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Changing times..... - 9/26/2013 12:56:55 PM   
MasterTitlis


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Status: offline 		About 31 years ago clarity was given to Me with what I had been struggling with since I was 7. I was a true Dom. This came to light in a conversation I had over drinks with a friend and his wife. She was much older than him and She is a Domme. She and I had an instant chemistry as if We/We had been cut from the same cloth.

During the discussion I had shared how it was a struggle trying to understand what I felt and who I was as a young boy. It was as if a weight was lifted off Me when I realized I was the Dom in My family. My father, mother and sisters were all submissive. When I would look for strength and clarity from them they were looking at Me for this. This carried over to school as well. When I entered a crowd it was as if people knew something I did not. I knew it was not a reaction to a good looking guy as I was "average" or that the big jock had just walked up. And what was even more challenging is that people, sometimes total strangers within a couple minutes would share things with Me and even ask My opinion.

And so My quest began. I had such a hunger to learn more about this. But back then there was no internet and publications were scarce if available at all depending on where you were located. I was fortunate in that I was in the military and it took Me to Asia and Europe. I learned so much while overseas.

The best part of My evolution in this wonderful life is all the 1,000's of people I have met, learned from, worked with or trained. It has been a great journey and one that will not end until My last day.

In today's world it is much different as far as information. Do not believe everything you read or hear. Take all the information you come in contact with and filter what seems to be best suited for you. Remember, We/we are all individuals. Alot of people may wear a size 8 shoe but they all wear differently.

So, for those who are seeking knowledge, be receptive and be patient. I have found there is no "fast track" and some times it takes a few samplings to find the bet fit. When it is presented you will know if your receptive and open. For those who tend to easily romanticize remember your passions may cloud what is clear because you want it so bad.

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RE: Changing times..... - 9/26/2013 3:25:05 PM   
frazzle


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Status: offline 		I'm seeing a "castlerealm" journal entry, not a question or discussion point.
Or is this not working for you and your hoping this "ad" will get you laid???

edited for wrong glasses

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RE: Changing times..... - 9/26/2013 3:37:17 PM   
OsideGirl


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Status: offline 		To quote myself: I'm sorry, I must have missed something. Was there something you wanted to discuss?

And I dare you to try and define "True Dom".

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RE: Changing times..... - 9/26/2013 3:55:51 PM   
lilcracker


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Status: offline 		Edited to say instead...true dom is all in the definition and my definition of true dom is very negative.

< Message edited by lilcracker -- 9/26/2013 3:57:32 PM >

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RE: Changing times..... - 9/26/2013 6:03:28 PM   
DarkSteven


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ORIGINAL: MasterTitlis

Do not believe everything you read or hear.


Well, I have to admit that some guy I never heard of who gives himself the title of Master and claims that everyone submits to him when he walks into a room, is not one of the things I'm inclined to believe readily.

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RE: Changing times..... - 9/26/2013 6:58:25 PM   
MasterTitlis


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Status: offline 		I was simply sharing a moment in time. It was not taken from others writing nor was it implied anyone should refer to Me as Master. This is a position I have earned as all those who know Me would validate or confirm as well as "Trainer". We are born who We/we are, whether Dom or other. I did not realize their were such superficial egos here? Hense My point, about changing times, available information on the internet and its' validity.

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RE: Changing times..... - 9/26/2013 7:17:55 PM   
OsideGirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterTitlis
This is a position I have earned as all those who know Me would validate or confirm as well as "Trainer".
Oh, Lord it just got better.

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I did not realize their were such superficial egos here? Hense My point, about changing times, available information on the internet and its' validity.


You posted a lecture in a discussion forum. So, really, pot meet kettle....

What you've essentially chosen as your first interaction with the forums is to walk into a room full of strangers, thump your chest and preach at them without knowing anything about them, other than the fact that they're in the same room that you are.





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RE: Changing times..... - 9/26/2013 7:48:49 PM   
NuevaVida


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Status: offline 		Welcome to the forums. It's awesome you discovered your life orientation and are happy in it.

Please understand, a lot of us have also been living according to our orientations, and are in long term relationships. We come here and talk about our relationships, ask questions, and answer questions from newcomers who are new to discovering who they are. This place can be full of laughs, education from wise participants, and some cut throat debates. There are varying opinions here, and we (mostly) accept our differences from each other (and when we don't, we debate/discuss them).

Newcomers to the forums are welcome. But when newcomers start a thread offering advice to those who didn't ask for it, there can be some skeptical responses. We don't know you, and we've been doing this for years and years.

So while your intention may have been good, your post may have raised some eyebrows.

Kind of like joining a new golf club and introducing yourself by advising all the long time golfers to be patient with their swing.



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RE: Changing times..... - 9/26/2013 8:06:26 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		How kind of you to come and pontificate at us. Because obviously we are too unenlightened to engage in conversation with. Or to understand what we do.

