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myotherself -> RE: Emotional domination (8/28/2013 1:08:14 AM)
What is really happening is the OP takes out some poor woman on a date. It is such a godawful time for her that she gives him a polite excuse and breathes a deep sigh of relief that she doesn't have to see him ever again, although she will mourn the loss of those few hours that she wasted in his company. Then the next day he'll call her, or text her. She'll fob him off again, and again, and again, until she decides that ignoring him is the only way he'll get the hint and fuck off. He'll get mad. Bitchy, bitter mad. He'll construct a fantasy in his head that HE is the one who is giving her the cold shoulder. He'll see every begging, pleading text to her as him 'emotionally dominating' her. She'll just see it as desperate and pathetic, of course, but what does her opinion matter? She's not real. Well, she is, but the one he's created in his mind is far more exciting than the breathing, real human being. His repeated rejection will force him to create an even more elaborate fantasy, in which she begs for his time and his presence while he laughs scornfully at her. Eventually his fantasy woman will be so distraught that he gains some sad, lonely comfort from her emotional collapse. And then he'll come to a site like cm, try to find another woman desperate enough to date him, and his rich fantasy life will start all over again. Yeah dude, you're a winner snerk

OsideGirl -> RE: Emotional domination (8/28/2013 8:50:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PinkCarnation quote: ORIGINAL: searching4mysir Where is the consent for this? Without it, you aren't a dominant, just an abusive asshole. Well she would consent by agreeing to play with me. The emotional domination, I like to catch her off guard with that. Unless you disclose that you're going to emotionally abuse her and she consents, it will still be just abuse and not D/s. I'm with the above poster. You should talk to a therapist.

littlewonder -> RE: Emotional domination (8/28/2013 6:33:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: JeffBC Really though I've always been in favor of Kana hold the vanilla title on these boards (the inside joke there sheela is that he's a pretty freakin extreme sadist and so we want him with a vanilla cone to scare the new people) Wait....we already scare off the newbies because we're all so mean. [;)] I guess Master could scare off the rest who don't run off whining to mommy.

Sheela22 -> RE: Emotional domination (8/28/2013 6:40:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder quote: ORIGINAL: JeffBC Really though I've always been in favor of Kana hold the vanilla title on these boards (the inside joke there sheela is that he's a pretty freakin extreme sadist and so we want him with a vanilla cone to scare the new people) Wait....we already scare off the newbies because we're all so mean. [;)] I guess Master could scare off the rest who don't run off whining to mommy. Wait, Kana is your Master??!!??

littlewonder -> RE: Emotional domination (8/28/2013 6:53:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sheela22 quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder quote: ORIGINAL: JeffBC Really though I've always been in favor of Kana hold the vanilla title on these boards (the inside joke there sheela is that he's a pretty freakin extreme sadist and so we want him with a vanilla cone to scare the new people) Wait....we already scare off the newbies because we're all so mean. [;)] I guess Master could scare off the rest who don't run off whining to mommy. Wait, Kana is your Master??!!?? eeerr...uuumm....should I admit such a thing??? Damn....sigh....guilty as charged. [&o] [8D]

kiwisub12 -> RE: Emotional domination (8/29/2013 2:35:13 PM)
I think we should all thank the OP for posting this. After all, the true colours pretty much are shown up front.[:D]

Kana -> RE: Emotional domination (8/29/2013 4:42:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sheela22 quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder quote: ORIGINAL: JeffBC Really though I've always been in favor of Kana hold the vanilla title on these boards (the inside joke there sheela is that he's a pretty freakin extreme sadist and so we want him with a vanilla cone to scare the new people) Wait....we already scare off the newbies because we're all so mean. [;)] I guess Master could scare off the rest who don't run off whining to mommy. Wait, Kana is your Master??!!?? You just made my day. TY. You sound so shocked. ETA-Where did you think her "deranged pincushion" heading came from?

JeffBC -> RE: Emotional domination (8/29/2013 5:44:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kana ETA-Where did you think her "deranged pincushion" heading came from? In the end there can be only one. -- Highlander (& Kana)

Sheela22 -> RE: Emotional domination (8/30/2013 12:25:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kana quote: ORIGINAL: Sheela22 quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder quote: ORIGINAL: JeffBC Really though I've always been in favor of Kana hold the vanilla title on these boards (the inside joke there sheela is that he's a pretty freakin extreme sadist and so we want him with a vanilla cone to scare the new people) Wait....we already scare off the newbies because we're all so mean. [;)] I guess Master could scare off the rest who don't run off whining to mommy. Wait, Kana is your Master??!!?? You just made my day. TY. You sound so shocked. ETA-Where did you think her "deranged pincushion" heading came from? Please don't take this the wrong way, but the way you described yourself on your profile , you seem REALLY scary and evil, but the way she describes you , you are really awesome and you are making her happy.. I didnt realize they are the same person:P Sorry for judging you..my bad

JeffBC -> RE: Emotional domination (8/30/2013 1:13:34 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sheela22 Please don't take this the wrong way, but the way you described yourself on your profile , you seem REALLY scary and evil, but the way she describes you , you are really awesome and you are making her happy.. I didnt realize they are the same person:P Sorry for judging you..my bad He IS scary... really and truly. What he is not is evil. The truth of that is written all over every post LW makes. On the strength of her posts alone I'd entrust Carol in his care with instructions to "obey" (such an instruction is open-ended and I risk our entire dynamic by doing so) without any hesitation. His posts, when you read past the badass sadist part and a dark sense of humor also tell the tale. OK, I'll get off the stoke Kana's already too robust ego soap box. Sheez, LW's probably going to need to spend the next 3 days whittling his ego back down to some reasonable proportions. That's certainly one of Carol's main duties with me :)

