Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

RE: Emotional domination


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive >> RE: Emotional domination Page: <<   < prev  1 2 [3] 4   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
RE: Emotional domination - 8/28/2013 1:08:14 AM   
myotherself


Posts: 7157
Joined: 3/9/2006
From: The cold bit of the UK
Status: offline 		What is really happening is the OP takes out some poor woman on a date. It is such a godawful time for her that she gives him a polite excuse and breathes a deep sigh of relief that she doesn't have to see him ever again, although she will mourn the loss of those few hours that she wasted in his company.

Then the next day he'll call her, or text her. She'll fob him off again, and again, and again, until she decides that ignoring him is the only way he'll get the hint and fuck off.

He'll get mad. Bitchy, bitter mad. He'll construct a fantasy in his head that HE is the one who is giving her the cold shoulder. He'll see every begging, pleading text to her as him 'emotionally dominating' her. She'll just see it as desperate and pathetic, of course, but what does her opinion matter? She's not real. Well, she is, but the one he's created in his mind is far more exciting than the breathing, real human being.

His repeated rejection will force him to create an even more elaborate fantasy, in which she begs for his time and his presence while he laughs scornfully at her. Eventually his fantasy woman will be so distraught that he gains some sad, lonely comfort from her emotional collapse.

And then he'll come to a site like cm, try to find another woman desperate enough to date him, and his rich fantasy life will start all over again.

Yeah dude, you're a winner *snerk*

_____________________________

There's nowt so queer as folk


(in reply to PinkCarnation)
Profile   Post #: 41
RE: Emotional domination - 8/28/2013 8:50:03 AM   
OsideGirl


Posts: 14441
Joined: 7/1/2005
From: United States
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: PinkCarnation


quote:

ORIGINAL: searching4mysir

Where is the consent for this? Without it, you aren't a dominant, just an abusive asshole.

Well she would consent by agreeing to play with me. The emotional domination, I like to catch her off guard with that.


Unless you disclose that you're going to emotionally abuse her and she consents, it will still be just abuse and not D/s.

I'm with the above poster. You should talk to a therapist.


_____________________________

Give a girl the right shoes and she will conquer the world. ~ Marilyn Monroe

The Accelerated Velocity of Terminological Inexactitude

(in reply to PinkCarnation)
Profile   Post #: 42
RE: Emotional domination - 8/28/2013 6:33:25 PM   
littlewonder


Posts: 15659
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: JeffBC

Really though I've always been in favor of Kana hold the vanilla title on these boards (the inside joke there sheela is that he's a pretty freakin extreme sadist and so we want him with a vanilla cone to scare the new people)


Wait....we already scare off the newbies because we're all so mean.

I guess Master could scare off the rest who don't run off whining to mommy.


_____________________________

Nothing has changed
Everything has changed

(in reply to JeffBC)
Profile   Post #: 43
RE: Emotional domination - 8/28/2013 6:40:48 PM   
Sheela22


Posts: 199
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: littlewonder


quote:

ORIGINAL: JeffBC

Really though I've always been in favor of Kana hold the vanilla title on these boards (the inside joke there sheela is that he's a pretty freakin extreme sadist and so we want him with a vanilla cone to scare the new people)


Wait....we already scare off the newbies because we're all so mean.

I guess Master could scare off the rest who don't run off whining to mommy.


Wait, Kana is your Master??!!??

_____________________________

I type from my IPad.. please excuse my typos

(in reply to littlewonder)
Profile   Post #: 44
RE: Emotional domination - 8/28/2013 6:53:39 PM   
littlewonder


Posts: 15659
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Sheela22


quote:

ORIGINAL: littlewonder


quote:

ORIGINAL: JeffBC

Really though I've always been in favor of Kana hold the vanilla title on these boards (the inside joke there sheela is that he's a pretty freakin extreme sadist and so we want him with a vanilla cone to scare the new people)


Wait....we already scare off the newbies because we're all so mean.

I guess Master could scare off the rest who don't run off whining to mommy.


Wait, Kana is your Master??!!??



eeerr...uuumm....should I admit such a thing???

Damn....sigh....guilty as charged.



_____________________________

Nothing has changed
Everything has changed

(in reply to Sheela22)
Profile   Post #: 45
RE: Emotional domination - 8/29/2013 2:35:13 PM   
kiwisub12


Posts: 4742
Joined: 1/11/2006
Status: offline 		I think we should all thank the OP for posting this.

After all, the true colours pretty much are shown up front.

(in reply to littlewonder)
Profile   Post #: 46
RE: Emotional domination - 8/29/2013 4:42:41 PM   
Kana


Posts: 6676
Joined: 10/24/2006
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Sheela22


quote:

ORIGINAL: littlewonder


quote:

ORIGINAL: JeffBC

Really though I've always been in favor of Kana hold the vanilla title on these boards (the inside joke there sheela is that he's a pretty freakin extreme sadist and so we want him with a vanilla cone to scare the new people)


Wait....we already scare off the newbies because we're all so mean.

I guess Master could scare off the rest who don't run off whining to mommy.