Thanks for sharing.

And have you considered that this attitude, which comes across as highly arrogant, may well be why you're single? It's ironic that in a forum filled with people in successful, long term relationships it's the guy who can't get a date who is telling everyone what is true.

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RE: Changing times..... - 9/26/2013 8:18:10 PM   
RedMagic1


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterTitlis
During the discussion I had shared how it was a struggle trying to understand what I felt and who I was as a young boy. It was as if a weight was lifted off Me when I realized I was the Dom in My family. My father, mother and sisters were all submissive. When I would look for strength and clarity from them they were looking at Me for this. This carried over to school as well. When I entered a crowd it was as if people knew something I did not. I knew it was not a reaction to a good looking guy as I was "average" or that the big jock had just walked up. And what was even more challenging is that people, sometimes total strangers within a couple minutes would share things with Me and even ask My opinion.

I don't think there's much connection between these traits and a desire for sexual dominance (or submission). There are plenty of guys who want to submit in bed because they are in charge all day and they want to take some of the pressure off, or guys who feel powerless in their day-to-day interactions and take it out on the wife when they get home.

There's an interesting conversation to be had, at the very least. This thread doesn't seem too promising though. Maybe take yourself less seriously next time? That would be my advice.

Welcome to the message boards. Best wishes to you.

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RE: Changing times..... - 9/26/2013 8:36:27 PM   
SerWhiteTiger


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ORIGINAL: MasterTitlis
It was not taken from others writing nor was it implied anyone should refer to Me as Master. This is a position I have earned as all those who know Me would validate or confirm


If this were true, you wouldn't have to say it.

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RE: Changing times..... - 9/27/2013 6:44:14 AM   
JeffBC


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterTitlis
About 31 years ago clarity was given to Me with what I had been struggling with since I was 7. I was a true Dom. This came to light in a conversation I had over drinks with a friend and his wife. She was much older than him and She is a Domme. She and I had an instant chemistry as if We/We had been cut from the same cloth.

I sympathize with this feeling. There are a few dominants on this board that I resonate with. And yes, it was tempting when I was brand new to all of this to think of myself as the obvious measure of "true" or "natural" or whatever. Quickly, however, in engaging with the BDSM community I came to understand that there were lots and lots of types of "dominant". I'm just one of them. The people I resonate with don't prove that collectively we are "true". It simply proves that we are similar.

quote:

During the discussion I had shared how it was a struggle trying to understand what I felt and who I was as a young boy. It was as if a weight was lifted off Me when I realized I was the Dom in My family. My father, mother and sisters were all submissive. When I would look for strength and clarity from them they were looking at Me for this. This carried over to school as well. When I entered a crowd it was as if people knew something I did not. I knew it was not a reaction to a good looking guy as I was "average" or that the big jock had just walked up. And what was even more challenging is that people, sometimes total strangers within a couple minutes would share things with Me and even ask My opinion.

Again, I sympathize. Yes, I experience this also... oft-times to my dismay.

quote:

The best part of My evolution in this wonderful life is all the 1,000's of people I have met, learned from, worked with or trained. It has been a great journey and one that will not end until My last day.

Again, I agree... although I don't really separate out my dominance from my life so I'd just say that my life was a great journy.

quote:

In today's world it is much different as far as information. Do not believe everything you read or hear. Take all the information you come in contact with and filter what seems to be best suited for you. Remember, We/we are all individuals. Alot of people may wear a size 8 shoe but they all wear differently.

Words to live by in any context.

Now, let me suggest that you have committed a social faux-pas here. Unsolicited advice is seldom received well -- particularly from strangers. My advice to you is to stick around here and do some more learning. Clearly the breadth of your viewpoint is sorely lacking and there's nothing like the internet to expose you to a wide variety of viewpoints very quickly. I'd advise you to dispense with this business of "trueness" and instead just try to understand what you are reading on it's own terms.

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RE: Changing times..... - 9/27/2013 8:49:03 AM   
SailingBum


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You do realize that you come across as a pompous ass hat who clearly is clueless as how to play well with others. Those group of strangers that spoke with you. In my lil world we call that "polite conversation", ya know make the "new guy" feel welcome. It was not because somehow magically within a couple of minutes all of these ppl considered you a <what was the word you used> Ah yes "true Dom"

For the most part the posters are a friendly bunch..except the ones that aren't. So if you tone down your BS ppl may respond in a positive manner.

BadOne

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RE: Changing times..... - 9/27/2013 2:58:40 PM   
HarryVanWinkle


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quote:

To quote myself: I'm sorry, I must have missed something. Was there something you wanted to discuss?


I think the subject was what a true, masterly master and domly dom our wise and knowledgeable OP is.

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RE: Changing times..... - 9/27/2013 4:08:29 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Okay, I apologize for being less than welcoming. You happened to push several of my buttons.

