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AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Tributes? (9/18/2013 2:07:47 AM)
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A number of reasons:
- They are only looking for a pro-client or findomme type relationship - ie, one where the sub hands over money either as part of the play, or in payment for specific sessions. Asking for a tribute up-front weeds out folks who are never going to pay.
- They have heard that posing as a domme online and asking for tribute is a way to make easy money
- They are swamped with a huge number of subs messaging them (often inappropriately) and this is a way of slowing the flow, so to speak
- They can. There are a lot of male subs online, and few female dominants. As such they can afford to put frivolous requirements in place, because they know that they are a rare and desirable commodity. If you don't pay, no problem, maybe one of the other thirty guys who contacted her today will pay
- They are scammers and this is a technique that is working for them currently
- They are attempting to portray the 'untouchable goddess'. Some people get off on inferiority, knowing they are never good enough unless they fork over cash and/or they get off on the idea that this woman is so super awesome special that she deserves to be spoiled without giving anything in return. 'Tribute me' attracts this type of submissive.
- There are submissives out there who have no desire to spend time cultivating a relationship and getting to know someone, and prefer to fork over cash for a quick thrill.
Men don't tend to ask for tributes. If I had to guess, it's a number of reasons but mostly supply and demand. Lots of horny guys, less horny girls, so the girls can be more demanding. Male dominants here get a lot less male than female dominants. (or at least, it seems male dominants seeking female subs do, I don't know how that breaks down for male dominants seeking male subs). If I was looking for a Master, I'd have a lot of choice and not so much competition - if a guy asked for money to talk to me, I'd walk on. A male sub seeking a Mistress has less options and more competition, and so might be more likely to take the chance and pay. Add to that the whole 'wallet rape' thing tends to be a male sub fantasy - perhaps something to do with the traditional role of men as the person who earns and spends the money. Off the top of my head I don't think I've ever spoken to a woman who gets off on handing over tribute, but I've spoken to a lot of men who do.
You know what you want - stick to your standards. Yes, some of them are making a quick buck, some of them might have more going on. It's not in itself a bad or wrong thing, just annoying because you don't want that and keep coming up against it.
My advice - go out into your local community and meet real people. The numbers will be less skewed against you and I'd be very surprised if anyone demanded a tribute for a nice chat at a munch.
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