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RE: The importance of modesty - 6/30/2006 4:50:27 PM   
Vendaval


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please do not hesitate.  You cannot have good buyers if the
sellers don't hang out their signs and get the good old
"come fuck me glow" shining bright and pretty.  
 
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ORIGINAL: CrappyDom

To make it worse, since they don't have the vast experience and depth of knowledge I have to work at being modest about, they don't even have to work as hard as I do and yet they still want to be complimented on their modesty.  Sometimes it makes we want to just post about how great I am and just say to heck with being modest.

Shameful, isn't it?


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RE: The importance of modesty - 6/30/2006 4:50:48 PM   
Emperor1956


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Status: offline 		What CrappyDom said.  But because I said it SECOND, I'm even more modest, and therefore MORE worthy, etc. than HE is.

E.

and because I'm SO modest I just had to post:

Oh Lord it's hard to be humble
when you're perfect in every way.
I can't wait to look in the mirror
cause I get better loking each day.
To know me is to love me
I must be a hell of a man.
Oh Lord it's hard to be humble
but I'm doing the best that I can.

I used to have a girlfriend
but she just couldn't compete
with all of these love starved women
who keep clamoring at my feet.
Well I prob'ly could find me another
but I guess they're all in awe of me.
Who cares, I never get lonesome
cause I treasure my own company.
(refrain)

I guess you could say I'm a loner,
a cowboy outlaw tough and proud.
I could have lots of friends if I want to
but then I wouldn't stand out from the crowd.
Some folks say that I'm egotistical.
Hell, I don't even know what that means.
I guess it has something to do with the way that I
fill out my skin tight blue jeans.

(etc)

--E

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RE: The importance of modesty - 6/30/2006 5:46:01 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CrappyDom
Sometimes it makes we want to just post about how great I am and just say to heck with being modest.

Shameful, isn't it?


It's a tool to use as necessary.

I kick ass at some things and I know it, sometimes it's the right time to shout about it.

I kick ass at some things and then someone comes along and shows me how much better THEY kick ass- then I am modest to them.

Modesty takes a level of self and social awareness.  Since most people have trouble with both of those concepts, modesty tends to be a fairly foreign idea. 


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RE: The importance of modesty - 6/30/2006 11:05:41 PM   
crouchingtigress


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um that is me being modest...

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RE: The importance of modesty - 6/30/2006 11:32:27 PM   
MistressOfGa


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quote:

Needless to say, this behaviour does not work particularly well in a role where I should project confidence and certainty. 


I agree. I am in the same spot as you. I want to be able to exhibit a fair amount of confidence, but I am quite shy when it comes to showing that part of myself. I do not do well when complimented, I tend to minimize it and change the subject quickly. But then again, I am not one who puts on airs either. I pretty much do my own thing and if people don't like it, I don't really give a hoot. I am extremely private and I pretty much keep to myself. I do better within a small group. I don't neighbor and I don't do malls. I am one of those rare women who do not like shopping. You can't drag me into a mall. None of this has to do with modesty I know, but I kind of went drifting off into my own little world there for a second lol Am I modest? Oh yes, indeed I am.


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RE: The importance of modesty - 7/1/2006 12:03:17 AM   
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Status: offline 		Maybe you could guess from my screen name, but I'm not into modesty.

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RE: The importance of modesty - 7/1/2006 1:14:23 AM   
meatcleaver


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Status: offline 		When I was at college studying, a lecturer discussing how to be successful in what we planned to make a living from said, modesty is for losers and if we were modest we should consider getting a job in another field, where we could live in a quiet corner.

< Message edited by meatcleaver -- 7/1/2006 1:15:26 AM >

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RE: The importance of modesty - 7/1/2006 1:20:46 AM   
Vendaval


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Status: offline 		I have heard this same advice on campus, meatcleaver.
If you want to get ahead you need to be noticed and have
people know about your achievements.  This tactic is
difficult for the more shy, introverted types who are
frequently bullied by the agressive, extroverted co-workers.
 
