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RE: Are there any TRUE dominants on this site... or is ... - 9/15/2013 8:09:31 AM

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A female friend of mine, who is quite intelligent but only so-so pretty, has dated some extremely wealthy men. She once said to me, "Red, after a man dates enough, looks don't matter anymore. Men like happy girls." And she's happy and loves her life.

Your friend deserves a Sunny Quote of the Day for that!

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RE: Are there any TRUE dominants on this site... or is ... - 9/15/2013 11:33:21 AM

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Truly dominant men... men who are alpha males, are harder to come by. It's easy to find some guy who wants to own you. Its not so easy to find a man who owns himself. A man who dominates their own lives first, and themselves. Not just some guy who calls himself a Dom. Do you compel obedience in others? Are you a masters of your life and your surroundings? Or just a little boy to insecure to handle a woman in any situation other than her obedience?

By definition, a dominant man is not possessive, because possessiveness is a sign of insecurity, which is a sign of submissiveness.

A female friend of mine, who is quite intelligent but only so-so pretty, has dated some extremely wealthy men. She once said to me, "Red, after a man dates enough, looks don't matter anymore. Men like happy girls." And she's happy and loves her life.

Does your writing sound happy? When you walk into a room, do you radiate joy? Because that's what the man who has everything is looking for. So, maybe, you aren't seeing those men because they aren't looking for you.

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RE: Are there any TRUE dominants on this site... or is ... - 9/15/2013 11:44:53 AM

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ello OP,

Firstly I'd say that you've had some amazing replies, I'd counsel you to read them all carefully and reflect on them.

I'd also urge you to bear in mind that any attempt to define a "True Dom" (or a "True Sub") is doomed, this is a broad church... what you're actually looking for is the "Right Dom" for you.

And on one hand, kudos to you for having such a clear idea about what the "Right Dom" is, but also consider how your description of that right dom might create an impression of you that you're not intending to make.

The answer to your question is... yes. I'll bet that there is a dom guy somewhere here who is right for you.

In the meantime, yes, you're going to have to deal with a whole lot of shit from the army of wannabes, cheaters, man-sluts, and general fuckwads that deluge every sub female's inbox. I don't know what the proportion is, but I'd definitely say that a sizeable chunk of the male profiles here are from men who who think that because you're a sub fem then you're a slut (of course having "slut" in your nick doesn't exactly help here)

So... I'd say be patient. If you don't want to compromise then don't (hell it's your life!), but be careful not to complain to much if it takes a while for him to rock up - that might come over a whiney - which is probably not the sort of thing that your ideal man would have much time for.

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RE: Are there any TRUE dominants on this site... or is ... - 9/15/2013 12:24:41 PM

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

A female friend of mine, who is quite intelligent but only so-so pretty, has dated some extremely wealthy men. She once said to me, "Red, after a man dates enough, looks don't matter anymore. Men like happy girls." And she's happy and loves her life.

Your friend deserves a Sunny Quote of the Day for that!

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RE: Are there any TRUE dominants on this site... or is ... - 9/15/2013 1:35:45 PM

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To the OP sometimes I think some folks (including me sometimes) are just to sensitive for words and just like hollering at people. I for one do believe your first post was unsettling, but it sounds like your angry with the type of male "dominants" who have contacted you and you are looking for validation for those feelings. But it is true everyone has their own definition of what a dominant and submissive is for them. You simply need to stick to what works for you. You DO NOT have to change your nickname if you don't want too...you could...if you feel this will help you gain better attention, but realize this is the internet. There is a lot of sh*t out there. Just be careful and safe. Join some local groups and read up on some stuff. There are TRUE dominants out there and one out there for you.

What a gracious response.

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RE: Are there any TRUE dominants on this site... or is ... - 9/15/2013 6:54:36 PM

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Truly dominant men... men who are alpha males, are harder to come by. It's easy to find some guy who wants to own you. Its not so easy to find a man who owns himself. A man who dominates their own lives first, and themselves. Not just some guy who calls himself a Dom. Do you compel obedience in others? Are you a masters of your life and your surroundings? Or just a little boy to insecure to handle a woman in any situation other than her obedience?

By definition, a dominant man is not possessive, because possessiveness is a sign of insecurity, which is a sign of submissiveness.

Put down the 50 Shades and burn it please.

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RE: Are there any TRUE dominants on this site... or is ... - 9/15/2013 7:14:56 PM

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Half of Texas is under a burn ban, so how can it be burned?

Time for bed...got a busy day tomorrow and a website to cuss at.

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RE: Are there any TRUE dominants on this site... or is ... - 9/15/2013 7:27:28 PM

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Half of Texas is under a burn ban, so how can it be burned?

Time for bed...got a busy day tomorrow and a website to cuss at.

Wait, they still do that?!?!

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RE: Are there any TRUE dominants on this site... or is ... - 9/15/2013 8:32:28 PM

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Ban open fires? Of course they do, it's common here during droughts.

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RE: Are there any TRUE dominants on this site... or is ... - 9/15/2013 8:48:39 PM

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burn, throw away, toss it into the ocean, tear it up...I don't care....just get rid of the fucker.

