.  

I will say, and this holds true of both men and women, larger individuals who project self-confidence are much more sexier and attractive to me over those smaller individuals who appear self-conscious and unsure. 


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RE: Weighty Titles and Thoughts - 8/26/2013 12:41:39 PM   
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Hiya DaddyS,

Actually I meant reference to the larger lady as 'Rubenesque'. It's just that it's been a long while since I've heard the expression.


Hi garyFLR, I forgot that one, thanks. I used to call myself a Rubenesque redhead because of the alliteration, but had to stop because not one guy understand what the word meant.

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RE: Weighty Titles and Thoughts - 8/26/2013 1:35:16 PM   
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RE: Weighty Titles and Thoughts - 8/26/2013 1:49:34 PM   
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I used to call myself a Rubenesque redhead because of the alliteration, but had to stop because not one guy understand what the word meant.


I would have left it in to screen out men who not only didn't know it but were too lazy to google it.

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RE: Weighty Titles and Thoughts - 8/26/2013 2:08:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		lol - and the thing that really gets my goat is that men can drop weight just by thinking about it!

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RE: Weighty Titles and Thoughts - 8/26/2013 6:39:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		I admit size has always been a dealbreaker for me. I'm just not attracted to heavy men. I like men who are h/w proportionate, on the tall side- 6 foot, broad shoulders, around 170-190 lbs.

It's just what I am attracted to and not something I can just change. I am who I am. So being who I am, I know who I am attracted to so I don't respond to those I know I won't find fits my preferences.

I don't see it as a big deal. We all have our own tastes.

I'm positive that not all men find me attractive and I'm ok with that, even though I'M not ok with myself. I have gained a lot of weight recently due to my new desk job and meds and I'm not happy about it at all. Does it cause me problems with my confidence? At times, yes and while i know Master still loves me, I know he would rather I lose the weight as well. Not just because he likes thin women like I used to be when he first met me but also because he sees the self esteem problems it causes me.

And for me that's what's important...how he and I feel about it. What anyone else thinks really doesn't matter to me.



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RE: Weighty Titles and Thoughts - 8/26/2013 6:59:17 PM   
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I have no opinion of the term BBW, really. I neither like it nor dislike it. It's a descriptor that some folks like to use, and that's that.

When I was over 250 pounds, I didn't use the term. I just didn't care about it either way.

When I met the Mister online, I was on my way toward losing my weight, but still over 200. As we were talking more and more, I told him "I am not a small woman" and he said "Um, ok." (or something like that). I made no apologies for my body, and chose to actively change my body because I felt it was time for me to.

I've gone up and down the scale a few times in my life. I didn't feel like I needed a particular descriptor about my size, other than to be honest with the man and tell him outright what my weight was. I figured some men wouldn't be attracted to that, so better to know now than later. I didn't avoid the term based on what men might think. I just never felt an inclination to use it. If others wanted to, I had no real opinion about it either way.

Color me neutral on that one.

As for larger men? I've gone out with small men and I've gone out with very large men. For me it's all in how someone carries and presents himself, what his character is, and his sense of humor. The Mister was about 20 pounds heavier when we met and could probably lose about 10 more. I don't really care either way. He's hot to me, whatever his size, as I am to him.

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RE: Weighty Titles and Thoughts - 8/26/2013 7:33:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yes you have to love your self I use to be 200 pounds my self the protein diet can help I am a master/Teacher in energy healing meditate daily can get you in the energy back. I have lost a lot of weight but it goes for men to we all have different taste and it has to fit in your page. Love your self be confident. I use a aura to keep negtive people energy off me they love to take others energy that's not good that why some of us bloat we get stressed putting a pink aura around you daily can really help image it around you. drinking diet shakes you can get from a Health store can really help shed down a lot. But with some exercise can also help. learn to believe in something use your intuition it will get you fare in life.Always think positive the way you talk the way every thing around you effects that and even your health. Science and physics has a lot to do with it energy healing has helped a lot of people.

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