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RE: require?? or required?? - 6/30/2006 5:54:43 PM   
cuddleheart50


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RE: require?? or required?? - 6/30/2006 5:54:43 PM   
Rayne58


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Status: offline 		Is it a requirement that your Master/Dom/Mistress control all the money?

We each have our own bank accounts and there are no restrictions on what I can spend. In fact He encourages me to spend more on myself than I actually do I have credit cards and money from my divorce settlement that He has no interest in

Are you allowed to have money for "just in case" reasons?

Does not apply, see above.

Do you have to call and "check in" throughout the day when out running errands?

He doesn't expect that but sometimes I will call Him if I am out longer than expected to let Him know I am ok and what time I expect to be back

Do you have a time limit to be home when you are out?

There's no set limit, He tells me to just go out and enjoy myself

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RE: require?? or required?? - 6/30/2006 6:04:12 PM   
Subsekr


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Status: offline 		Some call it being strict, some call it micromanaging.  Some call it a combination of both.  Who cares, do whatever you two agree to.  If you have an issue with it, deal with it amongst yourselves.  Out of the bazillion couples in the lifestyle, I doubt you will find two that practice the exact same philosophy.  But then again, what do I know ?

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RE: require?? or required?? - 6/30/2006 6:07:49 PM   
rose442


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Status: offline 		If you are a sub or slave....
 
Is it a requirement that your Master/Dom/Mistress control all the money? 
 
Yes it is... BUT it is a requirement that I want as well as Master. I suck with money. I love to spend it and not save it. And at one point I had to be responsible for every penny I earned and do not want to have that responsibility any more.

 
Are you allowed to have money for "just in case" reasons?
 
No I don't carry ANY money with me. Master and I discuss the day and what has to be done. If I NEED money I get it. If I WANT money to play with, Master decides if I get it or not.  
Do you have to call and "check in" throughout the day when out running errands?
 
Yes I do. Because I didn't do it until He enforced it. I never had to check in with anyone before Master. As ALL probably know This Master is my 1st M/s relationship. And I did whatever I wanted b4 Master was in my life. And now I understand it as being respectful to Master and Him knowing I am safe.  

Do you have a time limit to be home when you are out?
 
No I don't. I usually let Him know how long I think it will take to do what has to be done. If I am going to be longer then I call home.
 
Now I have a question for All again?.... why is it when I post something I get the beating of my life. I am just curious about others because I have NO friends I talk to on a regular basis about the lifestyle. And I have only been to 1 lifestyle event. So why am I not allowed to ask some simple questions? When thousands of other people on here can post anything they want to and not get this beating for it. ( If I was as smart as all Yyou people think you are, when jump on others, then I wouldn't have to ask questions... as the saying goes, knowledge is power, and power is knowledge)

And I have every right to stand up for Master, myself, and my Family when we are talked to or about like dogs.

rose442

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RE: require?? or required?? - 6/30/2006 6:14:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		Rose, may I ask if your new into this relationship? I ask because re-reading your post and his, I just get this feeling that no-one is really at fault here and that your working out kinks of a new relationship.. I could be way off base there, I'm often off base, however it's just a feeling I get.

I'm sorry if you feel picked on, I wasn't trying to beat you up, that's your Master's job   * winks*  I am harsh sometimes with myself when I am sorting out my reasons for feeling things or doing certain things, so I may have come across as you should be harsh with yourself too, but my point still stands, you MUST look into yourself and figure out if your really wanting this kind of relationship, and if you really are then yes you need to allow your Master to do his job.

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RE: require?? or required?? - 6/30/2006 6:24:50 PM   
rose442


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Status: offline 		Thank you for your reply's and yes it is still fairly new in realtime. Wwe were online for 2 years and Master moved here 10 months ago. So yes it is kindof new. But only to me, not Master.
 
And because of the other post being brought into this I must sign off of this post as well. Master said it will be brought in, and as I can see it is. So I am going to not read any more of this post until I am allowed to read the other one.
 
Please keep replying to this. I want to see others views AND IT IS NOT TO COMPARE others to Uus.

rose442

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RE: require?? or required?? - 6/30/2006 6:27:34 PM   
Littlepita


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Now I have a question for All again?.... why is it when I post something I get the beating of my life. I am just curious about others because I have NO friends I talk to on a regular basis about the lifestyle. And I have only been to 1 lifestyle event. So why am I not allowed to ask some simple questions? When thousands of other people on here can post anything they want to and not get this beating for it. ( If I was as smart as all Yyou people think you are, when jump on others, then I wouldn't have to ask questions... as the saying goes, knowledge is power, and power is knowledge)

rose442


That is really unfair and I think sad that your Master beats you because you are asking a question on a message board. Of course I don't know all the questions you have asked. So, maybe you crossed the line with him? My Master knows I'm on here and I can post freely. He trust me to do and say what I please, because I always have repect for him and our relationship. I also tell him anything of interest which he appreciates. I do think if you are asking questions that reflect the treatment you get from your Master you should first talk it over with him. I would never talk about something personal without my Master knowledge and approval.