Wait, Kana is your Master??!!??

You just made my day. TY. You sound so shocked.

ETA-Where did you think her "deranged pincushion" heading came from?


< Message edited by Kana -- 8/29/2013 4:43:15 PM >

_____________________________

"One of God's own prototypes. A high-powered mutant of some kind never even considered for mass production. Too weird to live, and too rare to die. "
HST

(in reply to Sheela22)
Profile   Post #: 47
RE: Emotional domination - 8/29/2013 5:44:13 PM   
JeffBC


Posts: 5799
Joined: 2/12/2012
From: Canada
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Kana
ETA-Where did you think her "deranged pincushion" heading came from?

In the end there can be only one.
-- Highlander (& Kana)

_____________________________

I'm a lover of "what is", not because I'm a spiritual person, but because it hurts when I argue with reality. -- Bryon Katie
"You're humbly arrogant" -- sunshinemiss
officially a member of the K Crowd

(in reply to Kana)
Profile   Post #: 48
RE: Emotional domination - 8/30/2013 12:25:12 AM   
Sheela22


Posts: 199
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Kana

quote:

ORIGINAL: Sheela22


quote:

ORIGINAL: littlewonder


quote:

ORIGINAL: JeffBC

Really though I've always been in favor of Kana hold the vanilla title on these boards (the inside joke there sheela is that he's a pretty freakin extreme sadist and so we want him with a vanilla cone to scare the new people)


Wait....we already scare off the newbies because we're all so mean.

I guess Master could scare off the rest who don't run off whining to mommy.


Wait, Kana is your Master??!!??

You just made my day. TY. You sound so shocked.

ETA-Where did you think her "deranged pincushion" heading came from?



Please don't take this the wrong way, but the way you described yourself on your profile , you seem REALLY scary and evil, but the way she describes you , you are really awesome and you are making her happy.. I didnt realize they are the same person:P Sorry for judging you..my bad

_____________________________

I type from my IPad.. please excuse my typos

(in reply to Kana)
Profile   Post #: 49
RE: Emotional domination - 8/30/2013 1:13:34 AM   
JeffBC


Posts: 5799
Joined: 2/12/2012
From: Canada
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Sheela22
Please don't take this the wrong way, but the way you described yourself on your profile , you seem REALLY scary and evil, but the way she describes you , you are really awesome and you are making her happy.. I didnt realize they are the same person:P Sorry for judging you..my bad

He IS scary... really and truly. What he is not is evil. The truth of that is written all over every post LW makes. On the strength of her posts alone I'd entrust Carol in his care with instructions to "obey" (such an instruction is open-ended and I risk our entire dynamic by doing so) without any hesitation. His posts, when you read past the badass sadist part and a dark sense of humor also tell the tale.

OK, I'll get off the stoke Kana's already too robust ego soap box. Sheez, LW's probably going to need to spend the next 3 days whittling his ego back down to some reasonable proportions. That's certainly one of Carol's main duties with me :)


_____________________________

I'm a lover of "what is", not because I'm a spiritual person, but because it hurts when I argue with reality. -- Bryon Katie
"You're humbly arrogant" -- sunshinemiss
officially a member of the K Crowd

(in reply to Sheela22)
Profile   Post #: 50
RE: Emotional domination - 8/30/2013 2:02:49 PM   
Kana


Posts: 6676
Joined: 10/24/2006
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Sheela22


quote:

ORIGINAL: Kana

quote:

ORIGINAL: Sheela22


quote:

ORIGINAL: littlewonder


quote:

ORIGINAL: JeffBC

Really though I've always been in favor of Kana hold the vanilla title on these boards (the inside joke there sheela is that he's a pretty freakin extreme sadist and so we want him with a vanilla cone to scare the new people)


Wait....we already scare off the newbies because we're all so mean.

I guess Master could scare off the rest who don't run off whining to mommy.


Wait, Kana is your Master??!!??

You just made my day. TY. You sound so shocked.

ETA-Where did you think her "deranged pincushion" heading came from?



Please don't take this the wrong way, but the way you described yourself on your profile , you seem REALLY scary and evil, but the way she describes you , you are really awesome and you are making her happy.. I didnt realize they are the same person:P Sorry for judging you..my bad

Nah.No need to apologize.I assume everything written is judged. Frankly, I'm a bit flattered you actually looked at my profile.Most people judge me as evil simply from my posts

_____________________________

"One of God's own prototypes. A high-powered mutant of some kind never even considered for mass production. Too weird to live, and too rare to die. "
HST

(in reply to Sheela22)
Profile   Post #: 51
RE: Emotional domination - 8/30/2013 2:36:09 PM   
littlewonder


Posts: 15659
Status: offline
quote:


You just made my day. TY. You sound so shocked.

ETA-Where did you think her "deranged pincushion" heading came from?



ha ha. I completely forgot about that!

_____________________________

Nothing has changed
Everything has changed

(in reply to Kana)
Profile   Post #: 52
RE: Emotional domination - 9/8/2013 12:27:19 PM   
carlsteel


Posts: 8
Joined: 5/13/2005
From: North West Arizona
Status: offline 		Umm, two things occur to me and keep in mind I'm typing this rather than working so...

