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RE: When You Find that one that took so Looong... - 7/4/2006 9:27:41 AM   
WetHotGoddess


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Status: offline 		Aww c'mon people.. get real. 
Let's be realistic here and admit that there is no such thing as forever love within the human race.  You cloak your needs in words "honor" and "respect" and pretend that there is someone out there in cyberspace who gives a rats ass about you as a person.  You are here because you have a sexual perversion.. but to make yourself feel better you pretend you are virtuous.
 
Your "one love" will fuck you over in a heartbeat for a piece of ass.  And all your waiting will be for a lie.
 
This has been Ariel's first controversial post. 
 
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RE: When You Find that one that took so Looong... - 7/4/2006 9:29:05 AM   
Caretakr


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RE: When You Find that one that took so Looong... - 7/4/2006 9:39:56 AM   
TxBlkMistress


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistyMenthal

I was listenening to a Mistress Who was talking
about about how She has been waiting 10 years
for the right one.Wanting nothing less
then what She was looking for.

It made me realize how Serious people are to
settle for nothing less, {meaning that they could say Yea I'm Collared or I have a Slave now.}
That they want Exactly what the Profile says,
no matter how long it takes.

It makes me feel good to see that out there.

So what are Your thoughts?

BLOW ME A KISS, Misty


Not sure how long I've been waiting, but it's been a while as well.  I just don't see the point in settling, especially since I've waited this long, I wouldn't  be happy in the long run.  I totally agree with her.   

A lot of slaves out there just don't understand why I won't just "pick" someone, even though they have absolutely nothing in common and want totally diffent kinds of relationships, so this refreshing to see that I'm not alone in these thoughts.  Not saying I'll be unbending in little things, I'm not that rigid, but in my over all goal, no I won't settle.

So....I sit and wait....lol

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RE: When You Find that one that took so Looong... - 7/4/2006 10:04:40 AM   
DivaZya


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Status: offline 		What caught My attention in this topic is the optimism, breath of fresh air ~
Not about love - but more the reality of not constantly picking up the wrong offers and being continually dissapointed or burnt out.
I do consider Myself to be amazingly lucky to have found My Primary -  it's much more clear to Me now after reading through topics that go over and over the attributes desired.
Now I dont' need to settle - though it took years before he was even ready in his life journey to meet and belong to Me.

There are many good natured, useful hopefulls out there!
If I can encourage those worthies to continue, and perhaps offer them a safe landing as a breather in their search for One who is suited for them, that's what works for Me now. That is one reason I keep the profile, not that I am a baby sitter, because those that come to Me with honest submissive needs and are accepted specifically as a temporary -will- pull their weight too.




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RE: When You Find that one that took so Looong... - 7/4/2006 10:05:57 AM   
Caretakr


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DivaZya

What caught My attention in this topic is the optimism, breath of fresh air ~
Not about love - but more the reality of not constantly picking up the wrong offers and being continually dissapointed or burnt out.
I do consider Myself to be amazingly lucky to have found My Primary -  it's much more clear to Me now after reading through topics that go over and over the attributes desired.
Now I dont' need to settle - though it took years before he was even ready in his life journey to meet and belong to Me.

There are many good natured, useful hopefulls out there!
If I can encourage those worthies to continue, and perhaps offer them a safe landing as a breather in their search for One who is suited for them, that's what works for Me now. That is one reason I keep the profile, not that I am a baby sitter, because those that come to Me with honest submissive needs and are accepted specifically as a temporary -will- pull their weight too.





Settling is the truest masochism of all.

< Message edited by Caretakr -- 7/4/2006 10:07:40 AM >

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RE: When You Find that one that took so Looong... - 7/4/2006 10:21:23 AM   
juliaoceania


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quote:

ORIGINAL: WetHotGoddess

Aww c'mon people.. get real. 
Let's be realistic here and admit that there is no such thing as forever love within the human race.  You cloak your needs in words "honor" and "respect" and pretend that there is someone out there in cyberspace who gives a rats ass about you as a person.  You are here because you have a sexual perversion.. but to make yourself feel better you pretend you are virtuous.
 
Your "one love" will fuck you over in a heartbeat for a piece of ass.  And all your waiting will be for a lie.
 
This has been Ariel's first controversial post. 
 
I am prepared for the flames, as I am wearing the asbestos armor.


I am not going to flame you! This is the way you see life from your perspective! I would say that if I had your experiences I may feel the same way, but I have probably had your experiences (or worse as the case may be) and I do not view the world like this. I remember when I was fresh out of my first marriage though, I viewed the world much like you do....

That being said.. there comes the question related to your post.. is there "one true soulmate" out there for everyone? Is there only "one" person out of over 6 billion that would make each person happy? What if my "one" was born in Africa, I would never meet him!

I do not believe there is only "one" person out there for everyone. I believe that finding someone for a lifetime of compatibility is a very hard task, but not insurmountable! The thing is, it takes one person dying to know if it was a lifetime commitment..smiles. I would "settle" for many years of compatibility and love and respect over romantic notions of "the one", rather than go through this life without that person that makes me smile when I think of them, that calls me on his lunch hour, that can't wait to get home to me. If it ends, well I would rather have that today then never anything at all.. life is a risk!

< Message edited by juliaoceania -- 7/4/2006 10:22:58 AM >

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RE: When You Find that one that took so Looong... - 7/4/2006 10:46:38 AM   
LadyHugs


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Status: offline 		Dear MistyMenthal, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
Patience is always required when a person wants something so very much.  Mostly with ourselves.
 