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RE: require?? or required?? - 6/30/2006 6:28:52 PM   
mnottertail


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ORIGINAL: rose442

If you are a sub or slave....
 
Is it a requirement that your Master/Dom/Mistress control all the money? 
 
Yes it is... BUT it is a requirement that I want as well as Master. I suck with money. I love to spend it and not save it. And at one point I had to be responsible for every penny I earned and do not want to have that responsibility any more.
I thought as much from your post. And said budgets must be maintained....really I did.

 
Are you allowed to have money for "just in case" reasons?
 
No I don't carry ANY money with me. Master and I discuss the day and what has to be done. If I NEED money I get it. If I WANT money to play with, Master decides if I get it or not. 
Being not a money manager (see A) still i think that JIC money must be given your charge.....not for the cute peek-a-boo blouse on sale at bonwits or whatever, you need to get towed.....I suspect you don't change tires for a living, forgive my impudence.
Do you have to call and "check in" throughout the day when out running errands?
 
Yes I do. Because I didn't do it until He enforced it. I never had to check in with anyone before Master. As ALL probably know This Master is my 1st M/s relationship. And I did whatever I wanted b4 Master was in my life. And now I understand it as being respectful to Master and Him knowing I am safe.  I didn't say any thing wrong there.

Do you have a time limit to be home when you are out?
 
No I don't. I usually let Him know how long I think it will take to do what has to be done. If I am going to be longer then I call home.

Wonderful girl, such a good girl. You are a ok dude here.

Now I have a question for All again?.... why is it when I post something I get the beating of my life.

Not from me, you ragged my ass and guess what?  What is the big deal, I don't know you?  You asked I answered Aall...   I don't give a fuck if you are a dipshit, you better toughen up, it is a cold cruel world out there, I just have such  (but this is me) awe that you get fucked up about the word clowns......is it an appearance thing, cause I think you are pretty as hell (and please tell your Master I said so, and my regards for his eye for an excellence in choice property to  build upon.......I  may be an asshole, kid.....but I got manners.

I am just curious about others because I have NO friends I talk to on a regular basis about the lifestyle. And I have only been to 1 lifestyle event. So why am I not allowed to ask some simple questions?

You are, and some are going to say things you don't wanna hear, and some icky fuckers like me.

When thousands of other people on here can post anything they want to and not get this beating for it. ( If I was as smart as all Yyou people think you are, when jump on others, then I wouldn't have to ask questions... as the saying goes, knowledge is power, and power is knowledge)

Kiss my ass, this site is filled with the carnage of those that are weak, stupid, incomprehensible (I am one) and not worth your contemplation.
And I have every right to stand up for Master, myself, and my Family when we are talked to or about like dogs.

You do and lady, to me, you did a hell of a swell job, but trust me, i  did not talk to you like a dog....I talked to you like a friend, one  facet of that is that if you think your shit don't stink, and your farts give you away.....I am gonna tell you.

Take  it or leave it, that is my apology.

You have the love of your life in hand, why you wanna fuck around and debate fuckwads like me?

Sincerely,
Ron

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RE: require?? or required?? - 6/30/2006 6:33:03 PM   
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That is really unfair and I think sad that your Master beats you because you are asking a question on a message board.


pita,

I think that she is referring to some of the responses to this thread and not something her master has done.  I think she is feeling beat up by posters.  Of course I could be wrong on that; it's just my take.

kyra

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RE: require?? or required?? - 6/30/2006 6:36:14 PM   
Littlepita


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ORIGINAL: kyraofMists

quote:

ORIGINAL: Littlepita
That is really unfair and I think sad that your Master beats you because you are asking a question on a message board.


pita,

I think that she is referring to some of the responses to this thread and not something her master has done.  I think she is feeling beat up by posters.  Of course I could be wrong on that; it's just my take.

kyra


Ohhhhhh, I see. Well, then she needs to say fuck off to those that piss her off and let it go. Plus, Ron has a great sense of humor.

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RE: require?? or required?? - 6/30/2006 6:38:47 PM   
smilezz


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quote:

If you are a sub or slave....
 
Is it a requirement that your Master/Dom/Mistress control all the money?

No, it is not a requirement 
 
quote:

Are you allowed to have money for "just in case" reasons?
Thorns allows that from time to time... 
 
quote:

Do you have to call and "check in" throughout the day when out running errands?
Absolutely!
 
quote:

Do you have a time limit to be home when you are out?
Not always 
 


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RE: require?? or required?? - 6/30/2006 6:42:12 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kyraofMists
I think that she is referring to some of the responses to this thread and not something her master has done.  I think she is feeling beat up by posters.  Of course I could be wrong on that; it's just my take.

kyra

This whole situation is insane.  They've both made threads about how they are frustrated and not sure how to go forward in the relationship.  Yet the master isn't even ok with the slave READING his own thread?

What sort of cracked up communication system is going on?  WHen are they going to get offline and start working together directly?