First of all, isn't that pretty much what most women, vanilla or otherwise, feel most of us guys do anyway?

Secondly, someone called him an abusive asshole. As a mature, responsible abusive asshole who always properly discloses my abusive assholishness, I'm highly offended and outraged, ok, no, not really, but can't we just call him a loser and get some lunch?

Well I'm getting lunch...

Carl The Gentleman (and hungry for pasta) Sadist

(in reply to littlewonder)
Profile   Post #: 53
RE: Emotional domination - 9/8/2013 2:52:36 PM   
littleone35


Posts: 2828
Joined: 2/17/2005
Status: offline 		y=You need professional help. I do nor know many of any subs would put up with that. I am with my Master becausw he cherishes me. Sometimes he will do a headfuck, but if i am in oain he holds me and if possible take away that which is making me cry. You on the other hand and i repeat myself need helo.

Matt's littleone

(i replyied with out reading other responses sorrt if i repeated something)

(in reply to carlsteel)
Profile   Post #: 54
RE: Emotional domination - 9/9/2013 6:29:43 PM   
kalikshama


Posts: 14805
Joined: 8/8/2010
Status: offline
quote:

Please don't take this the wrong way, but the way you described yourself on your profile , you seem REALLY scary and evil, but the way she describes you , you are really awesome and you are making her happy.. I didnt realize they are the same person:P Sorry for judging you..my bad


Don't feel bad, I had the same reaction a few years ago (for somewhat different reasons) when I figured this out myself.

(in reply to Sheela22)
Profile   Post #: 55
RE: Emotional domination - 9/11/2013 5:31:35 PM   
di25


Posts: 12
Joined: 8/4/2008
Status: offline 		Headfuck? Are you serious? Tell the truth or be done with it. Otherwise, you're considered a lying bastard. Don't we have enough of those? You're a joke. Get over yourself

(in reply to PinkCarnation)
Profile   Post #: 56
RE: Emotional domination - 9/12/2013 6:49:54 AM   
NiceAnimal


Posts: 35
Joined: 9/6/2013
Status: offline 		I call troll.

There's no call to feedback, no desire expressed for conversation or discussion, and the topic is lamely abusive.

It's not a unique or interesting endevour loads of people of both genders do this, its called having a very fragile ego that needs constant fluffing. A bit like trolling, only worse.

My only advice to the OP, is grow some balls, and stop weakly depending on stuff outside yourself for constant validation of yourself. Self-esteem comes from within. Weakness comes from without.

(in reply to LadyPact)
Profile   Post #: 57
RE: Emotional domination - 9/25/2013 10:57:00 PM   
JuicyJaci


Posts: 1
Joined: 9/25/2013
Status: offline 		When I think of emotional domination, I think of consent, love, and mutual affection given and received from both partners. I guess I may be wrong though.. :/

(in reply to LadyPact)
Profile   Post #: 58
RE: Emotional domination - 9/28/2013 5:08:23 AM   
orgasmdenial12


Posts: 613
Joined: 9/18/2012
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: myotherself

What is really happening is the OP takes out some poor woman on a date. It is such a godawful time for her that she gives him a polite excuse and breathes a deep sigh of relief that she doesn't have to see him ever again, although she will mourn the loss of those few hours that she wasted in his company.

Then the next day he'll call her, or text her. She'll fob him off again, and again, and again, until she decides that ignoring him is the only way he'll get the hint and fuck off.

He'll get mad. Bitchy, bitter mad. He'll construct a fantasy in his head that HE is the one who is giving her the cold shoulder. He'll see every begging, pleading text to her as him 'emotionally dominating' her. She'll just see it as desperate and pathetic, of course, but what does her opinion matter? She's not real. Well, she is, but the one he's created in his mind is far more exciting than the breathing, real human being.

His repeated rejection will force him to create an even more elaborate fantasy, in which she begs for his time and his presence while he laughs scornfully at her. Eventually his fantasy woman will be so distraught that he gains some sad, lonely comfort from her emotional collapse.

And then he'll come to a site like cm, try to find another woman desperate enough to date him, and his rich fantasy life will start all over again.

Yeah dude, you're a winner *snerk*


Ha ha ha! Love it. I think you're dead right.

(in reply to myotherself)
Profile   Post #: 59
RE: Emotional domination - 9/29/2013 2:32:02 AM   
sunshinemiss


Posts: 17673
Joined: 11/26/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: JuicyJaci

When I think of emotional domination, I think of consent, love, and mutual affection given and received from both partners. I guess I may be wrong though.. :/



Interesting. I always love reading Jeff's stuff about changing Carol's mindset. THAT is emotional domination. The OP? That's just axis 2.

_____________________________

Yes, I am a wonton hussy... and still sweet as 3.14

(in reply to JuicyJaci)
Profile   Post #: 60
Page:   <<   < prev  1 2 [3] 4   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive >> RE: Emotional domination Page: <<   < prev  1 2 [3] 4   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.094