As time passes, tastes change as well as needs and wants change.  Exposure to others also influences a re-evaluation on what will be our ideal match.  However, it has been my observation that those who have nothing in common but, attempt to change the other person--fails.  The creating by another is not authentic to the person who is the target of drastic change.  Compromises but, only gentle compromises can be seen as flexibility however, over doing the compromising just builds resentment later as it is forced beyond the ability to be flexible.
 
My own personal experiences, my tastes have changed from when I started and what standards I have today.  However, I look at the core and not the package, e.g. race, sex, description. I also know there is no such thing as a perfect dominant/submissive, so I look for the 80/20 ratio, where they fit 80% of what I seek in a slave.  Since, I do not seek for sexual gratification but of an energy gratification, perhaps my wiring draws to different slave types.  That said, I will also submit for consideration, that slaves must form a formula or recipe if you will of what ratio of perfection they can live with, in seeking a dominant.  Indeed there are rigid boundries, to which is a deal breaker or shuts off any further consideration.  But, truthfully, I look but I do not chase.  I prefer the slave to pursue and choose.
 
As I wait, I do not stop living or actively participate in the community at large.  I still mentor, I still give presentations, I still play with a wide variety of individuals on a BDSM or S&M level but, these individuals are not exclusively 'my property.'  I have owned slaves and they are a responsibility.  Perhaps the break does me well, as to replentish my energy and strength for the slave who yet has not approached.  I am who I am and must choose the best match for me and hope the slave who approaches does the same.
 
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
 

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RE: When You Find that one that took so Looong... - 7/4/2006 10:57:26 AM   
feastie


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Status: offline 		I settled once.  I won't do it again.  If that means I shall be alone for the whole of my life, so be it.



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RE: When You Find that one that took so Looong... - 7/4/2006 11:30:54 AM   
Caretakr


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quote:

ORIGINAL: feastie

I settled once.  I won't do it again.  If that means I shall be alone for the whole of my life, so be it.




Nodding.......having a good quality of life is exclusive of finding a partner-and one that degrades that quality is no asset.

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RE: When You Find that one that took so Looong... - 7/4/2006 3:20:51 PM   
WetHotGoddess


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Status: offline 		That took entirely too long!  LOL 
 
I think this is very nobel of you all.. looking for the perfect one, your chosen mate..
I hope you find turn out to be THEIR "one". I hope THEY do not have to settle.
 
Isn't this rather selfish?  You people think you are so fucking special that you cannot "settle"?  Maybe the perfect person you choose is settleing!  How will you know, if you overlook the "one"?  What if they are not on collar me or into BDSM?  Oh right.. you have a criteria you pick from.. a certain race, height, can't be a fat ass, etc?

I am honest enough to say I am selfish. 
 
Continue to block me.  Censorship is a wonderful option. 
 


quote:

ORIGINAL: Caretakr

The block feature really IS a wonderful thing.

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RE: When You Find that one that took so Looong... - 7/7/2006 10:12:35 AM   
Sub03


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ORIGINAL: Caretakr

The block feature really IS a wonderful thing.


isnt it though.....

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RE: When You Find that one that took so Looong... - 7/7/2006 12:56:59 PM   
Darkmike


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Status: offline 		Ahh the wait is driving me crazy.
I had a very nice puppyslave until recently but we didnt synch exactly.
I miss her but i wasnt fully happy with her.
Being a Kinky deviant has its ups and downs.

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RE: When You Find that one that took so Looong... - 7/7/2006 1:14:39 PM   
twicehappy


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quote:

ORIGINAL: WetHotGoddess

Aww c'mon people.. get real. 
Let's be realistic here and admit that there is no such thing as forever love within the human race.  


I feel sorry for your bitterness. I had a ONE for 18 perfect years. He rides the wind now and forever, i love him still. 

quote:

And all your waiting will be for a lie


After six years of searching i again have not only  ONE but TWO.

As to being fucked over for a piece of ass, did not happen before, if he found a piece he liked he had it. What did i care, that thing hanging between his legs was not a popsicle, it did not melt from use. He never lied to me which is all i asked.

And i doubt it will happen now either. My current owners have all they want, and if they want another all will asked their opinion including me and a decision will be made whether or not to bring he or she into the family


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RE: When You Find that one that took so Looong... - 7/7/2006 1:46:04 PM   
theRose4U


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ORIGINAL: sublizzie

I've never seen a Dom fall from the sky into someone's grocery cart before. Be fun if it actually happened though, wouldn't it???


I might be wrong but it seems odd that the Dom/me would be the one IN the cart in stead fo pushing it? Doesn't the whole idea kind of twist the dynamic?

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RE: When You Find that one that took so Looong... - 7/7/2006 1:59:42 PM   
michaelGA2


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Status: offline 		contrary to popular belief, i am one sub that is "not" looking for sexual submission. that's why i have not found my "One" because She does not exist.

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RE: When You Find that one that took so Looong... - 7/7/2006 4:41:14 PM   
sublizzie


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ORIGINAL: theRose4U

quote:

ORIGINAL: sublizzie

I've never seen a Dom fall from the sky into someone's grocery cart before. Be fun if it actually happened though, wouldn't it???


I might be wrong but it seems odd that the Dom/me would be the one IN the cart in stead fo pushing it? Doesn't the whole idea kind of twist the dynamic?


Depends on the Dom! Some may want to push the cart, others may enjoy the ride....

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RE: When You Find that one that took so Looong... - 7/7/2006 11:12:40 PM   
knees2you


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The seemed very Dominate!
 
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