1. Calling yourself a Master. I know several people I consider Masters, and none of them refer to themselves as such. And some who do use the title, who I think don't deserve it. So I'm automatically leery of any self-described Masters.
2. A Dom at the age of 7? Come on.
3. The use of the term "true Dom". That term is almost an inside joke in the community.
4. Your parents both being submissive to you. In my book, that's being a child who is left undisciplined.
5. Throughout I see the desire for power, but not the desire to use it well. The authority, but not the accountability.
6. The idea that people sense a deep aura of Domliness when you enter a room, seems 50 Shades-ish.
7. When people walk up to me and spill their guts, I assume there's something wrong with them. You on the other hand, attribute it to yourself.
8. You close by giving unsolicited advice. I learned not to do that decades ago.


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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

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RE: Changing times..... - 9/27/2013 4:20:39 PM   
crazyml


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Status: offline 		Yep, in fairness I share some of your experiences, but I'm sure that in retrospect you'll see how you might have worded things slightly differently.

And this...

quote:

ORIGINAL: JeffBC


Now, let me suggest that you have committed a social faux-pas here. Unsolicited advice is seldom received well -- particularly from strangers. My advice to you is to stick around here and do some more learning. Clearly the breadth of your viewpoint is sorely lacking and there's nothing like the internet to expose you to a wide variety of viewpoints very quickly. I'd advise you to dispense with this business of "trueness" and instead just try to understand what you are reading on it's own terms.



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RE: Changing times..... - 9/27/2013 4:32:18 PM   
JeffBC


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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
6. The idea that people sense a deep aura of Domliness when you enter a room, seems 50 Shades-ish.

This I do not understand. Stripped of all it's BDSM-ness this seems to be a fairly common experience.

To elaborate a bit, if I "walk into a room" and whatever's going on there is well under control then I'm just one of the crowd. If, however, there is confusion then pretty quickly people will start looking to me. Now obviously there must be something in my body language or patterns of speech which make this occur but it's not intentional. In my mind this is exactly what the phrase "natural born leader" means... or at least the most obvious outward indication of it.

This is different then when there is already a well organized group and for whatever reasons i want to take it over. Then there is a power contest and someone wins and someone loses.

But yeah, people DO seem to "sense my deep aura of Domliness" in some fashion and I don't think that's accidental. I suspect such things are deeply ingrained in us as a part of a highly social species. It occurs fairly naturally when it ought to occur.

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RE: Changing times..... - 9/27/2013 5:25:00 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MasterTitlis
I was simply sharing a moment in time. It was not taken from others writing nor was it implied anyone should refer to Me as Master. This is a position I have earned as all those who know Me would validate or confirm as well as "Trainer". We are born who We/we are, whether Dom or other. I did not realize their were such superficial egos here? Hense My point, about changing times, available information on the internet and its' validity.

I've tried really hard not to laugh.

I did not succeed.



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RE: Changing times..... - 9/27/2013 5:39:39 PM   
SeekingTrinity


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OP, I wanted to thank you for your post and reply! This is literally some of the funniest shit I've read in a long time. I was in a car accident on Wednesday and I've been hurting pretty badly. I seriously needed a good laugh and this thread paid off in spades.

Though you probably should have added a disclaimer in the title. Id have popped a Vicodin before reading and spared myself some pain that reignited due to laughing so hard.

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RE: Changing times..... - 9/27/2013 5:42:46 PM   
KYsissy


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quote:

ORIGINAL: JeffBC

quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
6. The idea that people sense a deep aura of Domliness when you enter a room, seems 50 Shades-ish.

This I do not understand. Stripped of all it's BDSM-ness this seems to be a fairly common experience.

To elaborate a bit, if I "walk into a room" and whatever's going on there is well under control then I'm just one of the crowd. If, however, there is confusion then pretty quickly people will start looking to me. Now obviously there must be something in my body language or patterns of speech which make this occur but it's not intentional. In my mind this is exactly what the phrase "natural born leader" means... or at least the most obvious outward indication of it.

This is different then when there is already a well organized group and for whatever reasons i want to take it over. Then there is a power contest and someone wins and someone loses.

But yeah, people DO seem to "sense my deep aura of Domliness" in some fashion and I don't think that's accidental. I suspect such things are deeply ingrained in us as a part of a highly social species. It occurs fairly naturally when it ought to occur.


Yeah that's all well and good but i have the same thing happen with me. I have run into a burning apartment building to pound on doors and get everyone out. I have saved a guy from drowning when several canoes tipped over at a very very bad spot and i took control of the situation and while all the others were running around panicking, i was grabbing people by their shoulders and was getting a head count. There was one guy pinned under water, waving his hand, i reached down and yanked him out. When the shit hits the fan at work, i get the the turd pile thrown in my lap and I direct 50 or so blue collar guys and we put a shine on that turd.

But if the right lady gets me alone, i am utterly powerless.

I know, the public persona is not necessarily the private one.



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