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RE: Non sexual pampering of your Dom. foreplay? intimac... - 10/6/2013 12:53:06 AM

TopDawgKY

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ORIGINAL: casidi75
Sometimes it leads to a session of passion, other times it did not. Either way it was always was stimulating. It also seem to leave me with a sense of fulfillment. I find this connection missing with my professional Dom. Is this common emotions for subs that serve their Dom’s, or was I just well-conditioned and trained?

I think the key for you was the relationship you developed with her over time. It's far more intimate than a pro dom could be, IMHO. Over time in any good relationship the level of intimacy deepens. See, you knew not only that she wanted something done and would appreciate it, but how best to do it.

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RE: Non sexual pampering of your Dom. foreplay? intimac... - 10/6/2013 8:16:57 AM

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One of the sexiest things my sweetie has ever done for me was buy a tea kettle and my brand of tea when he was courting me.

It was incredibly thoughtful- and showed that he was paying attention to ME.
The things we do for each other are the things that make our relationship strong. I was married for ever to a man who literally from one week to the next didn't touch me. Unless he wanted sex. The utter lack of an intimate bond between us was painful, and was the demise of our marriage. Now, I touch my sweetie every chance I get. I love taking off my shoes and playing with his feet under the table at restaurants. Our touch reinforces our emotional bond, and makes us happy.

Last night we were at our local dungeon - I was manning the door, he was DM'ing - it was fairly slow, and every so often he would stick his head through the curtains and blow me a kiss. It made me laugh and melted my heart a little (more). I had to laugh because I kept waiting for him to yell "Bazzinga!" a la Sheldon.

It was a very simple way of connecting with me, and very cute. And intimate. And if you take the long view, it could be considered foreplay because it reinforces our sexual connection.

I have to say, with me and my sweetie, every thing we do together is foreplay - because doing things together is reinforcing our intimacy and connections and hard experience has shown me that without these things, sex sucks. (for me)

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RE: Non sexual pampering of your Dom. foreplay? intimac... - 10/7/2013 8:15:34 AM

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ORIGINAL: casidi75

I lost a wife in 2011, I found serving her with foot baths and massage, pedicures, manicures, bathing her, brushing her hair, serving her in nonsexual ways was a very rewarding form of intimacy for me. Sometimes it leads to a session of passion, other times it did not. Either way it was always was stimulating. It also seem to leave me with a sense of fulfillment. I find this connection missing with my professional Dom. Is this common emotions for subs that serve their Dom’s, or was I just well-conditioned and trained?

I think it is common for a lot of subs, and I think peppermint is right that it also has to do with feeling needed.

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RE: Non sexual pampering of your Dom. foreplay? intimac... - 10/7/2013 8:20:50 AM

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I especially like the last part that you wrote.

If done right, D/s relationships no longer feel like D/s. Instead, both parties just feel like loving partners who are expressing their love in the way that feels most natural to them. At least that's how it is for me.

You remind me of a post I read once written by a slave who was desperate because sometimes she was ill and could not do the house work for her master - it upset the balance.

I read about a master who denied his slave access to the hospital where he lay ill, because she must not see him weak.

Different strokes for different people to be sure, but - somehow it wrenched my heart to read it.

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