Kana -> RE: Emotional domination (8/30/2013 2:02:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sheela22 quote: ORIGINAL: Kana quote: ORIGINAL: Sheela22 quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder quote: ORIGINAL: JeffBC Really though I've always been in favor of Kana hold the vanilla title on these boards (the inside joke there sheela is that he's a pretty freakin extreme sadist and so we want him with a vanilla cone to scare the new people) Wait....we already scare off the newbies because we're all so mean. [;)] I guess Master could scare off the rest who don't run off whining to mommy. Wait, Kana is your Master??!!?? You just made my day. TY. You sound so shocked. ETA-Where did you think her "deranged pincushion" heading came from? Please don't take this the wrong way, but the way you described yourself on your profile , you seem REALLY scary and evil, but the way she describes you , you are really awesome and you are making her happy.. I didnt realize they are the same person:P Sorry for judging you..my bad Nah.No need to apologize.I assume everything written is judged. Frankly, I'm a bit flattered you actually looked at my profile.Most people judge me as evil simply from my posts [8D]

littlewonder -> RE: Emotional domination (8/30/2013 2:36:09 PM)
quote: You just made my day. TY. You sound so shocked. ETA-Where did you think her "deranged pincushion" heading came from? ha ha. I completely forgot about that!

carlsteel -> RE: Emotional domination (9/8/2013 12:27:19 PM)
Umm, two things occur to me and keep in mind I'm typing this rather than working so... First of all, isn't that pretty much what most women, vanilla or otherwise, feel most of us guys do anyway? Secondly, someone called him an abusive asshole. As a mature, responsible abusive asshole who always properly discloses my abusive assholishness, I'm highly offended and outraged, ok, no, not really, but can't we just call him a loser and get some lunch? Well I'm getting lunch... Carl The Gentleman (and hungry for pasta) Sadist

littleone35 -> RE: Emotional domination (9/8/2013 2:52:36 PM)
y=You need professional help. I do nor know many of any subs would put up with that. I am with my Master becausw he cherishes me. Sometimes he will do a headfuck, but if i am in oain he holds me and if possible take away that which is making me cry. You on the other hand and i repeat myself need helo. Matt's littleone (i replyied with out reading other responses sorrt if i repeated something)

kalikshama -> RE: Emotional domination (9/9/2013 6:29:43 PM)
quote: Please don't take this the wrong way, but the way you described yourself on your profile , you seem REALLY scary and evil, but the way she describes you , you are really awesome and you are making her happy.. I didnt realize they are the same person:P Sorry for judging you..my bad Don't feel bad, I had the same reaction a few years ago (for somewhat different reasons) when I figured this out myself. [:D]

di25 -> RE: Emotional domination (9/11/2013 5:31:35 PM)
Headfuck? Are you serious? Tell the truth or be done with it. Otherwise, you're considered a lying bastard. Don't we have enough of those? You're a joke. Get over yourself

NiceAnimal -> RE: Emotional domination (9/12/2013 6:49:54 AM)
I call troll. There's no call to feedback, no desire expressed for conversation or discussion, and the topic is lamely abusive. It's not a unique or interesting endevour loads of people of both genders do this, its called having a very fragile ego that needs constant fluffing. A bit like trolling, only worse. My only advice to the OP, is grow some balls, and stop weakly depending on stuff outside yourself for constant validation of yourself. Self-esteem comes from within. Weakness comes from without.

JuicyJaci -> RE: Emotional domination (9/25/2013 10:57:00 PM)
When I think of emotional domination, I think of consent, love, and mutual affection given and received from both partners. I guess I may be wrong though.. :/

orgasmdenial12 -> RE: Emotional domination (9/28/2013 5:08:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: myotherself What is really happening is the OP takes out some poor woman on a date. It is such a godawful time for her that she gives him a polite excuse and breathes a deep sigh of relief that she doesn't have to see him ever again, although she will mourn the loss of those few hours that she wasted in his company. Then the next day he'll call her, or text her. She'll fob him off again, and again, and again, until she decides that ignoring him is the only way he'll get the hint and fuck off. He'll get mad. Bitchy, bitter mad. He'll construct a fantasy in his head that HE is the one who is giving her the cold shoulder. He'll see every begging, pleading text to her as him 'emotionally dominating' her. She'll just see it as desperate and pathetic, of course, but what does her opinion matter? She's not real. Well, she is, but the one he's created in his mind is far more exciting than the breathing, real human being. His repeated rejection will force him to create an even more elaborate fantasy, in which she begs for his time and his presence while he laughs scornfully at her. Eventually his fantasy woman will be so distraught that he gains some sad, lonely comfort from her emotional collapse. And then he'll come to a site like cm, try to find another woman desperate enough to date him, and his rich fantasy life will start all over again. Yeah dude, you're a winner snerk Ha ha ha! Love it. I think you're dead right.

sunshinemiss -> RE: Emotional domination (9/29/2013 2:32:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: JuicyJaci When I think of emotional domination, I think of consent, love, and mutual affection given and received from both partners. I guess I may be wrong though.. :/ Interesting. I always love reading Jeff's stuff about changing Carol's mindset. THAT is emotional domination. The OP? That's just axis 2.

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