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RE: Advice for New Submissives - 9/3/2013 12:47:05 PM

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I was going to go read his profile journal but then realized that I had more sense than that. If someone has something to discuss then it should be here on the forums... and not require some silly advertisement of a post in a journal that you are welcome to read.

Yeah... no.

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RE: Advice for New Submissives - 9/3/2013 1:09:58 PM

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I don't think you're his target audience anyway

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RE: Advice for New Submissives - 9/3/2013 1:27:07 PM

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ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2

I don't think you're his target audience anyway

Ya think?

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RE: Advice for New Submissives - 9/3/2013 1:43:20 PM

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ORIGINAL: Kana

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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

littlewonder, you gotta give him some leeway here, at least for being concerned. It was on another thread that you & Kana were both talking about the dangers of sex with strangers or people you don't know very well. Now here, you're saying, meh, no big deal, and people are too paranoid.

We grew up.Stopped doing mind altering substances. Pulled our heads outta our asses (That great popping sound you heard a few years back) and realized the risks involved in some of our prior behaviors.
I'll note that we each did this long before we met.

I should mention too that the specific dangers we were discussing were gangbangs. Which hey, personally i find the idea kinda hot.But the reality of having multiple strangers sharing fluids with mouse-yeah, that ain't a risk I'd care to take.At least,not for the payoff.

Oh I totally understand and agree with the dangers of sharing fluids. As I recall, though, in that thread she was talking about the dangers even if wearing condoms, whereas here she was saying people overestimate the dangers and she might find herself one-night-standing again in the future, in rare circumstances. Maybe I'm just remembering the previous conversation incorrectly, and if I am I apologize. I'm logged in from my phone so I can't easily check myself.

I'm not a fan of OPs like this, but it seemed there were mixed messages being relayed and I figured we could give a guy a break lol.

ETA: ok I checked because I don't like misquoting folks. And yep, we were talking about condoms in the last thread; you guys felt they don't stop all std's and therefore wouldn't be safe. And everyone has their own degree of what's safe for them (which goes to what folks are saying to the OP). I wasn't trying to made a big deal over what lw was saying, but it was kinda the opposite of what you guys shared before, so I wondered about it. Carry on...lol

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RE: Advice for New Submissives - 9/3/2013 1:50:14 PM

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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

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ORIGINAL: Kana

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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

littlewonder, you gotta give him some leeway here, at least for being concerned. It was on another thread that you & Kana were both talking about the dangers of sex with strangers or people you don't know very well. Now here, you're saying, meh, no big deal, and people are too paranoid.

We grew up.Stopped doing mind altering substances. Pulled our heads outta our asses (That great popping sound you heard a few years back) and realized the risks involved in some of our prior behaviors.
I'll note that we each did this long before we met.

I should mention too that the specific dangers we were discussing were gangbangs. Which hey, personally i find the idea kinda hot.But the reality of having multiple strangers sharing fluids with mouse-yeah, that ain't a risk I'd care to take.At least,not for the payoff.

Oh I totally understand and agree with the dangers of sharing fluids. As I recall, though, in that thread she was talking about the dangers even if wearing condoms, whereas here she was saying people overestimate the dangers and she might find herself one-night-standing again in the future, in rare circumstances. Maybe I'm just remembering the previous conversation incorrectly, and if I am I apologize. I'm logged in from my phone so I can't easily check myself.

I'm not a fan of OPs like this, but it seemed there were mixed messages being relayed and I figured we could give a guy a break lol.

This is only a guess, cuz we haven't discussed it or anything, but I suspect there are two reasons for the contradiction:
1-I bet she's seeing gangbangs as intercourse with strangers.That's a tad bit different than someone you've talked with for a bit and know. There's a different sort of intimacy.
But mostly its
2-That none of us (I sure hope) do the same things we did when we were young and stupid. For goodness sakes, I used to smoke crack, drive and have sex at the same time. That's a ridiculously awful idea. something I'd never do now. Then? Fuck, I bragged about that shit.
We live and learn. get smarter. Realize we are not the exception. Take less risks.Look before we leap.
Bet you do too :-)

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RE: Advice for New Submissives - 9/3/2013 1:58:33 PM

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Most of my in-scene encounters happened on the first night. It's all in how you present yourself on the first meeting. So far as I know, every one (except for one who OD'ed a few years back) is doing just fine and dandy. Most women, especially ones who identify as submissive, are pretty good at filtering out serial-killer material, in my opinion. Not perfect, but very few women I've met who've practiced this are dumb.

Trust is good, and sometimes it does take a while to create, but other times it's an assumed risk on their part when they get into a stranger's car (or back of a motorcycle in my case). And truth be told, a lot of my partners were thrill-seekers. A big part of their 'buzz' was the risk and danger in what they were doing. You can't discount that. And consider the flip side: that big bad domly type just took a total stranger into his lair-there's an element of risk to him as well. Anything from catching a nasty cold to the big A to getting ripped off when he falls asleep after the main event is possible.

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RE: Advice for New Submissives - 9/3/2013 2:02:32 PM

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Oh I absolutely look before I leap now. But I wasn't the one saying people are way too paranoid and overestimating dangers. ;)

But I don't want to nit pick/harp over it too much here, and I think we already have!

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