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RE: Confused...... - 7/3/2006 9:01:44 AM

MsKatHouston

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I agree with those who stated you need to learn what it is you want. There is nothing wrong with being a novice and having limits. In fact, if you are unsure, it is better to be up front about your limits than to say you have none and are open minded to anything when that is not really the case.

Also, keep in mind that with experience, those limits may change as you are exposed to various situations. Learn yourself and get out there.

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RE: Confused...... - 7/3/2006 9:03:31 AM

thetammyjo

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ORIGINAL: Txtruemalesub

i do not know if i am a slave or a sub. Can there be a such thing as a sub/slave?
i was talking with a Mistress, and the Master started talking to me and i asked Him a question about "respect". He told me that slaves has no rights. So slaves have to do whatever the Master or Mistress wants.
Well with a Mistress i am willing to let Her push all of my limits as long as things are taking slow with them.
A Master i have limits with. Some i would let Him push, and others i would leave as hard limits.
So what do i put on my profile? sub, slave, or sub/slave?

What do you mean by these words? You might do well to define them to yourself and on your profile.

To me, submissive is a personality trait and a method of interacting with someones. A slave is a role or a job if you like and it does not have to be someone who is submissive at all or even most of the time.

In short, don't agree to be anyone's anything unless your definitions are the same or you are setting yourself up for at least intellectual arguments down the line and at worse unhappiness.

< Message edited by thetammyjo -- 7/3/2006 9:04:32 AM >

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RE: Confused...... - 7/3/2006 12:45:20 PM

mTxsub4Mistress

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ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig

I'm not saying you don't have a good reason, but it looks shady to moi. Perhaps I'm talking about my confusion in figuring out why you are 3 different people/per thread. M

let me explain......

i have 2 profiles as of right now, Yes i "had" 3 though.
mslave2bcollared is my frist one. i was on it when i was talkin to a Domme (a switch) She is living with a Dom. Since i have the word slave in there questions was not asked. i talked with the Domme for about a month i think. Then when me and the Dom started talkin He said that a slave has no rights. i told Him that i do have some limits. So even though i was being considered by Her He said that all He would allow in His home was slaves. Since this has happened 3 different times with 3 different people, i felt like i was leading people on. So to stop that, and to keep from wasting Their time and my time i made another profile.
Txtruemalesub.... a friend on here gave me some adivce about the words i used . the word "true" screams out fake. Now had i known that i would not have used it. So i deleted it. No Longer on here.i only had it up for 1 day. So how shady can that be?
the 3rd profile which is
mTxsub4Mistress that is mentioned in my profile mslave2bcollared. Matter of fact that is the only thing it says in that profile.
So how can things seem shady? How can i be hiding anything from A/anyone?
How can i be hiding anything if i came in here and admitted that i am the one that had Txtruemalesub profile?
i did that so E/everyone would know. So i do not see how anything seems shady.

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RE: Confused...... - 7/3/2006 7:31:28 PM

cynthiamarie

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Maybe you should put these name changes, and why, in the journal of your profile to show your growth.

Some people keep a half dozen profile names all at the same time...I've had more than one sub approach me when I've seen the same pic a dozen other times under different names. Makes people be more wary, that's all. Glad you've found just the right name now. :)

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