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RE: require?? or required?? - 6/30/2006 8:47:33 PM   
Noah


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ORIGINAL: Littlepita
That is really unfair and I think sad that your Master beats you because you are asking a question on a message board.


pita,

I think that she is referring to some of the responses to this thread and not something her master has done.  I think she is feeling beat up by posters.  Of course I could be wrong on that; it's just my take.

kyra


Wow. If as she claims her master is not a fucker, first of all, and besides that being called a clown by a stranger in an internet forum constitutes the best beating she's ever had in her life (including ten months with a live-in dom) well I just don't know what to say.

Where's the silver lining here? It all looks pretty bleak.

I guess maybe other submissives who thought they were totally living in hell can look at this situation and be inspired to thank their lucky stars.


Do you suppose we could get Sally Struthers to do some fund raising or something?





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RE: require?? or required?? - 6/30/2006 8:53:03 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		Well,  hold the phone Noah; I ain't you're average motherfucker............
I call someone a clown, and they are going to have to live with  Albrercht-Svarthheim for a little while. Know what I am saying?


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RE: require?? or required?? - 6/30/2006 8:54:48 PM   
Noah


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ORIGINAL: cuddleheart50

I don't have a Master, so I can't answer. 


But you did answer, cuddles. So maybe you really do have a master but he just won't let you read the post where he collared you.

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RE: require?? or required?? - 6/30/2006 9:03:02 PM   
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Well,  hold the phone Noah; I ain't you're average motherfucker............
I call someone a clown, and they are going to have to live with  Albrercht-Svarthheim for a little while. Know what I am saying?



Word. Talk about motherfuckers. That Svarthheim guy (whose real first name is Alfred, by the way) despite the cool last name he first of all doesn't know any Norwegian Deathmetal; his stage rig is like total hundred-watt crap, and have you seen his hair lately? No way he's ridin' our bus. But the thing is I heard he was back livin with his mom and that moderator chick. What did you hear?

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RE: require?? or required?? - 6/30/2006 9:06:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think in any relationship not just Dom sub its common cutasy to le you other half know were you are and when you will be home... i thiink Doms should do it to let you sub know were you are and that your ok and when you will be back... you worrie anout the ones ou love and you want to know they are safe

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RE: require?? or required?? - 6/30/2006 9:18:25 PM   
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Is it a requirement that your Master/Dom/Mistress control all the money?
All my wages go into a savings account, and for access it needs BOTH our signatures... All my Child Support goes into a Post Office Savings Account for Kelly, and she won't have access until she's 18... Master pays all my Bills by Direct Debit and gives me £20 a week pocket money... i luv this arrangement coz it means not only are we saving for our own place, not only are we putting £16.50 a week away for Kel, but it means i don't have to worry about money no more, for Christmas and Birthdays and that, coz Master takes care of all that
 
Are you allowed to have money for "just in case" reasons?
i get my £20 a week. if that runs out, then i have to ask Master for more and explain why
 
Do you have to call and "check in" throughout the day when out running errands?
i don't HAVE too, but i do... i like the contact with Him, coz i miss Him when He's at work... i don't phone Him though, we just text each other
 
Do you have a time limit to be home when you are out?
Yes, but for completely different reasons 

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RE: require?? or required?? - 6/30/2006 9:28:09 PM   
DominaSmartass


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Status: offline 		Trying to put this as diplomatically as possible... Tell me if I'm wrong, but I think that any "master" or dominant, etc. who does not allow his/her sub to carry emergency cash on themselves at all times doesn't have enough sense to run someone else's life to that degree in the first place. In this day and age (hell, in any day and age) one never knows when one will have an emergency situation that requires at least a little bit of money and certainly a credit card in case a few hundred dollars is needed. Unless the slave stays chained up inside the house fulltime, I can't imagine any owner not wanting to ensure the safety of his/her property by allowing him/her easy access to emergency funds. 

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RE: require?? or required?? - 6/30/2006 10:23:49 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DominaSmartass

Trying to put this as diplomatically as possible... Tell me if I'm wrong, but I think that any "master" or dominant, etc. who does not allow his/her sub to carry emergency cash on themselves at all times doesn't have enough sense to run someone else's life to that degree in the first place. In this day and age (hell, in any day and age) one never knows when one will have an emergency situation that requires at least a little bit of money and certainly a credit card in case a few hundred dollars is needed. Unless the slave stays chained up inside the house fulltime, I can't imagine any owner not wanting to ensure the safety of his/her property by allowing him/her easy access to emergency funds. 


Does it really have have to cash out for you as the un-named person you're criticizing "not wanting to ensure the safety of (blah blah blah)?"

I can hardly imagine anyone who wanted to be a dominant lacking the imagination to manage the risks of this sort of scenario by alternate means, if it came to that. But then I needn't, because there you are big as life.

