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LadyHugs -> RE: When You Find that one that took so Looong... (7/4/2006 10:46:38 AM)
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Dear MistyMenthal, Ladies and Gentlemen;
Patience is always required when a person wants something so very much. Mostly with ourselves.
As time passes, tastes change as well as needs and wants change. Exposure to others also influences a re-evaluation on what will be our ideal match. However, it has been my observation that those who have nothing in common but, attempt to change the other person--fails. The creating by another is not authentic to the person who is the target of drastic change. Compromises but, only gentle compromises can be seen as flexibility however, over doing the compromising just builds resentment later as it is forced beyond the ability to be flexible.
My own personal experiences, my tastes have changed from when I started and what standards I have today. However, I look at the core and not the package, e.g. race, sex, description. I also know there is no such thing as a perfect dominant/submissive, so I look for the 80/20 ratio, where they fit 80% of what I seek in a slave. Since, I do not seek for sexual gratification but of an energy gratification, perhaps my wiring draws to different slave types. That said, I will also submit for consideration, that slaves must form a formula or recipe if you will of what ratio of perfection they can live with, in seeking a dominant. Indeed there are rigid boundries, to which is a deal breaker or shuts off any further consideration. But, truthfully, I look but I do not chase. I prefer the slave to pursue and choose.
As I wait, I do not stop living or actively participate in the community at large. I still mentor, I still give presentations, I still play with a wide variety of individuals on a BDSM or S&M level but, these individuals are not exclusively 'my property.' I have owned slaves and they are a responsibility. Perhaps the break does me well, as to replentish my energy and strength for the slave who yet has not approached. I am who I am and must choose the best match for me and hope the slave who approaches does the same.
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
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