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Strap-ons - 9/6/2013 1:58:53 AM   
SweetT88


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My ex was big in to this bdsm, now I am. I was her slave, sucked her toes, got tied up, blind folded, whatever she wanted. But the craziest experience was the strap-on. I was her slave but we live very vanilla for the most part and this was a complete shock when I saw it. I complied with her wishes but it really hurt at first, but after the second time it was quite enjoyable, is that normal?
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RE: Strap-ons - 9/6/2013 7:12:24 AM   
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No, it's not normal at all for it to be enjoyable. It should be a horrific, excruciating experience every time. That's why so many people like it?

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RE: Strap-ons - 9/6/2013 7:23:07 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: SweetT88

My ex was big in to this bdsm, now I am. I was her slave, sucked her toes, got tied up, blind folded, whatever she wanted. But the craziest experience was the strap-on. I was her slave but we live very vanilla for the most part and this was a complete shock when I saw it. I complied with her wishes but it really hurt at first, but after the second time it was quite enjoyable, is that normal?



Well it's normal for the thousands of straight women who have anal sex but apparently when it's a guy who is bent over it's a major deal and requires hours of discussion. Next time use more lube.

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RE: Strap-ons - 9/6/2013 7:30:27 AM   
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If it is normal for you, then it is normal.

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RE: Strap-ons - 9/7/2013 8:14:31 AM   
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Well it's normal for the thousands of straight women who have anal sex but apparently when it's a guy who is bent over it's a major deal and requires hours of discussion. Next time use more lube.

lol This!! ^^^^

I've always wondered why it's considered normal for women to receive anal and not men. An asshole is an asshole is an asshole.

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RE: Strap-ons - 9/7/2013 8:24:22 AM   
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I believe there are gay and bisexual men that have
anal sex every now and then.

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RE: Strap-ons - 9/7/2013 3:58:26 PM   
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Why are you asking a whole passel of perverts if liking something is "normal"?

If you like it, if your partner likes it, if you and she are doing it safely, who gives a damn whether other people think it's "normal"?

The whole point of having a BDSM community is so we can engage in the activities we like with other people who like them, that most of the rest of the world thinks is "abnormal".

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RE: Strap-ons - 9/7/2013 8:12:33 PM   
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What's normal? Hell, a year ago I was a practicing mormon, now I smack my bf with a riding crop and sleep in on Sunday.

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RE: Strap-ons - 9/8/2013 3:23:45 PM   
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What's normal? Hell, a year ago I was a practicing mormon, now I smack my bf with a riding crop and sleep in on Sunday.


Congratulations on your recovery from mormonism.

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RE: Strap-ons - 9/10/2013 9:22:12 AM   
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I believe there are gay and bisexual men that have
anal sex every now and then.



And heaven forbid....some of us actually enjoy it!!!!

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RE: Strap-ons - 9/10/2013 9:24:09 AM   
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90% of women I have been with have all done anal. I've introduced women to anal as well.

One such relationship, thats all we did. No vaginal sex ever. Lasted for several months. Good times!

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RE: Strap-ons - 9/11/2013 1:46:19 PM   
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You sound like a lucky individual to have someone who loves to use a strap-on with you. You will not believe how difficult it is sometimes to find a woman who will fuck a guy with a strap-on.It is an acquired taste ....but [no pune intended] once you get used to it it is an awesome feeling

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RE: Strap-ons - 9/11/2013 2:05:45 PM   
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define normal.... whats normal for one might not be normal for another... to each their own... if you enjoyed it then its normal

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RE: Strap-ons - 9/12/2013 12:08:13 PM   
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good for you! i always think it makes so much more sense for straight guys to get fucked in the ass than straight women. men have prostates!

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RE: Strap-ons - 9/12/2013 12:11:07 PM   
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good for you! i always think it makes so much more sense for straight guys to get fucked in the ass than straight women. men have prostates!

What's wrong with a slender, well lubed finger combined with a skilled fellatrix?

We don't need all these expensive toys and stuff.

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RE: Strap-ons - 9/13/2013 7:20:22 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: SweetT88

My ex was big in to this bdsm, now I am. I was her slave, sucked her toes, got tied up, blind folded, whatever she wanted. But the craziest experience was the strap-on. I was her slave but we live very vanilla for the most part and this was a complete shock when I saw it. I complied with her wishes but it really hurt at first, but after the second time it was quite enjoyable, is that normal?


No....I'd see a professional.

(Others can...and will offer more advice on this).

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RE: Strap-ons - 9/13/2013 8:53:28 PM   
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Isn't it all just a quest for the ultimate orgasm?

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RE: Strap-ons - 9/13/2013 9:16:53 PM   
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Isn't it all just a quest for the ultimate orgasm?


Are we speaking for me, or the general public?

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RE: Strap-ons - 9/13/2013 9:41:37 PM   
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ORIGINAL: NiceButMeanGirl


quote:

ORIGINAL: thishereboi
Well it's normal for the thousands of straight women who have anal sex but apparently when it's a guy who is bent over it's a major deal and requires hours of discussion. Next time use more lube.

lol This!! ^^^^

I've always wondered why it's considered normal for women to receive anal and not men. An asshole is an asshole is an asshole.

NBMG



Because you are a Dom, and your receivers are submissive males. This is beating a dead horse I know but being with a straight dominant male even though I am a switch, he is my husband and I would loathe the day he ever wanted me to put him in what I see as a sexually submissive vulnerable position. Total turn off. Luckily for me it is a non issue but most straight males especially dominant ones have no desire to be reamed in the ass by their woman. It is not just a sexual act it is psychologically to me the antithesis of what I see as a dominant straight male. Could not and would not comply.

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RE: Strap-ons - 9/13/2013 10:36:52 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: SweetT88

My ex was big in to this bdsm, now I am. I was her slave, sucked her toes, got tied up, blind folded, whatever she wanted. But the craziest experience was the strap-on. I was her slave but we live very vanilla for the most part and this was a complete shock when I saw it. I complied with her wishes but it really hurt at first, but after the second time it was quite enjoyable, is that normal?


You don't say whether you had been using graduating-size butt plugs or dildos. From the way it sounds, she just one day whipped out a strap-on when you were least expecting it. Under those circumstances, a resounding NO, not a common response just the 3rd time around. However, if you & your wife had been engaging in ass play prior to that momentous event, and you had been properly prepped, then YEAH, no reason for you not to have enjoyed it while you were in a more relaxed state. Males have a prostate gland (as already mentioned by hylasEA--holla, over there in the Netherlands), which when stimulated can arouse different pleasurable sensations than they would otherwise experience via direct penile stimulation (although when combined, you will achieve optimal results). My last sub was able to reach orgasm solely by anal penetration, as a matter of fact, sans any stroking.

This is a touchy subject for most men, but what both men & women often haven't come to terms with is that many of us are anal-erotic. It's another dimension of sexuality which isn't contingent on sexual orientation. In other words, enjoying receiving anal sex doesn't make a man any less heterosexual, or a lesbian any less homosexual, and with straight females I suppose it's not relevant (unless they simply can't get into it). No, I didn't take a poll, but I'll take bets - and I don't gamble - that men who are fixated with giving anal are vicariously experiencing receiving anal, and can be quite obsessive about it. This would include quite a few male Dominants, as well. Based on the ones who contact me, despite my lack of interest in Topping Doms or switches, it's a toss up between wanting anal play & foot/shoe fetishes or both, I kid you not.

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