Some people actually derive meaning from the experience of confronting the risks they carefully build into their BDSM activities, "Domina." Outrageous, huh?

Can you really not imagine, for instance, a sort of person who A. would feel more naked in public without a credit card than they would without clothes, and B. was in fact more than resourceful enough to handle any issue that would slip through the cracks of the structure set up by his or her dominant if sent out into the world this way, submitting to C. a dominant who for reasons which aren't hard for me to imagine might decide to use this device for certain effects?

And now that we're on the subject can't you really imagine at least three or four other ways this sort of thing might arise and play out without anyone deserving your little dig about the putative motivations of other dominants?







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RE: require?? or required?? - 6/30/2006 10:25:05 PM   
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RE: require?? or required?? - 6/30/2006 10:29:05 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Noah

I guess maybe other submissives who thought they were totally living in hell can look at this situation and be inspired to thank their lucky stars.


Do you suppose we could get Sally Struthers to do some fund raising or something?







Imitates a whiny falsetto voice.......And we can help the poor subbies on collarme with your generous support....they don't have enough spike shoes, and corsets are hard to come by....

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RE: require?? or required?? - 6/30/2006 10:37:58 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Caretakr


Imitates a whiny falsetto voice.......And we can help the poor subbies on collarme with your generous support....they don't have enough spike shoes, and corsets are hard to come by....


Okay you made me laugh out loud. I guess she does have that voice. But then she has those tits too. You can always but a fist in her mouth.

And a little truth in advertising please. I expect that some of the weinies around here could come by just seeing their first corset.

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RE: require?? or required?? - 6/30/2006 10:42:10 PM   
Jnj


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Status: offline 		Is it a requirement that your Master/Dom/Mistress control all the money?

I don't know that it is a requirement of his, because I've never questioned it, but my owner controls the finances.  Although I'm no longer a stripper, when I was, the cash I made went from my garter to his hand, and now that I am in the corporate world, my pay check goes to his bank account.  I find this reassuring.  However, he did require me to learn to pay the bills, budget, and handle our money for a six month period so that I would be able to do this on my own if he were to pass away. 

Are you allowed to have money for "just in case" reasons?

No.  I do not leave the house with money, although he will occasionally give me a credit card if he thinks it is warranted, like my Saturday morning shopping trips.  I'm also required to check out my IDs if I think they will be needed.  In general, I walk around town with a Chicago Transit card, no money and no ID.  

Do you have to call and "check in" throughout the day when out running errands?

No.  I do, but it is not a requirement, I just like to hear his voice and like to blab to him about what I am doing.  If I am going to be late, run into a problem, or become uncomfortable in my surroundings, I am required to call.

Do you have a time limit to be home when you are out?

Some times, but this is flexible depending on what our day looks like.

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RE: require?? or required?? - 6/30/2006 10:49:20 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		I can answer for my pet, who is unavailable right now.
As of yet, he is not required to allow me to run the money, since we dont live togehter yet.
However, even in my *shudder* vanilla relationship of past I controled all the money becasue I was ust better at it.  Will I require it?  Probably. But not so I can further my control, just becasue its easier than worrying about wether he has any money sense at all.  Ive done this before, he hasnt.
As for checking in, yes, he is required to call and check in every night. Time limits... Id love to impose them, but until he is here with me, I am sort of stalled.

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RE: require?? or required?? - 7/1/2006 1:25:36 AM   
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If you are a sub or slave....
 
Is it a requirement that your Master/Dom/Mistress control all the money?
 
Are you allowed to have money for "just in case" reasons?
 
Do you have to call and "check in" throughout the day when out running errands?
 
Do you have a time limit to be home when you are out?

This slave has her own job, her own apartment, and controls all her own money. Part of my agreement with Master was that I be allowed my own place, and be allowed to keep my job. I am lucky in the respect that I work from home and control my own hours.
Master does not require that I 'check in' with him at any time. He trusts me to do what is necessary to have done. If I have to go somewhere, he knows, but I am not required to call at certain times.
As for being home at a certain time, yes. When Master gets off work, he requires that I be home when he gets there.

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RE: require?? or required?? - 7/1/2006 1:54:57 AM   
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If you are a Dom/Master/Mistress,
 
Do You allow your subs or slaves to....
Carry ANY money on them for "just in case" reasons?

Of course. Just because she belongs to me does not mean that I am there 24/7 to see to emergencies when they arise.
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  Do You require when Your sub or slave is away from the house to call You and let You know where they are and where they have been and when they expect to be home?


I am her Master, not her father.
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  Do Yyou ever put a time limit on them to complete there task and be home?

