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The importance of modesty - 6/30/2006 1:13:49 PM   
CrappyDom


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In the old days prior to the internet modesty was considered a virtue but now with all the fakes and poseurs, everyone claims to be modest.  I mean in my case, I am actually modest, probably one of the most modest on CM.  When you look at my vast experience, my nearly overwhelming intelligence, and deep understandings of both western and eastern S&M practices, most would find it impossible to be truly modest.  Sure they would fake it, they would say something on their profile about being modest but it would be fake.  So few today have ever seen real modesty, that that sort of fake modesty goes almost unnoticed. 

To make it worse, since they don't have the vast experience and depth of knowledge I have to work at being modest about, they don't even have to work as hard as I do and yet they still want to be complimented on their modesty.  Sometimes it makes we want to just post about how great I am and just say to heck with being modest.

Shameful, isn't it?
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RE: The importance of modesty - 6/30/2006 1:17:20 PM   
LaTigresse


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completely utterly delightfully shameful!

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RE: The importance of modesty - 6/30/2006 1:21:21 PM   
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Modesty forbids my revealing a curriculum vitae as well as my many celestial attributes.  I would fair tip the entire internet over on its side, from the rush of drooling and willing women............

That's why I keep it pretty low key, myself.

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RE: The importance of modesty - 6/30/2006 1:27:47 PM   
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I personally find nothing wrong with being modest. Though once in a while, i find myself attracted to a person who blows his own horn, so to speak.

No body likes a person who brags about themselves excessively. But no body likes a person who doesn't 'list' their accomplishments, no matter how few, or how many they are.

And i agree with LaTigresse. Delightfully shameful.

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RE: The importance of modesty - 6/30/2006 1:55:27 PM   
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I have always been immodestly immodest. It must be the exhibitionist in me, for example I am running around half naked right now and not the least bit ashamed. Another fault of mine, I have no shame either (WEG)

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RE: The importance of modesty - 6/30/2006 1:58:29 PM   
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I hate false modesty, I would rather someone just come out and say "hey I think I'm fantastic" no matter if it had any base in reality, as least they would be sharing what they really feel about themselves. So go ahead, be shameful

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RE: The importance of modesty - 6/30/2006 2:16:24 PM   
Noah


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CrappyDom

In the old days prior to the internet modesty was considered a virtue but now with all the fakes and poseurs, everyone claims to be modest.  I mean in my case, I am actually modest, probably one of the most modest on CM.  When you look at my vast experience, my nearly overwhelming intelligence, and deep understandings of both western and eastern S&M practices, most would find it impossible to be truly modest.  Sure they would fake it, they would say something on their profile about being modest but it would be fake.  So few today have ever seen real modesty, that that sort of fake modesty goes almost unnoticed. 

To make it worse, since they don't have the vast experience and depth of knowledge I have to work at being modest about, they don't even have to work as hard as I do and yet they still want to be complimented on their modesty.  Sometimes it makes we want to just post about how great I am and just say to heck with being modest.

Shameful, isn't it?



Shameful? No.


Some of us just have more to be modest about than others.


But ... no deep understandings of Northern and Southern S&M practices?



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RE: The importance of modesty - 6/30/2006 2:34:46 PM   
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I would rather my accomplishments be seen by other, then only heard about by me.

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RE: The importance of modesty - 6/30/2006 3:22:34 PM   
Caretakr


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My modesty forbids me from using the title : MASTERDOMSIRLORDOFTHEUNIVERSE.

But someone snagged it before I could, dammit!

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RE: The importance of modesty - 6/30/2006 3:29:02 PM   
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Well I see no reason for people to brag, but I don't see a reason for them to hide their finer attributes, either. If they are truly wonderful (and everyone is in some regard I am sure) someone ,eventually, will notice. - Susan

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RE: The importance of modesty - 6/30/2006 3:56:59 PM   
cillydom


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I'm just too modest to reply

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RE: The importance of modesty - 6/30/2006 4:07:52 PM   
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I could buy and sell the lot of you, but I won't.  I believe in quality of my caliber, so you're all a waste of my time!  I mean, seriously!  PFFFT!

Yours,


benji

PS:  To answer the OP, I feel modesty is probably my best quality.

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RE: The importance of modesty - 6/30/2006 4:08:42 PM   
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From what is, essentially, a silly post, CrappyDom raises an interesting point.  I myself have almost a pathological inability to boast; I can't even accept praise gracefully without trying to immediately reduce it to nothing by adding a storm of qualifiers and disclaimers.  Needless to say, this behaviour does not work particularly well in a role where I should project confidence and certainty. 

I think that generates one of the major points of appeal of the D/s relationship (I find the term 'asymmetric' relationship to be the best description.)  Since there is no equality of status to maintain, and no expectation of rigid quid pro quo.  I can just accept flattery from a sub without the need to negate it, or return a counter-compliment.

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RE: The importance of modesty - 6/30/2006 4:10:43 PM   
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Such self-effacing posts border on sublime modesty......

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RE: The importance of modesty - 6/30/2006 4:17:40 PM   
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Crappy your humble beyond words! Whether it is whipping a sub with a modest whip or smacking them with a modest doink or just taking them on your modest yacht, you are the epitome of modesty. However I feel compelled to remind you that it is not the meek that inherit the earth, they inherit the dirt. So I am going to will you all the modestly dirty sluts of CM.

Truly,
The supreme machismo commander chief of all things great and smallThe Modest Dude.

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RE: The importance of modesty - 6/30/2006 4:20:18 PM   
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At the very least they would border on the nauseating if you weren't all wonderfully tongue in cheek.
 
(and no, I don't mean THOSE cheeks, so get your collective minds out of the gutter and let a woman swim by, please?)

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RE: The importance of modesty - 6/30/2006 4:29:15 PM   
cynthiamarie


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quote:

From what is, essentially, a silly post, CrappyDom raises an interesting point.  I myself have almost a pathological inability to boast; I can't even accept praise gracefully without trying to immediately reduce it to nothing by adding a storm of qualifiers and disclaimers.


I used to have that problem when I first came here...and then my Mentor took me in hand.  Ah, behavior modification...rubberband snapped on the outside of the wrist every blessed time I put myself down, or insulted someone who had complimented me by negating what they said.

So okay, I'm modest and arrogant all at the same time. 
*I know nothing, but I know what feels right for me.*


Forgot to thank CrappyDom for the delightful post *grins*.

< Message edited by cynthiamarie -- 6/30/2006 4:32:48 PM >

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RE: The importance of modesty - 6/30/2006 4:35:38 PM   
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I corrected Einstein’s Theory of Relativity in 1997. I consulted with the World Bank and established international financial market controls to protect my own investments before writing my latest book which reviews obsolete psychology works and creates the new existential psychology or as it is now popularly known…Steel Psychology. Of course my athletic endeavors have not suffered during this time as I’ve set world records in the pole vault, shot put, 100 meter dash and marathon.

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RE: The importance of modesty - 6/30/2006 4:42:52 PM   
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I'm a little rusty on your latest book. Can you give me a link?

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RE: The importance of modesty - 6/30/2006 4:44:23 PM   
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I really have nothing to be modest about.  So, it really isn't an issue for me.  Which suits me just fine.... I have enough on  my plate to deal with!

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