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RE: The importance of modesty - 7/1/2006 1:41:31 AM   
vield


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Status: offline 		Yes I have heard very similar "stuff" from college teachers, employment advisors and from army drill sargents.

All of the above folks talking like this have a bit too much admiration for their own navels for me to take them seriously.

Some folks MUST compete and step on others to feel they are ok.

Other people have no need for this type of things.

Yes the sweet sub friend who directs a multistate retail operation may not have been the 1st chosen for the job, but she got it. She works hard and she cares. Her employes are very glad she did get the job, as are her bosses.

I have found that in many years of being part of BD/SM discussion groups, the years when subs are the elected officers are usually far more successful and fun than the years dominants are in charge.

vield

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RE: The importance of modesty - 7/1/2006 1:47:40 AM   
becca333


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CrappyDom

In the old days prior to the internet modesty was considered a virtue but now with all the fakes and poseurs, everyone claims to be modest.  I mean in my case, I am actually modest, probably one of the most modest on CM.  When you look at my vast experience, my nearly overwhelming intelligence, and deep understandings of both western and eastern S&M practices, most would find it impossible to be truly modest.  Sure they would fake it, they would say something on their profile about being modest but it would be fake.  So few today have ever seen real modesty, that that sort of fake modesty goes almost unnoticed. 

To make it worse, since they don't have the vast experience and depth of knowledge I have to work at being modest about, they don't even have to work as hard as I do and yet they still want to be complimented on their modesty.  Sometimes it makes we want to just post about how great I am and just say to heck with being modest.

Shameful, isn't it?


You're glorious!

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RE: The importance of modesty - 7/1/2006 2:47:52 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Wulfchyld

I'm a little rusty on your latest book. Can you give me a link?


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RE: The importance of modesty - 7/1/2006 3:07:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		If I was modest in my work, I might as well go out and find myself a job working for someone else rather than myself. I have to advertise myself and I have to push myself to make a living. Once I have done a job, the work speaks for itself and is the reason why people come back to me but modesty and the unwillingness to compete would sink me.

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RE: The importance of modesty - 7/1/2006 7:06:25 PM   
CrappyDom


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quote:

  I have found that in many years of being part of BD/SM discussion groups, the years when subs are the elected officers are usually far more successful and fun than the years dominants are in charge.


I so agree.

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RE: The importance of modesty - 7/1/2006 8:23:35 PM   
zenofeller


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RE: The importance of modesty - 7/1/2006 10:58:40 PM   
losttreasure


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Status: offline 		Interesting... this thread seems a bit Dom/Domme heavy.  Wonder why that is.  

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RE: The importance of modesty - 7/1/2006 11:02:27 PM   
Emperor1956


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quote:

LordAndMaster said:  Maybe you could guess from my screen name, but I'm not into modesty.


Its not the screen name that tipped Me off...its the fuckin' elephants!

E.

(AND I'm still more modest than CrappyDom.  Or is that "modester".  Yah.  I'm more modester.  Heh)

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"When you wake up, Pooh," said Piglet, "what's the first thing you say?"
"What's for breakfast? What do you say, Piglet?"
"I say, I wonder what's going to happen exciting today?"
Pooh nodded thoughtfully.
"It's the same thing," he said.

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RE: The importance of modesty - 7/2/2006 1:57:52 AM   
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Status: offline 		<----- has tried to look at his faults and modesty is the only one I have found.

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RE: The importance of modesty - 7/2/2006 6:04:26 AM   
sophia37


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Status: offline 		LOLOL U R 2 Funny CrappyDom

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RE: The importance of modesty - 7/2/2006 7:56:43 AM   
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I think modesty is a virtue, but have no objection tobragging in the right context. If it is relevant to the conversation brag away. For example if someone asks how your kids are doing, go ahead and tell them all the latest, or of someone asks how you did in a golf tournament, etc. But bragging and name dropping that isn't relevant to the conversation really bugs me. We have a friend who is constantly name dropping. His position allows him to meet many well known buisness people and political leaders and he fits it into the conversation whenever he can.  It's gotten so bad that we sometimes try to avoid going out to dinner with him, not to mention that we keep hearing the same stories over and over again.

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