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RE: require?? or required?? - 6/30/2006 6:44:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well, pita, you know what they are gonna say, the fuckin bastid is gonna beat you and lay on the couch once you get there..........and change your shoes......I know that had you in tears.....my little stilleto......goddammit, pita, I have seen a post of yours from time to time, and I am glad you are alive.  As I told these other sluts, don't align
in any way with me because master will take a belt to all those that dare call impudence.

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RE: require?? or required?? - 6/30/2006 6:45:29 PM   
findmedaddy


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Status: offline 		Rose,

I'm not a slave, so what I say may have little bearing, but your questions about whether someone should be required to check in during the day and to be home at a certain time...? Um, that sounds like someone who cares about someone else and wants to know she's ok. Wouldn't you normally check in from time to time? Wouldn't you normally call if you weren't going to be home at the usual time? The people in my office seem to be on the phone with their wives/husbands/girlfriends/boyfriends/kids/whatever all day long. I don't think that has anything to do with M/s stuff. Hard to be in a committed relationship if basic consideration -- checking in and not making someone worry about you -- is a burden. I think it would be rather nice to have that level of concern applied to my welfare. It might even feel like love. But maybe I'm misunderstanding the situation.

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RE: require?? or required?? - 6/30/2006 6:54:19 PM   
txpet


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Status: offline 		Master and i do not live together and i am expected to control my own finances and pay the rent on my aptartment and my bills, etc.
Especially the rent as the lease is in Master's name

i can go out at will when i know for a fact that Master will not want me...i would have to ask permission before meeting nayone but not to do errands or shopping unless for some reason it was out of routine

Master has told me to do errands in a certain amount of time or be home by a certain time ... He does this for my protection though .. like the one time my cell phone was dead or He didn't want me in a certain place after dark

He could of course require anything of me for any reason ... i am His ::SMILE:: Doing anything to conform to His wishes, pleases HIm and makes me happy .. my goal is simply to make His life easier


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RE: require?? or required?? - 6/30/2006 7:01:56 PM   
Littlepita


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Well, pita, you know what they are gonna say, the fuckin bastid is gonna beat you and lay on the couch once you get there..........and change your shoes......I know that had you in tears.....my little stilleto......goddammit, pita, I have seen a post of yours from time to time, and I am glad you are alive.  As I told these other sluts, don't align
in any way with me because master will take a belt to all those that dare call impudence.

Winston Churchill




Why Winston I do believe you just made my panties damp!

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RE: require?? or required?? - 6/30/2006 7:05:46 PM   
mnottertail


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RE: require?? or required?? - 6/30/2006 7:28:51 PM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		If I couldn't trust her with money, I wouldn't bother taking her.

But I do require her to let me know where she is if she's out.

quote:

ORIGINAL: rose442

Do You allow your subs or slaves to....
Carry ANY money on them for "just in case" reasons?

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RE: require?? or required?? - 6/30/2006 7:30:59 PM   
acissej


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ORIGINAL: rose442
If you are a sub or slave....
 
Is it a requirement that your Master/Dom/Mistress control all the money?

No, it's a requirement for me that he does not control all the money.   I'm a bit more practical in my spending than he is.  We're married and, though we have joint accounts, my paycheck goes into one and his goes into the other.   I control the one where my paycheck goes and he controls the other.  We also divide the bills.  I'm responsible for some, he's responsible for others.  It works well for us.
 
Are you allowed to have money for "just in case" reasons?
The only money restrictions I have are the ones I place on myself.  I am free to spend my paycheck however I feel like it--within reason, of course.  I can't just off and buy a car without consulting him.  But that's more because we're married than because I'm submissive.
 
Do you have to call and "check in" throughout the day when out running errands?
No, I never "have to call," but I will let him know if I've been unreasonably delayed.  There's also an expectation that he'll call me if he's delayed.

Do you have a time limit to be home when you are out?
Not really.  There's usually an expectation of how late I'll be--and there's also a limit to how late I feel comfortable being out without him.  For example, if I'm hanging out in the city with friends, neither of us wants me taking the two-hour train ride home alone at four in the morning.  So, I might cut the night early, he might pick me up late, or I might crash on a friend's couch and just take the train home in the morning.  No matter what, I'd keep him informed of what I'm doing and always make sure he has no objections.  But, again, that's just being courteous, it's not a matter of being submissive. 

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RE: require?? or required?? - 6/30/2006 8:04:12 PM   
lanwolf


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Status: offline 		I have always had some level of control on my money when i have been owned however the last one i was with was also my fiancee so i trusted her more then the others and she had total control including access to the bank acount (can W/we all hear a but yet?). Not only did the M/s relationship end but so did the engagment (kind of funny how that happened). i will let One control my spending by having to show records of where my cash is going and gone to but i will never again let One no matter what have total access to all my money.
 
     i have only had to call if i would be late or not able to get over to do taskings due to health or other issues They have all said They understand life has a way of causing issues all by its self that neither They or i can control.
 
     They have at times set time limits just for the odd tasking depending on if it brought them some enjoyment or there was a reason like the part starts in 20 mins you have 10 to go and get the cake and get back here.
 

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