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LadyPact -> RE: Who gets to decide? (10/12/2013 6:25:19 PM)
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ORIGINAL: SerWhiteTiger
It's amusing how many people in this lifestyle assume that everyone advertises. There are way more of us that you never see at public events, and those that you do see might be leather and just not mentioning it.
Sorry I'm not terribly prompt with following threads this weekend. I generally don't do much online if there are more than just MP and Myself at home.
I'm not really sure how to interpret the above, since there is more than one potential meaning. I think My best bet is to ask you to remember what I wrote in post #7. If you're a BDSM or D/s or M/s type and you're just doing your gig at home, I don't really understand what the community thinks of how you self categorize affects you or how it would come into your world, since you're not in the community to come up against the issue. (For what it's worth, when I say community, I'm talking about the face to face one and not the internet thing. I'm not even going to be discourteous and try to imply that you have so little confidence that people you've never met on a message board would have any impact.)
Now, this other part was interesting to Me because even those of us in the leather community tend to disagree on it. I have to chop it up a bit to make the point.
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It's amusing how many people in this lifestyle assume that everyone advertises.
.... never see at public events
..... might be leather and just not mentioning it.
This entirely depends on which thought process that you belong to. One is that, if a person considers themselves a part of the leather lifestyle, they don't *not* do public events. A part of a leather person's heart and soul *is* the community, Contributing to furthering education within that community, and supporting that community by their presence. A person who doesn't participate in the public community removes themselves from history and tradition, which are also central to a leather person's life.
Of course, the other school of thought on this is that some leather people do what we call "going underground." Those are leather people that secede from the community (often during changes to that community that are sometimes referred to as the "generations of leather') that they were once a part of, but doesn't really apply to folks who have never been a part of the leather community. Sometimes, during such upheavals, those same underground folks will form a community of their own, keeping their 'old' protocols where they felt the 'new' ones were detrimental, and splintering into small groups. The smaller groups are still a community, of sorts, but like most groups that oppose change, they are not always successful.
So, if the part that I chopped up above was some way to imply that you identify as leather, but you just "don't do" the community or don't advertise yourself as such..... Well, I'd like to meet you because, to date, I've never met a leather person who does neither of those things. It would be a unique experience for Me.
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