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ORIGINAL: NiceAnimal

On a philosophical level, real world power is ultimately about being the most unaffected, or the most committed or willful. In this, those who want recognition, are the weakest, so the key is both vision/drive and detachment from outcomes.

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss
To the original poster,
If you want to be respected, you must earn it. Here and everywhere. Let's look at your post, shall we?

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ORIGINAL: Gauge

So for your first post you start off by asking if there are TRUE dominants on this site. Do you realize that you are merely one poster out of about 50 this week to ask the very same question? Between all the "FAKES AND PHONY" posts and the "TRUE SUB" or "TRUE DOMINANT" these types of posts are starting to sound like fingernails on a chalkboard. And while your question may be a valid one, there are many ways to ask this question without pointing fingers at everyone and exclaiming loudly, "MY OPINION IS TRUTH!"

Please define a true dominant. If you say it is one that is in control of their life, fine... when they get hit by a bus, were they not a TRUE dominant? I mean, come on... hit by a bus... they lacked the control to stop the bus. And if you think that wanting to possess a woman is a sign of weakness just because your submission is so far and above anything else about you, that a male dominant should be groveling at your feet worshiping your subliness... yeah, not my definition. I don't know if you have read any profiles here or not, but go page through some of the forum regulars profiles and then tell me that some women think that a male wanting to possess a female is a sign of weakness. In YOUR eyes it may be, but not in theirs. This is always the problem with sweeping generalizations being driven by ill formed opinions, you wind up falling on your face and skinning your nose in the process.

So, how about you start again? Maybe try and get to know some people on the forums rather than coming here and insisting that your way of seeing things is far superior to what we think is right for ourselves. BDSM cannot be pigeonholed into any one category because there are far too many different permutations of individual preferences and beliefs. In fact, that is the very reason they make chocolate and vanilla ice cream, some people do not like chocolate... they are freaks, but there it is.

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ORIGINAL: metamorfosis

Seconding the suggestion to change your name. You're not a sub, OP, you are one big list of demands.

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ORIGINAL: SerWhiteTiger

There used to be true dominants here, but I ate them. Tasty like candy.

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ORIGINAL: SunTzuSwe
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Sure there are some serious and good dommes here, but it's very much in the eye of the beholder.

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ORIGINAL: JeffBC

*chuckles* Out of all the BDSM labels that float around in our marriage the one that actually feels right is "mine"... it feels right in a vanilla context too and I mean it literally. In point of fact, I want to literally own a human being. That sounds at least reasonably possessive to me. I'll be sure to tell the CEO (large company) that I'm meeting this week that he should please handle me with kid gloves because I'm so "submissive". It'll be a great joke as an ice-breaker.

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist
"is that all you got Master?"

FYI: From experience I can say that phrase is among the worst as safe word phrases......

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ORIGINAL: KYsissy

I suspect the OP has received an avalanche of emails from guys who like the concept of being a dom because they see that as a way to have BJs on tap and this thread is a reflection of her frustration.

You will receive lots of emails that will go nowhere. It will take time to find a good partner.
In my case, it happened after I pretty much gave up and connected with a woman who was not looking either.
The stars must have aligned .