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RE: Are there any TRUE dominants on this site... or is ... - 9/15/2013 10:40:12 PM

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Truly dominant men... men who are alpha males, are harder to come by. It's easy to find some guy who wants to own you. Its not so easy to find a man who owns himself. A man who dominates their own lives first, and themselves. Not just some guy who calls himself a Dom. Do you compel obedience in others? Are you a masters of your life and your surroundings? Or just a little boy to insecure to handle a woman in any situation other than her obedience?

By definition, a dominant man is not possessive, because possessiveness is a sign of insecurity, which is a sign of submissiveness.

Put down the 50 Shades and burn it please.

The male lead in those books is both extremely insecure and extremely possessive.

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RE: Are there any TRUE dominants on this site... or is ... - 9/15/2013 11:15:53 PM

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The male lead in those books is both extremely insecure and extremely possessive.

So, the male lead is a submissive? I had thought... no, nevermind... this is more than I want to know about this book.

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RE: Are there any TRUE dominants on this site... or is ... - 9/15/2013 11:21:55 PM

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RE: Are there any TRUE dominants on this site... or is ... - 9/15/2013 11:22:30 PM

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Slightly rephrasing the OP might have yielded much better results. It's best to ask a question and solicit responses instead of telling people what to think. You could've said something like..."What do you think makes someone a dominant man?"... and then gone on to answer the question yourself..."I find that truly dominant men are hard to come by. I want an alpha male, someone who dominates themselves and their own lives first, not just some guy who calls himself a dom...

I believe that approach would have made all the difference in how people responded. Something to consider, both on and off the forums.

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RE: Are there any TRUE dominants on this site... or is ... - 9/15/2013 11:25:55 PM

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There are people that post on CollarMe for other reason than the website is meant for. One such person did this. He posted and two women meant him at a coffee shop, he drug their drinks and than tried to get them back to his room in Greenbelt. They did not go, beware, be very lyre of people like this.

Wait... people on the Internet aren't always what they seem to be? Some people don't have my best interest at heart? On the Internet? Are you sure we are talking about the same Internet?

Pictures and reference articles or it never happened.

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RE: Are there any TRUE dominants on this site... or is ... - 9/16/2013 6:48:42 AM

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How does one "be lyre" of someone? I mean, one can trumpet one's prowess, fiddle with the truth, drum up some attention, that I can see. Accordion to what the OP said, someone's gotten into a piccolo and was exposed to some sax and violins. Shame, really. Oh, and...

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RE: Are there any TRUE dominants on this site... or is ... - 9/16/2013 6:51:23 AM

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How does one "be lyre" of someone? I mean, one can trumpet one's prowess, fiddle with the truth, drum up some attention, that I can see.

"be leery" perhaps?

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RE: Are there any TRUE dominants on this site... or is ... - 9/16/2013 6:53:32 AM

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How does one "be lyre" of someone? I mean, one can trumpet one's prowess, fiddle with the truth, drum up some attention, that I can see. What the OP seems to be saying is someone's gotten into a piccolo and was exposed to some sax and violins. Shame, really. Oh, and...

xxx

They can also toot their own horn....

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RE: Are there any TRUE dominants on this site... or is ... - 10/4/2013 11:06:48 AM

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ORIGINAL: whtsub4blckdom

Truly dominant men... men who are alpha males, are harder to come by. It's easy to find some guy who wants to own you. Its not so easy to find a man who owns himself. A man who dominates their own lives first, and themselves. Not just some guy who calls himself a Dom. Do you compel obedience in others? Are you a masters of your life and your surroundings? Or just a little boy to insecure to handle a woman in any situation other than her obedience?

By definition, a dominant man is not possessive, because possessiveness is a sign of insecurity, which is a sign of submissiveness.

Hmmm, hmmm, hmmm...

So, first you ask if there are any TRUE doms here. Then you go on to tell us what they all should look like and the qualities they should possess? Then you inform us that insecurity is a sign of sumbmissiveness? And all within one of your very first posts!

First off, welcome to the boards. While this may be what you currently believe? It's certainly not a universal truth. The "one true wayers" may agree with you, or staunchly disagree, but you all fall under the same umbrella. I suggest you step out from under that and take a moment to realize that people, relationships and definitions of titles (especially in this "lifesstyle") tend to differ greatly. What works for you may not work at all for another. That person may even self identify as white submissive, just like you do!

How do I know this? Because, I too, am a white sub, and sweetie, I am far from insecure. Nor do I go around trying to define dominant men for other people. I let them define themselves. And then, if we happen to be compatible? We take it from there. If not? Does not make them any less dom, or me less sub. It simply makes us incompatible. No harm, no foul, we both go merrily on our way without me decrying their lack of domliness.

Best of luck to you...

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RE: Are there any TRUE dominants on this site... or is ... - 10/4/2013 4:05:33 PM

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Truly dominant men... men who are alpha males, are harder to come by. It's easy to find some guy who wants to own you. Its not so easy to find a man who owns himself. A man who dominates their own lives first, and themselves. Not just some guy who calls himself a Dom. Do you compel obedience in others? Are you a masters of your life and your surroundings? Or just a little boy to insecure to handle a woman in any situation other than her obedience?

By definition, a dominant man is not possessive, because possessiveness is a sign of insecurity, which is a sign of submissiveness.

By definition, a dominant man won't abide bait like this from a SAM. Is this the best you could come up with to create a cyber version of "is that all you got Master?"

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