To complete a task, no, My girls have lives outside our relationship that are just as important. Sometimes the two collide. However, I do expect them to be home when I get there. Unless, an unseen emergency comes up.

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RE: require?? or required?? - 7/1/2006 2:09:04 AM   
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ORIGINAL: rose442

1.)  I am no different than any other sub or slave on here asking questions. some are new, old, or looking for new ideas just like Masters Dom's and Mistress'. Master is not a fucker and neither am I. Everyone at some point and time wants to hear others views and ideas on subjects. That IS THE POINT of forums. To learn from each other.
 
2.) I do not know what Master's post is about (He has given clues but not much). He is not letting me read it at this time. For His own reasons. So please do not discuss Masters post with this girl at this time.
 
3.) Ron, who do you think YOU are telling us to XO, and you two fuckers start paying attention to the love of your life --- you two.
 
How's about you clowns sit down and make these rules yourself and spend hours and hours discussing their endless application and results and by the time you know it you will have  had a happy life, and you wouldn't wear us out answering questions that have no bearing or meaning to you and Your---hhhhhhmmmmmmm---Yourses life.
 
Master or this girl either one are clowns. Who are you to say we are. If all You posted for is to be disrespectful then why did You post??? That shows what kind of Dom you are and that I am glad You are not my Owner.
 
Get one you two, goddammit, don't make me cross with you...
 
WTF is that? Why do you have to talk like that, and be childish? Do You feel threatened by little ol' me? Do I need to take Masters belt and teach you a lesson?
 
rose442


You might want to drop in to some of the threads about good manners.

If you ask questions, you get answers.  You can't go around whining if you don't like them.

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RE: require?? or required?? - 7/1/2006 4:16:26 AM   
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ORIGINAL: rose442
If you are a Dom/Master/Mistress,
 
Do You allow your subs or slaves to....
Carry ANY money on them for "just in case" reasons?
 
Do You require when Your sub or slave is away from the house to call You and let You know where they are and where they have been and when they expect to be home?
 
Do Yyou ever put a time limit on them to complete there task and be home?

Does putting a roll of bills in a condom and slipping it inside her count?

Generally, yes.  I like to know where they are, where they are going, and most especially when they'll be home.  Its good to keep schedules synced up, besides which I do expect them home at certain times to take care of other duties.

Time limits are a useful tool sometimes, nothing like a little pressure from a time limit to help a slave really focus.  I've done it with grocery shopping for example.  Here's a list of 10 items and a basket... you have 5 min to get all ten items, GO!  My how they do scramble.  BTW, the trick to such things is to generally not set them up for failure, it should be possible to complete the task in the given time if they focus and get moving.  If you aren't sure, try doing it yourself... if you can't do it, don't expect them to.

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RE: require?? or required?? - 7/1/2006 5:22:57 AM   
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Does putting a roll of bills in a condom and slipping it inside her count?



Oh... TOO GREAT!  I will have to mention this one to Master and see what He thinks of the idea LOL..

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RE: require?? or required?? - 7/1/2006 5:26:53 AM   
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Damn, girl, you look fine.

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RE: require?? or required?? - 7/1/2006 7:29:52 AM   
Mercnbeth


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Status: offline 		beth does not work outside the relationship. her reply, to the common question when we she accompanies me at business meetings/dinners; "So...What do you do?",  is "My job is to make and keep him happy."  This most recently occurred Thursday night, and was asked with the common "so..." prefix and with the "you" accented by tone. The response to her answer is commonly a look of envy from any male in attendance, and a look of contempt or anger from the females; both disguised by a nervous giggle.

Our relationship is very one sided huh? But if your perception is that beth has nothing, you'd be wrong. she has everything. At minimum she has the same as me. she has access to every penny and can come and go as she pleases. Our answers to the questions asked would indicate a different dynamic than the our reality because the premise they assume isn't correct. Yes, I manage and maintain our accounts, monitor spending and the bill paying; but it doesn't indicate any dominance. I would have no issue assigning that responsibility to beth even though I was the source of the funds. The question doesn't allow for consideration of our commitment to each other of course, but first and foremost to our "relationship".

Our answer to these questions, or any in the "who is in charge" questions to specific activities, is the same; the relationship. If beth needs money she uses it, if she needs to go somewhere she goes with permission and under conditions, if I can't be with her, where she is safe and secure as if I was with her. she is responsible and knows to check in, not because I need to know where she is, but because in the relationship I'm responsible for her. she calls to let me know she is alright and that she is temporarily taking care of my valuable property. she would much prefer I took care of it in person, but sometime it's just not possible.

beth has no looking over the shoulder paranoia about me checking up on her. I have no worry or wonder about what she is doing. When we have to be apart we have the confidence and trust in each other. A Master serves in a 24/7 M/s dynamic. He serves the relationship. 

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